God be like:
This man is too kind and has so much potential. I don’t want this addiction to affect him.
Here, a small help from me. You will only realize it once you recover.
I love you, keep getting stronger, and keep on becoming the man you are destined to be.
yeah. For me the pain was more mental because I wasn’t able to support my team in the most important match. But we won. So that’s good.
yeah 
thanks man for the kind words
will try to maybe start it earlier if I can get the mental space. Rest of this week I have exams so will be busy
Idk what to say. But take care man
Yeah 
All the best for your exams and take care bhai !
Even though u will not able to do physical activity but still you can do mental activities like meditation,self enquiry, etc
Btw take care and don’t put pressure on that shoulders.
every man is allotted different sufferings that they must face in life. For me it is this. It is difficult to find the additional motivation to study when even basic things like changing clothes and brushing my teeth have suddenly become harder, but I cannot give any excuses now.
Suffering builds character. Character gives perseverance. Perseverance brings glory.
God is more concerned about my character and molding and forging it than anything else. No matter what happens I know I will come out gold.
Probably will meet a doctor on Friday for follow-up, will update after that.
Completed the first exam today and managed to write it on my own without requiring a scribe to write for me though many people suggested it. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
This is something I too relate man. Either I give my everything or I dont give at all. Idk its more associated with the injury u had recently but for me its a lack of purpose , dont find any need to fight.
The scariest part is that I am repeating the same mistakes I am doing in my past.
Everything will be fine. I will be praying for you !!
How was the exam ?
appreciate the kind words brother
not bad. Obv wasn’t able to write as fast or as much as I could normally, but I wrote adequate and completed answering everything on time. Rest is in God’s hands.
Wish you a speedy recovery @debellator
God bless 
Remember what your name stands for, brother. You are a conqueror. A hero. I know you will come back even stronger from this injury. 
God is always with you.
Man, I’m so sorry to hear about your shoulder! 
I’ll try my best to keep you in my prayers. 
Ah fck not again, it was left shoulder last time right?
Take care dude.
Its my 231 attempt any one can help me please 
No worries brother , keep doing your work and be productive create your diary and journal there we will help you whenever we can. And welcome to the community, all the very best for your journey ahead .
yeah last time was left
will do. Hopefully will be able to recover faster this time.
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CS : 2 days
My mental state was not the best the past few days. Especially with added academic responsibilities but the inability to do my regular training and gym routine messed with my mind. I was relapsing again and again every 2-3 days. It sucked and messed me up a lot mentally, especially because I was on such a rise since just before that.
If you’ve been here long enough you’ll recall that I keep mentioning this. Just when I’m getting things on track, shit happens. Like last time with the emergency surgery I had. And before that with my shoulder dislocation (other hand) and after that other stuff happened. But yeah, I understand that whenever you make big progress there will always be resistance. Life is just a series of getting up after you fall.
But the more I keep getting back up, the more resilient I will become.
The more resilient I am, the more I will be able to achieve.
But with this achievement will come the humble realization that nothing can be done by my strength alone; the intangibles are not mine to control. Only God’s.
Humility+resilience
This combination is unstoppable.
I’m in a lot better mental state now. Getting back.
No interested in relapse or wasting my time.
YouTube the only thing that interests me is motivation or NBA games. Other than that I find it boring and want to go out and meet people.
Something I’m happy about is that now I periodically get urges to go out and socialize rather than just stay in my room. Never had that before.
If you’re curious about how I developed that, it’s simple- forced myself to do one single uncomfortable thing (socially speaking) everyday. Go out with friends rather than decline, even if it messed with my plan for the day. Cold approach people. Stay out rather than just come back to the room as soon as classes and stuff is done.
Digital detox helps with this immensely. Because if there’s nothing to do when alone, you’ll get bored of being alone and rather work or be around people.
I’ve not been able to make good progress in these aspects:
I’ve been quite busy these days. Actually, had a music performance (our band had one) last night. It went well by God’s grace and we drew quite a crowd. For the performance I removed by brace so I could play the keys properly. Happy how it went.
Have some days leave now, so going to head home for a bit. May not update till around next week mid, which is when I go for follow-up to the doctor to see if I can remove my brace- which I’m waiting for. So that I can restart exercise, though not gym. I’ll be doing sprint training, plyometrics and stability and mobility routines. Along with physiotherapy for my shoulder. Let’s see.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
I consider you as one of the mentally strong men in this forum. I always you as a role model . What I am saying is rn is just my opinion okay ?
So true man. Gym is not just about muscle , looks etc. Your entire body language changes when u are consistent at Gym.
Considering your situation rn , All I can say is , How about having a walk for 1 hr inside . Ik it can’t replace the Gym , but till you get ur shoulders fixed , its better option imo.
Walking might not be as effective as cardio u do at gym but its as effective when you look at how it improves your mood.
