That’s a really bold decision bro … All the best . You have a lot of courage to take this decision…
A stitch in time saves nine.
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After a long time I came back to see this 
@Tagore Just relax brother. Dont decide anything. Just relax. Do not think anything. Dont stress your mind. Tomorrow will be a better day. Tomorrow will be a powerful day. Dont think anything. Just relax. Be strong. My brother you are a strong man. Relax.
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He too will be devastated to know about this but what else can I do guys??
I can start from 0 and reach 120 again and then relapse and fall in chaser. Then repeating. Will I continue this for eternity??
I seriously need help guys. This forum helps a lot but its virtual. I need a human being to assist me in this. I behave like the best son, best brother, most poor fellow in the room. But when I alone I am behaving like a monster. Then with friends I will put a mask and will behave like an entirely different person. Iam afraid of everything in this world. I have not written a story in 2-3 years, God save me.
And Iam claiming that Iam a writer!
If I go on like this; where will I end up??
This is the only option brothers. I have tried everything.
You all have been seeing me for more than a year now.
Iam still standing at square one. I tell this with a lot of pain and sorrow
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I am sorry to hear that bro. You were doing so well. Seeing you again falling back it really hurt me. Although we haven’t met in person but I can tell you are one of the most genuine and sincere person here.
It’s just one of the test Life is taking to you. Whatever happens do not give up. Do not lose hope. Accepting defeat is worse than dying. You are born for greatness. And it’s just obstacle I am sure you will overcome in time.
Bro I won’t be active on the forum. Becuase I can clearly see that it impact my study and work. If you want to share anything or be in contact we can be connected through other medium like discord.
I would say once the lock down ends please go for the 10 days retreat I mentioned earlier. There you have to be in silent retreat for 10 days. No phone, no books, no talking just 10-12 hours daily meditation. It has done wonder for some addicted persons.
It is good decision that you are ready to open up about it to your brother.
All the best.
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Hey bro @Tagore now time to choose the correct path…! Don’t worry if you are in chaser… actually find the root cause of pmo… use premium blocker for p.
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@Yash21 @Dean_Ambrose brothers, I don’t see any other option before me. Alone, everything seems impossible. If it was only about pmo addiction I could have done it alone like most of our friends here. But there are a lot of core problems within me. without solving that I may stay in this addiction for many more years.
I need help to solve everything. Otherwise I may become a failure in life. You all know how hard it is to become a writer. Its not easy.
Thanks for all the help. This is the only option in front of me now
Brother but day after tomorrow or after 60 or 90 or 120 days I will again go back to that filth. This is nothing less than cocaine or heroine. You know it from experience brother
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Agreed this is the best solution for this situation… @Tagore bro I am with you 
…do what you want but never watch p*…lock your mobile.
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@Tagore brother I think you have made the right choice of sharing it with your brother, I am sure he will understand, siblings understand each other better. But I want to share one thing, I shared this with my cousin brother who is three years older than me and I found out he was also addicted to it, even to a much greater extent than I am. But talking about it will help you for sure.
If talking to your brother doesn’t help much, find a therapist if possible.
But killing yourself is never an option bro. You know your abilities, I have seen you work like a beast, don’t mess all that up please. We are with you always 
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PMO is a very complex puzzle. It’s difficult to solve this ,but that’s why we like this coz it’s tough… Once we are free from this , we all will be more stronger mentally than others think …
This PMO has taken so much from me , all those who were behind me , has surpassed me and I’m wondering in this puzzle… It’s ok to move slow in a journey … And when you get that right moment , just push the pedal and go past everyone. . .
You can do it , just you need one moment to gather all the strength and decide it’s enough , I need to change myself …
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This addiction is difficult but not impossible to overcome.
@Tagore I don’t like your idea of being open with your brother or your family members. They will judge you (sooner or later) and slowly ruin relationships. Better talk and sort out with your friends ( my personal opinion only).
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Bro if they are your family, they never judge you. Friends might judge, even make fun of you but real family never does that.
