Happiness Index
Quite often, our current mood can determine whether we slip back into old habits such as edging, watching porn or masturbating. Therefore it’s important to know how our actions impact our current state and where we stand at the moment. The Happiness Index is a powerful tool to do just that.
Do you remember the times back at school, when you used to get grades? In the “school of life”, you have 6 subjects and you are both the student and teacher, if you take responsibility. Your subjects are:
Health: How is your diet? Do you hydrate properly? Do you eat lots of greens and vegetables? Do you avoid processed foods? Do you exercise regularly?
Relationships: Do you socialize with other people? Do you meet friends? Do you have healthy romantic relationships? How do you get along with your family?
Spirituality: If religious, how well do you follow your faith? Else, how well do you connect with yourself and practice mindfulness? (Or however you define spirituality)
Career: How are you doing in your job? Or how well are you working towards your dream job? Do you see a meaning in the work you do?
Finances: How well do you manage your money? Do you follow your budget plan?
Hobbies: Do you cultivate habits that further enrich your life? Do you find time to take care of yourself with healthy habits?
While thinking about those subjects, keep in mind that what you do or do not do contributes to your grade in that area. Give yourself numbers:
4 = I’m doing great, couldn’t be happier.
3 = Doing somewhat okay, could be improved.
2 = I’m doing bad, improvement is needed.
1 = I do really bad on this subject and this needs immediate action.
How do you score in life? What actions contribute to good grades? What actions do contribute to bad grades? If you’ve got any 1 or 2s in your subjects, that’s where it would be worth checking what you could do to improve the situation. Realize that you are both the one in charge making those grades better and also the one deciding how you are doing in those subjects. It’s up to you to take action.
Taking action means setting up small achievable goals for that subject, so you can improve in that area. For example, if you score a 1 or 2 in spirituality, an option would be starting with guided meditations once a week, to get to know how this works. The idea is to implement small steps so you move forward and get used to new healthy habits. After doing that, you will see how you score better in life.