Ideally I would suggest u to go for a run. But idk moving your hands while running might impact ur shoulders
I think its these situations that makes u relapse more often.
From my experience wrt No fap. I came to realise that No fap is not just about willpower. Its something beyond that. Like how you perceive yourself , perceive others , your mindset etc.
Just saying because I see u relapsing frequently. I may be wrong. Despite having 100 + days , I don’t have any solid advice I can give you. Because everyone is different and everyone perceive the world differently.
Give some time to reflect on yourself. Like what are the patterns you follow when things are falling apart .
When ur truly happy , You won’t fall into these.
I always say to myself. PMO , video games , junk food are not problems. They are symptoms of the main problem. The main problem is something that u must find within yourself.
But I can tell you one thing , don’t be afraid of having delusional thoughts if that helps you in a long run. Almost every successful people are contrarians or have some kind of delusional mindset in their mind.
Its just that they don’t reveal much because they are afraid that might create a wrong image from people.
I’ve been there. I think its comes from nothing or everything mindset.
From God’s grace , i believe I have learnt to strike a balance between them. Like deep inside , u know when to take rest and when to push yourself.
Pushing yourself when u really need rest can backfire and vice versa. In these situations , think deeply you’ll get an answer.
I have no problem cold approaching people for a formal stuffs. I consider this as a achievement considering I am an introvert in my personal life.
Still I do have problems to cold approach for informal stuffs. For eg starting a convo for the sake of being friend.
I have no problem to do that on male guys. But for women , I think a lot. I am afraid they will consider me as creep etc 
If you complete that novel . Please do give me a soft copy of that . I’ll pay you accordingly.
You are lot better than me man. You are mentally strong , physically strong , creativity Level good with your ability to write novel and play 
or 
. I don’t remember .
I just wanna say , We all are humans. Things screw up sometimes. I hope u take it in a healthy way.
I’d considered that. But the thing is I can (hopefully) remove my shoulder brace on Nov 5th. Till then I will be going home for holidays. So I’m going to prepare a separate workout routine focusing on core and explosiveness for the rest of November. Till December.
December God-willing I’m hoping to be cleared for solo practice of basketball at least, even if I can’t play with my team. Then I’ll have a hybrid approach of training with basketball solo drills.
But yeah I actually do a lot of walking daily as a medical student though 
which is why I don’t really like doing any more. Getting to my classes is 1 km or close walk at least. And that’s not mentioning all the other places I have to walk around (one of the downsides of having a huge campus lol but I enjoy it). Easily at least close to 7-8 km per day.
that’s the plan once I get back
yeah I always get that depression as an athlete when I can’t play
But I’m feeling good now. Optimistic. We’ll see when I go for the follow-up
definitely, I agree
Yep exactly. You’re doing really well, and I’m happy for you. But you have had different struggles and opportunities from mine. Perhaps now you are nearing the end of this battle and gearing up for other ones. Everyone has a different path, I’m just staying consistent and working on mine.
I’m always delusional. My ego would be insane if people actually came to know about it 
but I’m careful not to go overboard because in the end of the day it’s in God’s hands
yeah. I’m still figuring that out.
formal is easy. Cold approach, especially girls I find it fun. But if you are not confident with looks/appearance I’d suggest maxxing that out first. Even if two guys say the same things depending on how they look girls will consider one as a creep and the other hot.
I don’t think I’ll finish anytime soon but yeah for sure I hope to complete it first
yep. Very much appreciate your reply brother, shows how considerate you are. Appreciate it 
Some reasons I won’t falter this November
Moving slowly towards victory with the help of God
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
okay.
NOW it’s time I can finally lock-in.
Went to the doctor for follow-up. Finally removed the brace. Now I can start training. Obviously can’t play basketball or gym for a bit, but I can do the other workouts. Thanks to God for allowing this recovery.
But now for the comeback.
I’d saved this two years ago…after my first injury…and every time I see it I am reminded of how disappointed I was at that time. But with the help of God. With consistency and determination. I reached new levels like never before.
And now, it’s time to repeat that.
Finally, I get to start my winter arc.
It’s not how I pictured it. It’s not how I wanted it. But this is how it’s going to be because this is how God has allowed it. And I trust Him.
Today’s goals are:
complete the required work as per 21-day challenge
completely set up my workout schedule for the following days
set a timeline for studying for model exams
restock my athletic supplements and start the old regimen of taking them
None of the above goals are comfortable. But I will do them.
@PrDr Will be changing my goals slightly for our 21-days challenge now. It will be closer to my old checklist.
Dopamine Detox, Day X
Spent time with God first
Completed the daily exercise routine
Spent at least 2 hours in deep focus
Took the required supplements of the day
Worked on my creative output
Early to bed Early to Rise
Reflections
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
Spent enough time being comfortable. Time to get back to chasing discomfort.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
No weapon formed against me shall prosper