They might not show it but they are the ones that love you the most.
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My Personal Opinion Only
Never tell your personal problems to your family members. They will judge your every action afterwards and it will have a very long long impact. You know, what to do. Do it. What do you expect your old father and mother will do? They will cry…or give advice. You know, what advice they likely to give you. Please don’t disaapoint them. Talk about this problem with friends or a therapist but not within family.
If you think i may be of any help to you you can talk with me anytime anywhere in other social media platforms.
This is the sad story of every pmo addict brother 
At least you are living with your family…I am living alone in my country…imagine how lonely iam 
You are just 20 @Tagore . I have experience of 18 years of pmoing full fledge. Still I recollected my courage and i am fighting. Nothing is impossible man. Just don’t stress much and dedicate all your energy to your goal. All the best buddy. My strong buddy 
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Well it depends upon experience. I had a very close friend who was a pmo addict. He once told me that he will open up his problem to his brother. I stopped him and suggested him not to do so. But denied and talked about his problem to his brother. His brother gave suggestions that he already knew. ( We know suggestions. We only lack self discipline and courage and will power to live a pmo free life).
His brother initially suggested him and helped him. But later, his brother subconsciously became judgemental and escalated to worst…(after marriage)
Sharing problems within family breeds long term trust issues, doubts, suspicions, allegations, subconscious biasness…I prefer either friends or therapist in such case or ask suggestions anonymously and strictly follow it. Not knowing is not our problem, not following what we already now is.
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That’s actually true. Wise words.
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@Tagore Sharing with siblings isn’t the best idea. I think sharing this with mom will be the best. Either you’re a loser, porn addict, drugs addict whatever you are, your mom wouldn’t judge you they always take care of their child whatever position you are in. (This is my personal opinion only)
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If you feel the need to have one to one conversation feel free to connect to me on Skype or Hangout whichever you feel free. We can have audio call.
Other than that One of the most important book I have read in my life is this. I highly recommend to read it and take it seriously. It’s not related to PMO.
The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles
Book by Steven Pressfield
One of my favourite quote by Martin Luther King::
This book and quote has saved me multiple times.
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Hey Brothers, thanks for all the help you provided. It gave me the strength and message that Iam not alone in this.
Yesterday, I couldn’t gather up the courage to open up about this addiction. At the last moment I decided not to do it
But this Time, Iam going to work this out in a entirely different way
I don’t see any other option but a total IDENTITY SHIFT within me in which pmo is not a part of me anymore. When something is our identity we do it;
As the easypeasy points out, a total IDENTITY SHIFT or ATTITUDE SHIFT is the only way to get out of this
What Iam I going to do as the first step for this?
I will call all my fucked up friends and will tell them that I stopped pmo once and for all. I will leave the group in which they post all those fucked up pmo contents. You guys may know about friendships which depends on alcohol or dope? When someone stops it, those friends will leave him. I have those kinds of friends in which our friendship is dependent on talking about p*** and all those fucked up things, alcohol, weed, everything**
To make my identity shift, I will tell them, everything is over for me. Maybe they will leave me, but I don’t find any other way.
Hey brother, I would be really happy to do that. I will text you personally. Atleast we can tell everything to each other and help each other through some constructive words.
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I have a idea 
if @Tagore you will make a challenge for 30 days 0r 60 days…then you are the admin of the challenge…you will never relapse …so make a challenge.
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No worries Tagore. You are an inspiration bro. You are already far more better than people who do pmo and also defend it. Just don’t stress yourself. As previously said , you are stressed due to fall from big streak .so now your mind will not accompany you for some days . It is tired after so much hard work with no lasting reward.For that time don’t stress yourself. Try to be busy and start slowly like promising only to remove p* from your schedule. And then when you feel ok come back.
About telling to brother, it is a good idea .
He will help you.it is not shameful. Me and my brother are open about it. Actually we compete with each other hence I reached 90+ days of my streak . So yeah .don’t stress
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