I don’t know whether somebody will read this or not.
I have been addicted since 2007. It’s been 17 years of Addiction and Trying to fight off this addiction for 6 years now. Nothing seems to work now. I fap almost twice a day now from being on Nofap streak of 67 days once and 30 days. Now even 2 days of Nofap is not possible.
As I turn 32, All hope is lost now. I give up. No relationships, no friendships, no professional success, no life success, a Failed travel vlogger (Fapping destroyed my vlogging career). No Money and now I don’t have any hope left.
And yes, I get disrespected everywhere I go. It just become the norm now, people disrespecting me. (When you are a fapping addict, you get disrespected everywhere).
Barely hanging on in my job. Every night I feel, why do I even exist. Death seems like the best option. Everyday somehow I just want a vehicle to run me over or I get killed somehow, that will end this miserable life. The only thing that’s stopping me are my parents and I think what will they go through when they hear that I am no more.
Life is unpredictable and it can change for the better in ways u can’t imagin. There is always a better path forwarr even if it seems impossible to see right now. You aren’t alone and its incredibly difficult to carry such heavy emotions, but this pain doesn’t have to define your entire life.
If you really want to achieve something, just keep working hard and believe in yourself. But never think about ending your life because you are a warrior, and warriors never give up to escape from problems. Instead, they face them head-on with courage.
And again you aren’t alone …
You are seeing constant failing but tbh you are constantly trying to rise everytime. Don’t only focus on nofap, try to improve everyday by improving your body and mind by doing exercise , meditation and reading books !
2025 is coming, I want you to do these things regularly. Trust me you will see a completely different person after few months.
I think you have enough motivation to kick this habit sir, are you ready to be an inspiration for everyone?
And you are not alone we all are here for you! We all trust you .
Trust me challenges are helpful if you are gonna take them seriously!
Read the easy peasy book and atomic habits. You can do this ! And 48 laws of power , it’s a lengthy one start with easy peasy and atomic habits then try to finish 48 laws of power.
Bro please hear me out.
This is going to be a lengthy message.
But please read everything.
First suicide is not a solution for anything in the word. You dying by suicide would again imply that multi billion dollar ■■■■ Industry won and Humanity lost ( which is exactly the motto of ■■■■ Mafia). Do you want to aid Humanity or not?
You still have a life expectancy of more than 40 years. I wish you live longer. But the point is do you want to waste 40 years of precious life?
Seriously bro? Imagine your mother would hve carried you in her womb for 10 months. The pain of pregnancy is so huge and yet your mother endured the pain only and only for you.
Are you going to do disservice to her pain? Then go ahead. No one can stop you.
But my humble request is please look around the World. There is so much negativity in this world I agree. We sometimes feel like giving up. But there is also so much positivity in this world
People born with benchmark disabilities work so hard and achieve their success and be a role model for others
People born with diseases go through a lot and never give up . They focus, work hard and achieve in life.
If they can do it, what stops us from getting inspired from them.
I agree the shame, guilt and stress from fapping can be Overwhelming. But suicide isn’t an option
And you are not the only one in this issue.
We all are stuck in PMO
Many people older than you are stuck in PMO too.
PMO is bad and we need to overcome it. No doubt. But PMO doesn’t not reflect anything about our personality. If you are PMO addict, it does not necessarily mean you are a bad person
An addiction is an addiction is an addiction is an addiction. It doesn’t reflect anything about us.
Some People without any addictions have committed more serious and heinous crimes, mistakes and sins. So please understand
You need help thats all
You don’t need judgments of others
You need support
You don’t need condescension of others
And you are in the right place. Here, we are there for you to provide support and help without any judgement or condescension. Because we all are in the same page as you
This the forum the best place isn’t it??
So be grateful.
Thank the world.
Thank your parents for bringing you
And honestly having a poor career cannot demean a person 's confidence but having self doubts does.
Did you see Bill Gates meeting that Tea Vendor in Maharashtra? That Tea Vendor became extremely popular after that. So tellme is his career god or bad? Neither.
His confidence is good or bad? The best !!
Anything you do with self confidence becomes victory my friend
And my sincere apologies is my message you feel uncomfortable. You are my elder. And i am several years younger than you. So I am no match for your life experience, expertise and wisdom.
But you are like my elder brother.
Take it in the positive sense.
Forgive me if i unintentionally hurt you anywhere
And god bless you
Take care
Your name seems like you are a Bengali. @Soumitra55 your mother tongue is Bengali??
Can I advise you in Bengali Language?
Come to my DM and I’ll speak
Psychologically, our message gets more amplified in our brain if we speak in our mother tongues rather than a foreign language
Brother Soumitra, you are in the wrong frame of mind right now, its not you who is talking and thinking, its your failure. Answer a few of my questions with 100% guarantee:
Will it get better if you give up?
Will people start to respect you if you leave in this state?
Will you find a companion or a friend if you quit now?
Is facing a disappointment after several days and attempts at gaining your life, a good enough reason to throw it away?
And my last question:
Isn’t it possible to try until you succeed?
The thing is you are focusing too much on something very trivial because you have tied it to all the form of release and happiness in your life. But before you take any extreme step, wouldn’t it be better to try harder than ever, do everything that you have never done? Since you were planning on quitting already, you must be thinking you have nothing to lose. If that’s the case then look at the bright side of it, you have everything to gain, from success to a companion to friends. I see that many people have already replied and suggested whatever they could, doesn’t it make you realize that there are still people who care for you and have hope in you. 32 years is not the end of life, you still have atleast good 30-40 yers of life in which you can be a completely different person, a role model to kids around you. Just to remind you Siddharth Gautam left home at the age of 30, and still it took him over 6 (age 36-37) years to succeed. Vardhaman Mahaveera left at 29 and it took him more than 12 years (age 41-42) to do what he wanted. Before that, both of them, especially Siddhartha, was an idiot in the eyes of everyone who did not even know about diseases, old age, ascetism and death. And once they succeeded, we all know what they did for the world. So do not let yourself down.
You are still young and have enough time to change it all around. Try again and again and again, until you succeed. But always try like if its the last time, as if your life depends on it, because it does.
We are all going to die, believe it or not. So, ending it before making your life better is futile and stupidity beyond measure. I don’t know if there’s an afterlife or reincarnation, but from whatever philosophies I have read, I have always learnt that giving up only makes it worse.
I don’t know whether somebody will read this or not.
And yes, I get disrespected everywhere I go. It just become the norm now, people disrespecting me. (When you are a fapping addict, you get disrespected everywhere).
would again imply that multi billion dollar ■■■■ Industry won and Humanity lost ( which is exactly the motto of ■■■■ Mafia). Do you want to aid Humanity or not?
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