Indeed. We are here to see you growing and listening to your story as well as experience along the wayšwe should keep posting whenever possible that way this thread will remain alive
Greetings gentlemen,
Itās been a while, hope you guys are still determined in your journeys
Iāll try to be more active, now that Im motivated to restart daily journals
Commitment and discipline? Not sure if thatās the case for me I feel more like thatās a default state.
Surely, sometimes I have this thought in my mind that maybe I could go for PMO one more time, but to be honestā¦?
Right now the thought seems really absurd to me. I guess thatās what looking back at an addiction from the past should look like
So I guess itās not about urges anymore for me. Like, surely, I really admire women that I get to know, meet for a while or just see on the streets and I would lie if I said I wouldnāt like to get a bit closer. But the honest reality is that these temptations do not trigger an urge in me, not for PMO at least.
Let me tell you this storyā¦ (Potential trigger warning!)
Quite recently I went for a drink to a certain bar in a certain city, solo, looking for some people to spend the time with. It just happened so that when I was talking with a certain stranger a pair of apparently drunk Brits came to us, a man and a woman. A pair of strangers, hooked up just tonight or maybe few days earlier, that much was apparent.
And she, well, was very much into me. Not like just wanted to talk - she decided to lean on me and finally sit in my lap. At some point she decided she wants to get some air.
You know what? I just took care of her, because FFS, I had in my arms another human being, vulnerable and all. If she wasnāt drunk, I would have considered getting to know her, walking her home, possibly taking this acquaintance to some friendship and maybe further. But she was drunk and all I could sensibly do was to take care of her.
After a while the guy who came with her came out, and so they went on into the night. The only regret I have after these events? That I should have walked her safely home instead of leaving her for the nightā¦
Day 3
Another fast day thanks to work, had a friend invite me out to chill affer work, was nice getting out of the normal grind if only for a little. The real battle starts here cause the offices are closed for the bank holidays.
Had a couple thoughts on pmo, not really urges because I control my mental state, nobody or nothing else has that power over me so urge isnt the correct word.
i joined in on the No jerking june challenge. Any of you already in?
I wanāt to use it to break my one week streak loop for sure.
Thank you for sharing your experience as well the story. Decipline and commitments brings greater responsibility Some other day, I wish i can be a gentleman. WIP
Hey there @wall-e sorry Iām a bit too late, I was going through a rough patch . The last few weeks werenāt really the best in my nofap journey but I have taken some steps to change my situation. I have started working out a bit and am also working hard to reduce my screen time. Hopefully Iāll be able to maintain a good streak this time.
And congratulations on reaching 31 days .
Ahh man I got tempted quite heavily in the past hour. Sometimes I feel like it is hard toneven walk on the street. I almost looked up porn on my pc. I had to escape from it.
There is way too many beautiful woman in my country and city. There is a verse in the bible that says, that if your eyes are clean, single, than your whole body is going to be bright, full of light.
I feel like I canāt get clean eyes with such challenges around. I need stronger faith.
Day 0
Will try to avoid thinking about it
Will try to accept the urge is there and getting conscious about not start doing it.
Will maintain the streak with discipline and progressive days.
Iām not done yet, Iāll make it happen this year.
Hey Guys!
Unfortunately, Iām back here at day 0 - wish me luck to get back to where I have beenā¦
Hey somebody, sorry to hear that. I donāt know if you remember me, but I used to be a gentleman here. I remember reading some of your posts and they were very helpful. I think Iām going to join back in this challenge, since Iāve been struggling. I am also on day 0, you arenāt alone! Iām going to check in every day, because I think it helps my mindset. Just thinking short term like I just have to abstain for one day to check in here. Itās just sort of a reminder that I donāt need to quit for life, just one day at a time. So I think checking in might be helpful in that way. Iāll try it and see how it goes. Either way, I wish you good luck on your journey! I know you can escape the trap again.
Also, if you donāt mind me asking, was there anything you learned from your latest slip up? Iām just curious how you fell back into the trap, so that maybe I can learn from it also.
Good luck @someBody13 You can do it
Hey Ryanthelion!
A short answer - I have written a longer look-back of lessons in another post - I didnāt want to put it all here, as it would be way too much for a single check-in postā¦
However, yes, I believe I learnt a lot, a lot of things changed for me as well and Iām in a very different place currently.
Butā¦ One last thing, I donāt feel like Iām in a trap anymore. Thatās a mindset that isnāt helping in my case. I am on my way, 326 days long today, and despite the fact that Iāve fallen into a swamp, Iām back on track and slowly drying myself, in the sun of the better life Iām living already
Iāll also be happy if you join me on my way! You-plural, that is, even though right now Iām answering you, Ryan, in particular
Checking in after day 1.
@Mickey07 @Reaper097 @shinsusenju whatās going on? Any progress?
Hil8v7ud there, let me in pls, 9 day Streaks, Code l8v7ud
@Binocular @Mark4600 Hey, if you want to join this challenge, you can. Thereās no longer any admins running this place. You can control your own score if you want. There is no one running the scoreboard. Maybe we can get this place active again. Letās become gentlemen together!