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luluane

7d

Thank you very muuuuuch. The fight is not over I’m trying deperatly to control myself

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luluane

5d

I can’t stop thinking about it. All the videos that I lost and the ones that I don’t remember where I get them from. This is terrible I know that, I’m in a point where I forgot how much it fried my brain and All I want is to come.

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slave_of_allah

5d

You made a decision and deleted it.

Say Alhamdulillah.

If you keep thinking about it, then your brain will ask for it even more and you may tend to fall again.

So dont entertain those thoughts and focus on other things.

May Allah make it easy for you.
Ameen.

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luluane

4d

53 days and the struggle is real, I found a way to get back some of my videos using an app but I haven’t watched anything luckily but that made me realize how addicted I’am. I can’t stop thinking about it thinking about the end of ramadan and being able to download all the rest, it became an obsession at this point

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luluane

4d

I’ll have to keep my self busy like I did befire ramadan I was working in multiple paintings and I think art is the only thing that’s going to save me

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slave_of_allah

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4d

Sister

Read this dua all the time👇

Allahumma ighfirli wa tub alayya innaka anta tawwaab arraheem

O Allah forgive me and accept my repentance، indeed you are the most merciful and the aceeptor of repentance

The above is not the exact meaning… I am not good at Arabic

May Allah get you out of the shackles of pmo and make you free from the slavery of pmo.

As long as you keep putting efforts and be mindful, you will be going…

Stop thinking that you not be able to live with yourself if you don’t have those videos with you, you will always be you. Think this way instead, if you have those videos with you, then shaytan will truck into thinking that you are still an addict, you are free sister, that’s right, you are free of pmo, change your mindset, stop thinking that it is the end of the world, when you don’t those videos with you.

You said yourself that you love painting right, keep doing and explore new methods in that, I don’t have much knowledge about painting, you do.

Also The last 10days of Ramadan are approaching, so do dua with desperation, indeed Allah loves when his servant repents and begs for his forgiveness.

Don’t stop your worship and repentance till Ramadan, keep holding on to that rope of success ahead till your last breath.

Every son of Adam is a sinner, but the best of sinners are those who repent

No matter what sin you commit, or what situation you are in, make sure you never miss a single obligatory prayer, for indeed salah(prayer) is the key to success

luluane

3d

I think it’s too late I relapsed (what really happened is that I had a bad urge and I went to download a couple of videos, and just by the preview I became so aroused that I came without touching myself) and after going to sleep I had a few bad signs in my dreams, and I dreamed that I shaved my head. Like I told you I’m not super religious but that doesn’t mean that I don’t fear the wrath of god at all. Anyway some part of me knew that 2 months was impossible to do, I remember just before ramadan I told to myself this is silly I have to watch just a little bit just to avoid any mistake during ramadan, like I knew I couldn’t make it.

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slave_of_allah

3d

I am sorry sister, but take the good from this, and move forward.

You went for more than 50days clean, be proud of yourself, mistakes happen and you mustn’t stay behind looking on that mistake, rather turn around pick yourself up and move forward.

You know how unpredictable this relapses happen, it’s the same with me, so we must always be on high alert, I know it’s easy to say and difficult to implement, while I am telling you this, there is no guarantee that I will not relapse but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t put the effort to the best of my limits.

Learn from a relapse so that the next time you relapse, it shouldn’t be with the same mistake.

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slave_of_allah

3d

You are human, and you will one day feel the existence of Allah one way or the other, he is our creator after all, it is only fair if we worshipped him as it is our sole purpose of being created, it has nothing to do with being super religious.

Only Allah knows who is the best among us.

Allah says,
[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving -

This addiction is nothing more than a test, and we MUST CLEAR THIS TEST AND WE WILL.

luluane

3d

At least I was able to make it to 54 days which is insane. I think that I should never have deleted that file because now that I found a way to getting it back I stopped obsessing over it, ramdan is seriously draining all my energy, at first it was cool but I’m not able to do anything, I can’t read I can’t paint or draw during the day so I had plenty of hour to think about other stuff, like porn that’s why I had soooo many flashbacks. It really bothers me the fact that I have soooo much trouble being productive and this is exactly what helped me before to stop masturbating for 35 days straight, which again something that have I never being able to. I draw and paint on the kitchen table because there no light in my room and no space, and during ramadan I just can’t because the table is always filed with something

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slave_of_allah

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1d

Don’t think like that, you know when you don’t have those videos, then it will be some other reason.

You know I had installed a blocker, since I have fast internet, so whenever I have to bypass the blocker I have to type, “I don’t have self control”, but I would swallow my pride and type that shit and disable the blocker, there were some other blockers but there too I managed to find a way to uninstall and trick the apps features watch p*. WHO ARE WE FOOLING? WE ARE KEEPING THE THING THAT DESTROYS US, AND ARE ENSLAVED TO THAT VERY THING
DESPITE KNOWING THAT ALL WE HAVE TO DO IS REMOVE IT FROM OURSELVES AND IT CAN’T DO ANYTHING TO US.

