What should I do? 😔

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Today I relapsed again…
My streak was 8 days and my highest was 11 days. I felt urges and I could not handle it.
I need advices, whats should I do?
-I use a porn blocker. It works in general but sometimes not.
-I have hobbies (guitar, learn language)
-I have partner and friends
-I am determined and I have goals
-I write a diary
-I am sick of fap and porn but I have hard days and urges sometimes
-This community is amazing
But I always loose.
Please give me advices.

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Out of all advices i think being busy with life would be the best one. Don’t give yourself free time . This thing helps me a lot of the times.

Start agaiin bro better things are going to happen this time!

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This might help.

5 min meditation took care of strong urges to fap
Day 4
I felt strong urges today to fap. It’s usually this time around in my streak that I relapse now a days. But today I didn’t give in. I took a deep breath and closed my eyes. I thought mindfully about why I’m doing nofap and how I will feel if I relapse. I said to myself, this is an addiction that I need to break. And Its alright. I can overcome these urges. I can still go. I’m strong.

I didn’t relapsed today. I can avoid relapse in the future too. Just go one day at a time. That’s the way to achieve a long streak.

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I have a busy life
But there will be always days when you are at home all day, and you will have time when you don’t do anything.

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Thank you bro!
I need advices about meditation
I have tried before but it was a little bit annoying.
What time should I meditate? And should I download an app or listen a video?

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Brooo thats where you have to make the difference, on the days when you are at home alone. In free time go outside,

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Today I lost control.

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Not to downplay keeping yourself busy. But the truth is it doesnt matter how busy you are there is always a few minutes when your in bed to jack. Keeping busy is good but didnt work for me. You may have to go to “extreme” measures and find a accountability partner someone who you have to tell if you do it. Thru that shame is what stops you, the shame of someone knowing, it makes you publically accountable for your actions.
Also 2 minute ice showers (or as long as you can at first) if your water is cold enough, before bed if thats the problem time.

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Thank you for you advice
I tried cold showers but I don’t like cold water. Especially in winter

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Download Medito app. It’s free and awesome.

The type of meditation I do is thinking type. I focus on thinking about why relapsing is a bad idea and that I can control etc.

Meditate anytime, it’s better to meditate at a fixed time everyday. But when u have urges, you can take a Break and do thinking type meditation.

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I tried medito before. It is a good app
I deleted it because I have no storage space

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Make some space then.

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@TheSeeker you are doing almost all the practices right, so keep it up. But you’re giving in to your inner bitch voice. That’s telling you do go easy.
You don’t cold shower cause you don’t like cold water? You think people start cold showering because they like cold water? I get that in winter at times, but you don’t have to shower at night.
You don’t meditate cause it’s annoying and you don’t have storage space on your phone? It takes time to get into meditation, you’re going to like it as soon as you begin. Besides, apps help but you don’t even need an app. Even a 5 minute timer is enough.

Basically you’re almost doing it right, but you’re being too easy on yourself. Letting yourself slip up in small ways because you reason that it’s a small thing that won’t affect you. It’s a lie, it will.
Man up man. You’re listening to your mind asking you to take things easy.

Never reason with the inner bitch. Because if you do, you will end up killing the beast inside you

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Thank you very much. Good points.
I will work harder

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Ong brother , you are very right

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Nowadays I cannot reach more than 4 days. My relapse days : 3,4,12,14
Today I relapsed. (I only saw soft porn.) Today I had a busy day but I relapsed. In the moment of the relapse I don’t mind anything.
I don’t know what to do. I tried everything.

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Hmm, this addiction is very hard to break. Everyone here gave their tips and they are really great and awesome. You tried everything but you failed.
IDK if this will help, but let me tell you how I am overcoming my urges.

  1. I don’t use my mobile or laptop much anymore. I am only using the laptop to study accounts.
  2. I blast music at high volume whenever I get urges
  3. Exercising helps you get rid of urges.
  4. Since my exams are coming, I only study these days. Now my max limit of studying for 1 day is 5 hours.
  5. Always observe your RC companion users’ streak on mobile. Target the highest streak guy in your app and chase him. Decide and say to yourself “I will beat this guy”.
  6. Use notion. Notion is a productivity tool that is advanced and powerful. I use the notion to track my daily progress.
  7. Everyday, track your progress buddy. Let me show you an example of my notion daily tracking.
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So this helps me keep my journey in progress.

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See my screen time. I spent 7 hours on youtube. Those hours I spent on accounts study videos and tutorials.

I would say, the best way to get rid of this addiction is to not think about PMO and NO-FAP. If you keep on thinking about it, you will get obsessed.

If a depressed guy watches more and more depression videos, within the next 20 minutes he will suicide because he got heavily depressed by these videos.

If a cancer patient watches more cancer videos, he will get scared and his cancer will grow.

If you believe in yourself, you will do it.

What you believe grows

If you think you are losing your belief, remember NARUTO. Naruto is an example of a true failure to a successful guy.
The whole village saw him as an outcast. Even Sakura, Sasuke and his friends saw him as an outcast. But Hinata, Kakashi, Jiraiya, and all the teachers believed him. But the best part was “he believed in himself”.
Finally, the villagers resected him when he became a Hokage.

So whenever you wanna fap, remember Naruto

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Remember these legendary quote"

“SOMEBODY TOLD ME I’M A FAILURE, I’LL PROVE THEM WRONG.” – NARUTO

“WHEN PEOPLE GET HURT, THEY LEARN TO HATE… WHEN PEOPLE HURT OTHERS, THEY BECOME HATED AND RACKED WITH GUILT. BUT KNOWING THAT PAIN ALLOWS PEOPLE TO BE KIND. PAIN ALLOWS PEOPLE TO GROW… AND HOW YOU GROW IS UP TO YOU.” – JIRAIYA

“PEOPLE WHO CONTINUE TO PUT THEIR LIVES ON THE LINE TO DEFEND THEIR FAITH BECOME HEROES AND CONTINUE TO EXIST ON IN LEGEND.” – NARUTO

“FAILING DOESN’T GIVE YOU A REASON TO GIVE UP, AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE.” – NARUTO

“GROWTH OCCURS WHEN ONE GOES BEYOND ONE’S LIMITS. REALIZING THAT IS ALSO PART OF TRAINING.” –

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So, stay strong and show your parents and the people around you that you are an alpha and sigma male and your balls are made of steel.

Gotta go and study for exams. Good luck towards your journey.

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