[john98] Long walk to freedom

7 days are about to be over man. You’ve done this so easily. Now, its time to take it further till it becomes very hard and win on that level too. One day at a time is the best approach man. Don’t pay attention to days or compare your streak with others. Just look at yourself and notice the improvement. You are the king of your world, man. Come on, keep moving.

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You are completely right! One can only focus on themselves, and make sure that personal growth is reached.

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Day 7
‘small win’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:
I have now arrived at my target. Feels great! I will make sure to treat myself tonight to a nice dinner.

My next goal is 2 weeks abstinence and I am already half way there.No way I am throwing this away!

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Proud of you brother. These small steps make the foundation for something huge. Don’t be nervous. You can do this. Everyday is important and everyday is worth it. You don’t deserve another wasted day due to PMO bro. And you can’t want that either. Don’t fall. Choose the right thing. Choose life.

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D8
‘practiced remaining calm’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

Today I had a day whereby I encountered some provocation but I worked hard to remain calm and collected and not giving in to my emotions. I am finding in general that practicing remaining calm’ and not giving in to my immediate emotions is making me more capable of not giving in to my urges. Could just be placebo, but will keep working on my self and focus on how my actions will help me long term before giving in to the temptation to get ‘triggered’ so to speak.

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D9
‘feeling alone’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

I find that one of the feelings that I struggle with the most when dealing with urges is that of not loneliness. It is often in these lows that porn becomes very appealing. But today when feeling lonely I decided to do something about it. Reach out to friends and get some physical activity done. I think I am better of for it, because at times our emotions can trick our brain. It is the whole caveman mentality that always thinks we are in danger and that something is wrong. This brain was not made to deal with stimulus such as porn and can’t tell the difference between porn and a real mate.

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Bro, this is normal. Don’t fall for this. Feeling alone is something that I’m accustomed to as well. I am older than you, and I have also felt that way my whole life. This society brainwashes us into believing that a person cannot stay happy on his own. It makes us look at it all like, having a partner is the absolute necessity of life, amd we won’t be able to experience true love or happiness ever if we don’t have a partner or if we can’t live how everyone else does. Bro, thats the utter lie. Happiness resides inside you, and so does sadness. It is as ok to feel sad, as ok is it to feel happy. They are all parts of your own emotional self, they don’t reside outside of you. You have complete control over them. These sad days will pass, man. Don’t feel bad about feeling alone, feel glad that you are fighting this battle like a gladiator. Afterall, a king like you deserves the best queen in this world, and obviously she won’t come easy. You’ll have to work hard to be someone desirable to her, brother. Continue. Don’t quit. Fight like the fighter that you are. You are already fighting like you’ve never had. Nothing can stop you.

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Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it

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D10
‘4 days away’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

I have had some urges but was able to talk myself out of it. Need to get back to doing some of my habits that I started. I have been a bit off balance since a conversation with my former gf 2 days ago where she shared her recent relationship drama in quite a bit of detail. It kind of hurts the ego and self esteem when someone moves on so quickly, hence perhaps the more recent urges, but I just have to accept that it is over between us and focus on myself and being the best version of me. Maybe I will read a guide for self love or something online. Anyways 4 days to my target. Can’t let it slip.

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D0
‘feeling shit’

I feel like apologizing to all of you that have been believing in me and that I let down. I let myself down too.

Now I need to get back up and not let myself spiral. On the bright side I went 10 days. On the downside I gave in to my urges. Now we start again and aim for 1 day.

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that’s the spirit and remember that a relapse is just a minor setback not a failure and have faith in yourself.

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D1
‘all good’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

No major urges to report. Had a productive day, and spent some time with friends.

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D2
‘out with friends’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

No urges to report. Just enjoying making some new friends today.

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D3
‘good day’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

Friday spent some quality time with my dad, no major urges.

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Keep going buddy. We all fail, but we must get back up. You are a fighter destined to be a champion. Fight again.

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D6
‘keeping busy’
No PMO: :white_check_mark:

Tomorrow I start driving school. Am very excited!

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D:0
2 am
‘failed’

Problem was phone in my bedroom. Second issue was opening a kindle erotic comic. Which then Led to opening a porn site.

I really need to get back to my principles of just doing 1 day at a time. And also no phone in bedroom.

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Get back up bro. We both are at day 0 now. Lets restart together and beat this.

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I am with you. The first day is very important to not slip again.

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Yes bro. And don’t forget about one day at a time method. Urges will come, but if we persist then they’ll go away soon.

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