Welcome apprentice! The life of a hero awaits you! All that stands in your way is the dragon of PMO. You may have tried many times to slay him in the past, but here you’ll receive training to defeat him at long last!
The king has declared that all dragons throughout the land must be destroyed to save the kingdom from destruction. There will be a great reward for anyone who agrees to train and fight to become a hero.
Many apprentices like yourself have enlisted, looking to earn their weight in gold and be recognised across the country for their achievements as noble dragonslayers.
Equip your sword and shield, and prepare for battle!
NOTE: To join, you choose to commit fully to the rules of the game. If you have significant religious or philosophical differences with the challenge or feel that it’s just not for you, best of success to you and no hard feelings for not joining. There are other ways to become PMO-Free. I pray that you will achieve your goals.
Rules of the Challenge:
- Read all the details of the challenge and commit to its terms.
- Come up with 5 strong reasons why you want to quit - 5 ways that the addiction has negatively impacted your life.
- Come up with 5 strong reasons why you want to be free and clean - 5 ways your life will improve as a result of quitting that would not be possible otherwise.
- Use your 5 strong positive reasons to come up with a short but powerful vision statement of what your life will look like without PMO within the next 60-90 days.
- Regularly review your 10 reasons, a minimum of once a week.
- Your Sword: Use this tried and proven urge-overcoming method whenever you get an urge, taken from Brian Brandenburg’s book Power over Pornography: The Proven Solution to Overcoming Pornography Addiction:
- A. Acknowledge the urge immediately by saying to yourself: “I want to view and do.” (View and do is a more positive way of saying watch pornography and masturbate.)
- B. Accept the urge. “It’s normal. Everyone is tempted, it is our actions which count. I don’t need to feel ashamed or guilty for any temptation.”
- C. Acknowledge your freedom to choose. “I am free to choose. My choice is for this urge only. I am free to choose differently the next time.”
- D. Choose your vision, picturing it in your mind each time: “I choose my vision where I am happily engaged in the pursuit of my goals, I feel comfortable in my own skin, my confidence has skyrocketed, I’m full of love, peace and joy and I achieve success daily.” (Example)
- E. For best results, carry a physical piece of paper or card with you and write down the steps A-D, and read the paper/card aloud in your mind each time.
- For 21 days, practise the method at least 10 times daily, whether you have 10 different urges or not. After 21 days, practice at least 2 times a day. Simply start your practice with Step A and finish with Step D.
- Every time lustful thoughts come to your mind, use the urge method so your mind will think of something positive instead, and focus on your vision.
- Your Shield: Choose positive activities you will engage in whenever you’re feeling negative emotions like stress, anxiety, distress, discomfort, sadness, anger, boredom etc. Possible activities include: listening to good music, dancing, singing, taking some deep breaths, smiling, laughing, reading a good book, watching your favourite movie or a documentary, going for a walk, prayer or meditation, conversation with loved ones, journaling your thoughts etc. No matter what emotions you feel as a result of life’s struggles, pornography is not the answer. PMO is not an option. If you choose PMO for any reason, the dragon attacks you and you’ll have to restart the challenge.
- If you are struggling for any reason, come and share with the group. Don’t go through it alone. Everyone can relate in some way to what you’re going through, and doing so is very likely to save you from a relapse.
- If you see someone struggling, lift their spirits. Help them out, advise them, support them back up again so they can make their way through their troubles and continue their streak.
- Share! Share your progress, your thoughts and insights, your benefits, your struggles, your enthusiasm and praise at other people’s progress.
- You earn gold pieces for your actions in the challenge:
- 2 Gold Pieces for each urge overcome and each time you practice
- 5 Gold Pieces for checking in daily
- 10 Gold Pieces for each clean day
- 15 Gold Pieces for helping others
- 1000 Gold Pieces for 90 days free and clean!
- Choose to check-in daily with your report. Anyone who doesn’t check-in within 3 days will be attacked by the dragon, and have to restart without all of their gold.
- There’s nothing heroic about watching pornography. Regardless of your personal boundaries and your counter, even ‘just a peek’ will result in an attack from the dragon, and you’ll have to restart the challenge.
- I choose to believe in myself. I know that I deserve to be free, and I’m willing to do what it takes to make that happen. I will give it my very best. I’m here to add 90 days to my streak.
- I choose to follow the rules and trust the principles of the challenge, even if they seem unusual, to begin with.
- I choose to accept no excuses. I am stronger than every urge. No matter what comes my way or how I feel, I choose to continue being free and clean. No stress, anxiety, distress, boredom, anger, frustration, exhaustion, insomnia or illness will affect my streak.
- I choose to allow only positive thoughts to remain in my mind. I choose not to indulge any sexual thoughts, fantasies or pornographic memories.
- I choose to challenge each urge directly using the method described and choose my positive vision of a better life every time. I look forward to experiencing the power of transformative change.
- I choose to report here whenever I’m struggling and to help others if they need it.
- I choose to put in the work and check-in daily with my progress.
To join the Hero’s 90 Day Challenge, reply with the information below:
A sentence confirming you have read and agreed to commit to the rules of the challenge.
Share your 10 reasons and your vision. Sharing adds greater commitment and others will learn from your reasons and vision. If you’re not comfortable doing so, that’s fine, but confirm that you have created them and will use them to defeat every urge that comes.
From then, your basic daily check-in is simple:
- Day …
- One affirmation - I am a hero, I am a winner, I am successful etc.
- One thing you’re thankful for in your life - I’m thankful for my family, I’m thankful for my health, I’m thankful for good food…
- Report your progress for the day - Another clean day!
- Report the number of urges defeated/practices completed - I defeated 3 urges today and practised 7 times.
- Feel free to share more if you have the time - how you’re feeling, what you accomplished today, what threats you perceive and how you’re dealing with them etc.
Prepare for battle! Strength and honour!