Personally I think that person changes when he experiences enough of suffering and he realized how harmful this addiction really is to him. If we don’t realize it in time this is like a game. Oo just relapsed after few days. Oo again (I’m writing about myself now)… You can read over 200 pages in my “diary” about my playing with me and you all… I May sound harsh but the harshness showing the truth and the truth us necessary to change someones life to the better 
make true decision bro and start new streak when you will be ready. True decision, true streak! @StevenSuccessJourney
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The only way out is determination. I Have lacked determination in the past, that is why I’ve relapsed so many times. We have to decide that we are done causing ourselves more pain. Resetting the counter is such a useless activity, all your progress thrown away.
This was disappointing to read man, especially after you proved that urges were no match for you yesterday. You chose to do this to yourself. Whatever emotional pain you’re going through, solve it so that you don’t keep sabotaging yourself. You don’t want to become a veteran relapser like me. You’re young and full of life Stefano, you can have many years of freedom on your counter by the time you’re my age.
Please, take this seriously and transform your life. This diary is supposed to be a SUCCESS story.
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It is painful also to read your comment, @FlowForCourage.
I know you are going to be back! Keep doing 
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Yeah he is correct determination and strong decision…once you reach a long streak…you can adjust your brain…and teach brain that yeah the society is like this everythinh is related to p*** and s** so that you can balance the urges…that its normal…so that we will get more control @StevenSuccessJourney
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Thanks to all of you guys. Your role is fundamental.
Your words are encouraging, at the same time they make me suffer. And this is good.
It is the right time to ask myself: why do I want to leave the addiction behind? What’s the true reason? I need time to reflect on this, but I must do it quickly, before the pain and the sense of guilt disappear, otherwise I won’t feel the need to make a long, lasting change.
This is the path to follow. Starting a new streak only when I’m determined to succeed, instead of constantly resetting the counter and starting again, breaking promise after promise.
I need more clarity now… I will take time to reflect.
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This is what I understood so far through reflection: I won’t set any nofap goal this time. No ‘30 days challenge’ nor ‘try to complete November in a clean way’. I don’t have the determination to quit completely, I wouldn’t keep my word. Thus, I will let things flow. Let’s see what happens this time. By focusing on life, I’ll do my best to forget about lusting desires. Just let things flow…
Is it a lack of commitment?
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@StevenSuccessJourney Bro, if you don’t want to quit is completely… What is the reason of doing 30,60,90 day challenge when after that period of time you will be binging again and dig even deeper in the porn addiction? Decide whether you want it in your whole life or not? You have all the knowledge from all users, you know kind of “pleasure” it gives, you know how harms it gives in long time using. Does porn has to be replacement of sex in your life? Kind of substitute… Do you really want that life? Answer yourself and decide.
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Yes, now I admit it was a lack of commitment. I can see it more clearly. Below I will explain the reason 
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After I read the last message, right above here, from @udaCisie, through my email, I realised one thing: I was letting the sense of guilt disappear, I was letting this opportunity pass by without changing mindset. This was around one hour ago.
You see, these days are extremely busy: I do activities which take up almost all my time, so I had just five minutes to reflect today. Even the folloeing days will be extremely busy. The conclusion of my too-quick reflection was absolutely disappointing: I would just relax, forget about my last relapse, try to spend some days without thinking about Nofap, and see if something changed this time.
However, after reading the last post from @udaCisie, I couldn’t help asking myself: why, why do I want to stop this disgusting habit? What is the TRUE reason? What does motivate me to do that? Why? Why? WHY??? 30 minutes passed by while I was washing myself, with my mind trying to figure out the answer. I was mentally in pain. Once again. And that is good.
Eventually, I found some things which are similar to answers. They are not well-defined, they are still “foggy” reasons; still, when my intuition found each one of them, I could feel a sense of purpose. For the first time after some years (probably from the moment I started to do Nofap), I knew why I would fight the following urges. Not through the willpower and because it is something “cool”, but because of true benefits that I want to experience, not benefits that I should want because they are somewhat imposed by other companions.
Here are my personal reasons to fight. They are still blurried conclusions, so I will keep asking myself the same question also in the following days, until the sense of purpose becomes very clear.
