Bro it seems like you have suffered in the past few days. Anyways bro here are a few things that i have learned trying to quit porn.
Maybe you will just read it like that, but i think you should think about it seriously
‘failure is a step closer to success’
‘Anything that doesn’t kills you makes you stronger’
‘Be humble but not a pushover, be a warrior but not an asshole’
And the last thing is an advice from to everybody
‘Explore the limits( not in relation to porn but other things such as skills, business or any adventure ) and find the balance’
What i mean here us that if you are not having problems doing something then you are not reaching your limits but here another thing knowing your limits is good and once in a while stretching them is good as well but staying there all the time is not good for which you have to reach a balance with other stuff in your life.
Let me give you an example: as soon as I read the book, followed each steps, I started feeling good. Now, it been more than 25day? I don’t remember, but I haven’t got any urge, withdrawal, dopamine lack etc.
Why?
Because at the start, I got rid of big monster, brainwashing, hence it was easy for me.
Now you can do it also.
1 advice I have for you. Change your thoughts from, I am leaving PMO or I will never PMO to I am free from PMO or I am already a non PMO person.
This will completely change your inner thought and help you cut the urges and withdrawal affect from the root.
I am waiting for you in the world of NON USER.
Come fast.
I nearly made 4 days again. It’s still not easy but i realize that i change and grow so the direction is good. I also begin to feel more energized and have started working out again since yesterday (I stopped while i had the cold)
I have thought a lot again about what is written in the easypeasy handbook today. But I’m not (yet) fully doing all the points and therefore it’s not completely working.
I have already shut off everything that is pornography and I actually don’t even have a desire for that.
It’s much harder with instagram. There are a few celebs and also one non famous person i have kind of a crush on. It’s not like there would ever be anything real (of course not with the celebs and also not with the other one; and I’m married anyway which is most important to me) but not looking them up is somehow making me feel like I lost people i care about.
That is nonsense, i lose at best an idea of those people, they don’t even know me. Still there are these emotions.
In fact looking them up is not purely because I find them attractive, but that’s one essential part of it and that means it is quite like looking at porn. Therefore as long as I don’t stop peeking, I’m not really free and the dopamine surge doesn’t stop etc.
I would be glad for any advice how to better handle this.
Thank you guys for your support
I also want to take a minute to say thank you to all of you but espacially to @FlowForCourage and @Marcio. You are the ones who are with me all the time. I can’t express in words how important that is to me and how helpful that is!
Thank you so much!
@Anthe Being with you is our privilege, your friendship is precious, having a soldier like you by our side is inspiring, your bravery motivates us. Thanks for being around. Your victory is our joy.
I havent really been writing the last days.
I had a lot of urges, i quit a lot of the stuff i used to do bit I still was peeking at some things at insta.
It wasn’t working this way at all and i built up a huge desire to fap that just grew every day.
Therefore i decided today to go all the way. No ‘innocent’ peeking anywhere. Nothing.
I also thought about one chapter of the easypeasy book- the last sessiob. I already was on my streak when I read the book. I did not take time for a final session. This may sound stupid… but actually there is some truth in it.
Therefore i decided to relapse today, which I did. And really it didn’t feel good. But i Was trying to be aware and to make it some kind of closure.
I don’t know if this Was the right move or if i just made everything worse. I guess I’ll find out soon enough.
But right now I feel calm and focused. Somehow like if something awful is behind me and over for good. I hope this feeling becomes true.
Today I still feel very calm. My mind is mostly free of pmo.
Sometimes of course i have some thoughts or slight urges, but i can just say ‘stop, i don’t need that anymore’ to myself, which works very well (at least at the moment).
For me the stronger urges usually come about day 3 or 4. Im prepared for them.
A free mind is really awsome. I feel so much better than before.
Still, today i feel my mind craving for the dopamine it is used to. Therefore I am somehow restless and have urges. But I’m not giving in and I hope the easypeasy book is right and this will quiet down after about 5 days. Until then it might be hard.
I already did 1,5 hours of meditation today and I’m about to do some sports. That might help me calming down my mind.
I’m still pretty good on track and feel quite well.
Although i have to admit i did take some looks, espacially insta and twittdr… but no ■■■■ and nothing happened after that.
I have thought a lot lately why it is so hard to just quit. You can find my condensed thoughts in this thread:
Hey everyone.
I have really been struggeling the last week. After the relapse of my last 6 day streak i just feel way back to how it was before i started nofap. My relapse counter skyrocketed in the last days. And the worst part was, i didn’t even really care, i had no motivation to abstain.
Now I’m at the point again where i feel utterly terrible after binging for hours yesterday. My mind feels like it’s lying in ruins, my back hurts and I feel really guilty.
As bad as it is, it helped me to regain my motivation and I’m going to start anew.
I hope you are still with me though i really don’t feel like i deserve it…
To not let this bad phase be in vain, here is what i learned from it:
It starts with peeking. Just a look. Not because i want to be aroused but because I want to know how my favourite insta model is doing (of course…)
Peeking leads to looking more frequently and to fantasizing.
This leads to even more looking and soon after you watch porn. Just a clip or two. Until it gets more and more and more and you have no control anymore
We are with you soldier, your wounds and failures do not change your value and importance. You are special to this forum and to all of us. We love you and we want to see you win.
I am with you my friend. I too felt the same when my streak was of 19-20 I engaged in positive conversations, affirmations and sharing of info on how to reboot and quit pmo but when I relapsed and binged and got caught up in the cycle I was embarrassed and thought that I don’t deserve to socialize with those friends on the forum anymore. When I expressed myself all the people on that particular Nofap/forum/thread everyone was so supportive and everyone understands. You will succeed because you are back here and thats what matters.
You’ll succeed when you will be determined and not allow yourself to watch any two dimentional pics or videos. No fantasizing about porn related stuff.
