Relapsed again. This month hasn’t gone well at all. So much for new year resolutions. I need to implement further changes. Maybe build up a hobby set to displace the pmo habit?
1)I am already watching Old TV shows of the Nineties like Mahabharata, Ramayana, Byomkesha Bakshi etc. For some reason I find a greater spiritual connection with them than any shows of the modern Era. Nostalgia of a time when I was more…Normal.
Studying Books and videos on Spirituality and Brahmacharya.
Give time to your family and friends. I have felt lonely for a long time now. Speaking to your family and friends will take away some of that stress and loneliness.
Video Games. Mixed feelings about this. It can become a vicious habit as well, but still MUCH better than the one I have right now. Actually, I was a diehard gamer once, and I had troubles even then. But I did not suffer from an identity crisis the way I am suffering right now.
Bhagawat Gita- Most important. I will read it everyday.
Wake up early
Clean up-
Day planning-
Medicine Study-
Finance study-
Exercise-
Smartphone control-
Family time-
Diet Documentation-
Spiritual training✅️
Brush-
Read Bhagwat Gita-
Well you can choose one particular thing/habit to do when urges hit. For me it’s a short meditation that beerbiceps taught, if you also wanna know what it is watch the following video between 12 mim 20 sec and 12:55
I do this anywhere anytime, not even sitting down necessarily
Wake up early❌️
Clean up✅️
Day planning✅️
Medicine Study✅️
Aging Research❌️
Finance study❌️
Report study❌️
Exercise✅️
Smartphone control❌️
Family time❌️
Diet Documentation❌️
Spiritual training✅️
Brush❌️
Read Bhagwat Gita✅️
Urges under control
Relapsed again. And all because of an accidental mild trigger.
Is it even possible to attain it? The height of self-control that I aspire to achieve? Self-control so powerful that even in continous presence of triggers, one can maintain absolute focus. Absolute self-control in all forms, physical and spiritual. To be completely untouchable. Absolute Akhand Brahmacharya.
And where do I stand? Nowhere even close to it, I suppose. I must start small. Small steps. 5, 10, 21, 30 days , 2 months, a year…Reach a point where the numbers themselves stop me from acting this way. Let small goals build up my confidence, and then target ahead.
To me, Brahmacharya is the greatest penance. A penance I wish to maintain for eternity. And truly, if it was easy, everybody would have done it.
It’s possible but you gotta stay away from triggers atleast for few 2 or 3 weeks, I don’t know about constant triggers but it’s very possible to let go of accidental triggers after that
I don’t really believe if one can have self will to control when triggers arrive. For me nofap it’s not about fighting against pmo. Its about building new, better self, to take more challanges everyday and to make affirmation about your achievements. I really like the way you’re making a list oof things to do during a day. Stick to it
I guess it’s different for everyone and probably some people wrote about it. For me game changer was book “No more mr. Nice Guy”. I boosted my self confidence so much as I didn’t needed porn again. I was over it.
5 days and relapsed. What went wrong here? It all started with the damned thoughts. So here is the entire sequence laid out-
Inactivity and Boredom leads to aggressive thoughts.
Thoughts➡️stimulation➡️peeking
peeking➡️P and then the usual sequence.
So what will I do when the thoughts arise? What options do I have?
Lock your gadgets and leave the house. Do not retrieve the gadgets even when you return.
Talk to people and remain in someone’s company. Do not be alone for sometime.
Go for a long drive. That never fails to change the mood. And really enjoyable as well.
Exercise. Beat the stamina out of you.
Remember the heroes. The people you look up to. The legends;The champions. Remember that these feelings are temporary. But the grind is eternal. Falling is part of the grind. And may the grind continue for eternity.
A great setback, today. But no worries. You have improved tremendously in the past few months. Each time you make a mistake, document it and don’t repeat it.
And remember, it’s all a matter of time. A measly few months of simply not doing something, to remain patient, to maintain a schedule. That’s all that is required. Once the line is crossed, the self-control will be achieved.
''Raise yourself to such eminence
that God himself, when writing your destiny, is compelled to ask,“what is
your will?”"
Wake up early✅️
Bhagwad Gita✅️
Day planning✅️
Exercise✅️
Medicine study✅️
Finance study✅️
Spiritual training✅️
Brush✅️
Diet Documentation❌️
Family time❌️
Urges under control✅️
One hell of a day! And after a long time too. It seems the focus is slowly returning. I only need to sustain it, remain consistent.
Wake up early✅️
Bhagwad Gita✅️
Day planning❌️
Exercise✅️
Medicine study✅️
Finance study✅️
Spiritual training✅️
Brush✅️
Diet Documentation❌️
Family time✅️
Urges under control✅️
The first minor goal has been achieved. The most initial one actually. And although I have been here multiple times in retrospect, I hope that this time, the determination will be decisive and absolute.
The next goal is 10 days, then 14 days and then 21 days, at which point I would have long surpassed any streak I’ve ever had in my struggle. And it’s been OVER A DECADE.
A 30 days streak will bolster my willpower and self confidence tremendously, and at 45 days I hope that it will be a steady breeze beyond that, as I have heard that a certain threshold has to be crossed to achieve that level of self-control and balance.
I hope that once the 90 days mark is crossed, the urges will decline substantially to the point of being controlled with a whim. Ultimately, the target is to reach a point beyond which counting days will no longer be a requirement. The tracker boosts confidence but the target is not a fixed number. The target is to reach the point when life goes porn free on the autopilot mode.
Good work, and here’s to many more days of self-control and self believe !!
Thanks for the reply. It is certain that you have already healed yourself. If you want to have real and intimate love instead of the virtual, fake one shown online then you seek a normal, healthy relationship which means you have succeeded. I am happy that I am following your example of finding the liberation that you have achieved.
It seems that 90 days will not be enough for the urges, from your experience. But I am sure the self-control would be developed enough to not engage on those urges. Did you have a 90+ days streak that you broke before achieving your present streak? I would be glad to know.
My current streak (406 days) started on the day that I download this app and discovering how bad PMO is (by reading Your Brain on ■■■■)
Before that, I had tried to quit PMO a few times, but I was never successful. Also, I didn’t have a purpose for quitting PMO, so I would give up when the urges arised (between day 7 and day 15).
My goal was never 90 days, neither it was a certain number of days. My goal was lifetime since the begging.
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