- I lack time. I need more time to dedicate to bodybuilding, to reading, and to delve deep into coding. Nofap seems to make me more productive in the long term, despite fighting against the urges can take up a lot of time and willpower in the first months. I still need to understand clearly what’s the relationship between making time and being on Nofap
- controlling my impulses is part of the process of becoming a mature person: I cannot get angry when things slip out of my control, when I’m not able to complete all my daily tasks, when my performance isn’t up to my goals and expectations. I cannot blame external circumstances. It all stems from my behaviour and decisions. If I want to become “super successful”, an overachiever, somebody who is able to become a true master in his field and to make a big impact on the world, I first need to control my impulses. Bottom line: controlling the urges and handling stress is the fundamental skill necessary to thrive and become who I want to be. Period. Otherwise, I will always be mediocre.
- Nofap is part of a healthy lifestyle. A life in which I get enough sleep each night, in which there are no tics linked to inability to manage stress, and no anger, nor postural problems. Leaving the addiction behind will make me more careful about all these problems and help me solve them faster.
In conclusion, now I have more clarity. The sense of purpose is awakening. The true reasons are slowly emerging. I would like to thank @udaCisie, @FlowForCourage and @Forerunner. You are helping me to harness the pain and come up with a solution. I’m grateful you didn’t abandon me despite my stupidity. 
The sufference is definitely worth the rewards. Tomorrow I’m going write down other personal reasons for doing Nofap, after other thinking and pondering.
I’ll come back with a new level of consciousness, thanks to your support. We’ll make it.
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Heck! This post is extremely long! Sorry 
@StevenSuccessJourney we will see whether your reasons will be enough strong to be superior than the coming urges in the next few days and weeks 
I hope they will be enough, but this is your life and you will decide I will be willingly watching your performance in the next coming days and weeks
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Don’t worry about the length of the previous post. Better when you write everything not just shorten everything. Keep going bro! This time will be better if you will be want
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Now, you’re back! See you at the top!
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I think the reasons are not stront enough yet… I will dig even deeper in the following days, to come up with something more powerful.
These reasons resonate only 50% with me. There’s still more work to do. I’ll try to harness the pain.
Thank you for being here brothers 
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Your reasons can be also positive. There is no matter how they are. Either you want to get rid if something bad from your life what eventually makes yours life better or you want to just experience something positive in your life by quiting it.
Your reasons have to be strong enough to be superior than coming urges
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The truth is, the only reason that we need is this has destroyed our lives. It ruins our confidence, our physical, mental, spiritual and sexual health, it robs us of joy and peace, it causes stress, depression and anxiety, and we gain absolutely nothing from doing it.
You’re asking the wrong question. Don’t ask yourself “Why should I quit PMO?”, but ask yourself, “Why ON EARTH would I want to keep doing this horrible thing?” The answer will always be QUIT NOW, QUIT TODAY, NEVER LOOK BACK. It’s an utterly useless activity that only leaves destruction behind it.
You want to be successful in life, you want to be happy, accomplish great things, experience freedom. Doing PMO is like trying to run a marathon while carrying a washing machine. How can we ever expect to get anywhere with something that holds us back this much?
Drop it today brother and don’t look back. It has never produced any good in your life, and look back on everything it has taken from you. Let’s be done for good with this sin.
Read the EasyPeasyWay book and you’ll understand that what I’m saying is true.
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Well, I’ve just watched @Forerunner’s last video in his diary. I got the idea, but there is more to put into action. So I will read Easypeasy Way book very soon.
So the true question is: what needs to be fixed in my life, which is causing pain? What don’t I like about myself? Once the sources of the pain will be removed, then it will be much easier to deal with the urges.
Here’s a list:
- coding and reading: I’m burning inside to become an expert in the tech field and to read tons of books: I cannot wait!
- the way I dress: more elegant clothes are required
- bodybuilding: finding ways to create faster muscle hypertrophy
- social skills: be more confident and easygoing, speaking more to my family
- maths and physics: getting damn good at them (I guess I’ll have to wait for university)
- fixing some minor issues: going to bed a little bit earlier, improving my posture, cleaning up the habits list (it is really messy right now), getting rid of tics linked to stress
Wooow… 
it already makes more sense… there’s so much to get done… why on earth should I focus on porn instead of fixing these issues?!
I’m eager to get to work.
My perspective is changing. 
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Guys please if anyone knows a browser that is 100% free of adult content and where i can limit the websites that i can use, please send me a message. Also please share it with the community.
i decided to let go all my social media and youtube and everything and to have only one goal for the next months which is nofap.
Thank you in advance.
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I don’t know any browser so powerful, however in my experience BlockerX works very well: it is a filter which blocks I think around 90% of triggering contents you may find.
Hope this helps
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