I posted this in another thread in a reply of someone’s streak dairy and thought that this could be useful for others.
I will be blant here. Have gone through many dairies and people journey.
There is a common thing in most of your progress of eliminating PMO.
You guys are doing couple of things wrong.
You are fighting with willpower. No matter how great your willpower is, one day it will sap and you will relapse.
Many of your thought process is like this:
I won’t watch porn or masturbate anymore!
I am strong.
I can do this.
I will conquer the world!
But As soon as dopamine starts leaving you when you stop PMO, your fear comes out:
“this is so hard”, you say.
I will struggle and keep going.
I will not let this addiction win etc.
Then as some days go, or any stress or difficulty comes in your life, you go into self falsehood of:
I need dopamine.
Just a peek.
I won’t masturbate.
Just a peek will mean nothing.
This is not the right time to stop faping.
I need this to handle stress etc…
The above thought process is sub consciously.
You are doing it all wrong.
Then after you relapse, you feel guilty.
You get into depression.
And then again you relapse after some days. And the cycle go on.
You are fighting the battle incorrectly buddy.
Let’s face it. What is PMO? It’s an addiction. A filthy, disgusting poison which will slowly kill you. And we know that.
But we still relapse and do it.
Why?
Brainwashing. Yup. They are brainwashing us. Even those who have a streak of like 200days, even they relapse.
Why?
Because there is still a small brainwashing remains in their mind and as soon as something wrong happen in their life or trigger happen, they take a peek, they relapse.
They lose.
So, fight the right battle with right mindset and tools.
I won’t give you advise. I want everyone of you to see what’s wrong and why you are relapsing so many times every time you start.
Most of forum members go and start the battle with this addiction without any preparation.
What sort of battle you fight without any tools and weapons and strategies?
You are fighting the battle naked.
Buddy, where is your blocker? You need 3-4 blockers.
Where is your accoutable partner?
Have you written down WHY you are leaving PMO and what all the benefits you will get if you eliminate the addiction? Written on a paper and reading it daily to reaffirm your beliefs?
No? You will lose again then.
Let me put it bluntly. Don’t Kid yourself and others. You are not fighting. You are doing time pass.
I don’t feel bad saying things bluntly. You need to understand the facts. Don’t just go and say “this time I will not relapse”. Oh common dude.
You are not on a challenge where you do it for 30 days and expect a reward. You want to leave it for good. Forever’.
This is addiction. A drug. Poison. You will stop on the first day because you don’t eat poison.
As soon as you close that last porn tab, you will feel relaxed on first day.
You feel joyful and awesome because you are free from prison.
You dance that you are have leaved this filth for good.
But what you are doing? You are saying yourself: One last time. Just one peek. I am in stress I want it. Blah blah blah…
Will you get the girl who rejected you if you PMO? No it will become worse. She will reject.
Will you get job if you PMO? Nope.
Will your stress go away if you PMO? No, it increases.
Will that void and emptiness go away if you PMO? No dude. That PMO is the reason of that emptiness.
Escape from porn is easy.
Don’t make it so hard.
Rid of the brainwashing and you will feel joyful from day 2.
Feel bad about my words. But not about yourself.
Do it the right way.
Go and read “Easypeasy way hackbook” book. Available free online.
Let me know if you have any questions. I will try to help.
Sayonara.
