Brother @TheRewireUser maybe you should reflect on why you are relapsing and what you are going to do about it.
When do you relapse? Is it when you are HALTS(Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Sad) ?
If so, when facing these emotions halt immediately and think before acting.
Read up on the effects of Fap and NoFap.
What device are you relapsing on? Add blockers and uninstall unnecessary apps.
@TheRewireUser
About the relapse. I have got something to say. I did relapse yesterday after a 10 day streak. There was no huge craving that I needed to relapse but a bit of blue balls. Also, I thought, I have been off pmo for 10 days … So maybe an one time relapse wont hurt much. Honest mistake. I did not particularly feel bad about it but eventually the feeling of despair started sweeping in. The mistakes are:
Assuming that being sober of a fine number of days kinda gives you some sort of a license to relapse.
Not having completely put your faith in the outcome and process.
Allowing the chaser attitude to sweep in that is to allow yourself to relapse more often once you have done it after a while.
See, same stuff of faith and relative distraction applies to our other schedules. Whatever we do in one aspect of our life, reflects in other aspects. Being lazy and unmotivated and undisciplined will show off in every thing we do. So this no fap thing should be a ground to fix that one habit that will trigger such benefits in other aspects too.
Cheers. (There is no point feeling upset and unmotivated. You might fail a 100 times but if you really wanna fix this, you gotta do it 101th time. Someday you will conquer it)
0/10 , @Nuwanda and @debellator it’s usually at night on phone . The rest of the day goes really good and because of this sleep schedule changes drastically.
From past Monday till today, went to gym 4 times hopefully will go tomorrow
Not going, well due to other work pressure.
Overall I would rate this current week’s progress as 7/10.
@debellator brother as I’m going to practice Digital Detox, starting from 12AM IST 6th Sep( in less than 2hrs) I’m posting my week results now itself and I won’t be available next week, so posting my goals for next week (Sep 6th - Sep 12th) now itself
Rating :- 04/10
I lost patience many times… i got angry on family members too…
Rating :- 09/10
Missed one day of milk
Rating :- 07/10
Could achieve this only 2 days
Overall self satisfaction :- 07/10
I was not that much productive…
I wasted some time on youtube in these 4 days…
Also i am getting strong urges for last 2 days for the first time in this streak…
Mostly managed except when I had valid reasons. 6/10
Same as above because sleep and wake up time are interdependent.
This was not good.
I did not practice for some days as I had to do a collab for YouTube
But other days I did not practice due to lack of discipline.
4./10
Overall: 5/10
I need to make improvements. Not excuses. My brothers like @strongwillpower , @Mahesh27_03 and @EvilMorty have made great decisions and are standing by them. So I must do the same.
Next week’s goals:
Create a schedule and follow it
Exercise for at least 4 days of the week
Message some of my friends and catch up. I waste time doing solo things and then don’t want to spend time with friends. It should be the opposite way.
Stop reading fanfiction.
Ok guys I have a confession to make. This above cause(fanfiction) is the secret reason behind my lack of productivity of late. I kept pushing it under the rug, but it’s true. It is very dangerous to my productivity and life and now I admit it and vow to stop it. I pray that God will help me and that with your encouragement I will beat this problem. I need to act now.
Act now and work hard so that I can relax later. I need to cut down even small distractions like this for at least this year.
This was very hard. Every day I get more urges for this than PMO. Unfortunately I gave in in Thursday,Friday, Saturday. All other days of the week I resisted. Even now I am getting urges. I just have to treat it like PMO and ride the urges.
Overall 9/10
This week was a week of improvement. I went back to regularly exercising and stopped fanfiction, which are very great goals for me.
Next weeks goals
Continue my abstinence from fanfiction
Meditate 5 minutes daily
Write in my reflection journal daily
Wake up by 4:30/5 (did it today)
Write one article. I used to write articles for a big site, but now I’m getting writer’s block and I need to overcome it by writing.