FIRST YOU NEED TO STOP THINKING THAT IF YOU DON’T HAVE THOSE VIDEOS, THEN YOUR LIFE WILL BE HORRIBLE

Anyways these types of mindsets arent gonna stop us from doing pmo.

We must think that we can control ourselves, even though it is difficult at first and many relapses may happen but still you shouldn’t change that mindset.

You know this Ramadan I thought I will be free since we have to fast, but I found myself relapsing after the maghtib time, it was just the belief mlin my mind that told me that try to abstain only during day time.

That false belief allowed me to have my fast valid and relapse at evening.

I seriously couldn’t figure out the cause and I am still strying to get my head wrapped around it.

But many of them here helped in changing my perspective and the misunderstanding that it is not just during day time that I should abstain from this but the whole month.

YOU NEED TO TAKE IT SLOW AND EASY, STEP BY STEP.

THIS ADDICTION IS A PUZZLE, YOU JUST NEED TO PUT THE NUMBERS IN THE RIGHT ORDER AND YOU ARE FREE

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slave_of_allah

1d

Don’t worry these situations will be coming and going but don’t loose hope, keep fighting.

May Allah help you in succeeding through the efforts that you put.
Always believe in Allah.

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NhTbH

1d

@luluane No you can of course you can , still engage and try to focus for your relapse not saying you can’t because you reached 54 days girl …
You did … no one do it to you like a favor …noooo it’s absolutly you did by focus on sometimes (painting and your decions of deleting videos ) and sometimes our weakness learn something we can’t known if we won’t lose … but please please stop feel down start paint something about your feeling what ever what it is … but I hope something give you hope make you move up .
Don’t stop expressing and sharing here please .

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NhTbH

1d

Exactly @luluane you will be the fantastic one and unbelievable … I will be so glade to be beside each other always …
My sharing code if don’t mind : lmbhdu

Always remember that the most difficult moments are born to the birth of a life that we are deserve

luluane

3h

3rd day. I swear the days last forever when you relapse, I want my super high streak again it’s soooo annoying. Also I’am officially tired of ramadan and the covid, wish they could desapear, so I could be more productive and not be afraid to go outside

willyg

2h

Here is what Im doing,

The source of this method is from jordan Peterson ( clinical psychologist/psychiatrist)

Write two stories

  1. describing the scenario of how you what your life to be like in a particular timeframe ( after you have quit pmo for ever )
  2. Now describe how your life will be if you keep continuing down this path of pmo

It helps if you write them down but make sure it secure with you
Read the stories when ever urgers get too strong

Always remember, the goal is not to quit anything or run from anything. The goal is to make your life better and for that to improve we find the underlying causes of our addictions/problems and figure where in your life you can have small improvements and what needs to be reduced.

Once you know where you need to improve you can start taking baby steps by setting small achievable goals.

One technique to deal with urges and to speed up recovery is to shut down any stimulating images/thoughts/flashbacks/fantasy before you let them manifest completely
I just don’t let them hang around and immediately bombard my self with something like a song Or a video or some work or anything to do even if it’s boring. (Frustation/depression everything will try to stop you)

Convince your self to do boring shit and try to take little joy after competition of any task.

I spend most of my free time educating my self about the human psychology by listening to lectures from various professors/educators ( at least make some good used of technology).

It particular helps learning about the brain since most of the problems are up there and you can see your self as third perspective observer instead of just looking down upon your slef as if you are stuck.

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luluane

32m

I mean I get that I don’t know if you read everything that I wrote but the thing that helped me the most is art and spending hours doing that (I don’t have a job currently) right now I can’t do during the day (because of ramadan) so I have quit a lot of spare time, spare time where I used to have many too many flashbacks so I’m going to resist until I can get back to my normal life

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willyg

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7m

I understand that doing the things you love to spend time on is difficult.
That is why I said we need to do task which are boring or might not result in immediate reward.

Your brain produces dopamine when it want’s you to repeat certain actions like ( eating food, get high/drunk, sex, etc)

And once u are done with the action your brain release chemicals like serotonin , oxytocin , vasopressin.

These are the chemicals which actually give the feeling of pleasure.

That means every time u have an urger, your brain is releasing dopamine(getting u exited for things that might lead in releasing of serotonin , oxytocin , vasopressin)

Here is the trick,

We need to train the brain from releasing excessive dopamine by flashing images from memory and balance the chemicals by re learning that fapping isn’t real success…

Truth is that real success takes time and offten the things you need to do to get there are mostly boring and don’t release dopamine.

But by doing these tasks you are actually forcing your brain to re learn the meaning of success and don’t fall of the trap of fap.

Please if you are confused I insist everyone please watch this video. This is what openned my eyes to the Vulnerable brain

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