Need Advise (Serious)

Keeping religious perspective aside, marrying someone with whom you never had a close romantic relationship isn’t that great of an idea.

Because in today’s time being good friends and being in relationship are two very different things. Since male-female friendships have increased.

So and so might be your own personal opinion but for us Muslims our Lord have instructed us ways to live our life for us from his wisdom, in every aspect of life, on how to wake up ,how to pray, what not to do in business, how to be with your neighbour, relatives etc what not to do, all these permissions and prohibitions are indirectly good for us and teaches us how to live our life with disipline which will give us success in this life and in the hereafter.

Coming to the topic of fornication. this act has been seen as indecent and inappropriate throughout the history in almost every respectable civilisation. A well respected man or a Woman never engages in these types of inappopriate things almost in every religion fornication is looked down.

Fornication destroys soceities, it disrupts the family structure. If you would look at the stats the number of divorces are high among the ones who fornicated vs those who didnt before marriage. Also fornication breaks down the lineage aswell.

The same religion advocates againt the PMO but this modern society supports these inappropriate acts regardless of the harm it does.

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That is true. But what’s wrong if you become gf/bf first and then marry?

Modern society, more like coomers. There are still people without religious reasons doing no fap.

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Bro, you are in love and you know it deep down. You may not be sure of her feelings, but stop beating the bush and just say it. Either she will say yes or she will not. It’s better to be clear about these things. May be the time is not ripe for you to tell it ASAP, but wait for a while, let the seeds bloom, and after few days, just confess what you have deep in your heart.

That’s it.

Also, when you said, you are not ready about being in a relationship, is it the fear of the relationship idea, which is preventing you?!!. Or are you feeling that, if you confess, you have a chance of losing her later.??

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Bro took the status I had put on the companion’s section to another level.

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Which one bro.?!! :sweat_smile::sweat_smile::sweat_smile:

“Keep it simple”. You can check it by clicking on “My companions” section at middle of below task bar.

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Aaah, yes… Actually it often happens to me, so I know more or less… We care, that’s why we are jealous. Why do we care ??!, because deep down our ego may prevent from accepting the real truth, but the truth is we fall too easily. By, we I didn’t meant all boys, there are exceptions, but in general.

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Modern society, more like coomers. There are still people without religious reasons doing no fap.

Yeah That’s what I’m talking about following a Modern society;s aspect will ruin your life and make you loser.

for us, our religion is complete in every aspect of life, so we dont have to worry about what isms, or ideology comes in any particular time , we have our religion Islam that already defined our life for a success outcome.

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Straight question did your parents of grandparents went through this process ? if not were their marriage broke ? In most cases it wont .

Would you to marry a girl who have been with 10bfs.

I have already explaind about the harms of Having relationships before within my first reply to your comment. To which you acknowledged “That’s true”.

You can still get to know your partner without engaging in fornication. This p*rn filled society have ruined the minds of the youth which demands unrealistic sexual expectations

Bro why are you dragging fornication into this :sob::sob:.She has moved to another city so how can this fornication even happen like on text or call?:joy:.Dont worry thats not gonna happen (InShaAllah)

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Brother look into/read the life of our prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him , How he treated is wives, the kids, the People, He is indeed a role model for us.

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Sorry brother, didnt meant like that, but as a Brother giving naseeha, seen many youngerster fall into this, May Allah protect our youth. May Allah grant you a righteous wife.

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She contacted me for some books recomendation(I am in 2nd year of med school and she is in 1st year …).After this She asked if i am angry with her .I ignored her question on purpose but she kept asking Which i replied"Nope I am not" and then i left the chat

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Ameen brother…Just wanted to make it clear that fornication isnt even an option

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Indeed.I have read thoroughly about his(PBUH) life :two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts:

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MashaAllah good to hear that

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So did you confess?

Confess what😂.I am satisfying my ego by ignoring her

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