Yeah I know what you mean. I had my times where I was wondering to.
All man and woman have what we call a masculine energy and a feminine energy. Regardles of sex and or orientation, a man can have more feminine energy and visa versa.
Also different levels of energy are being presented through out the life stages of each human being.
That means you can be have more feminine energy at a certain age and more masculine energy at another.
But we all have a primary energy.
The way humans get attracted to each other (straight or gay) is: their primary energy must find the opposite.
- the + attracts - and - attracts +.
That’s why a (straight) man with high levels of masculinity is attracted to a girly girl with high levels of femininity …now sometimes the same man could possibly be attracted by another man with who possess loads of feminine energy, it would depend on a number of different factors as the life stage he is in…
That fact doesn’t make him gay it just proves that he is a masculine man who by nature gets attracted by the opposite force…
Now, the difference between a sexual interaction (man, woman, straight or gay) and a love relationship is the circulation of these energies.
Example :
Imagine a man and a woman, the man is masculine and the woman is feminine.
The man at the penis has a + energy and at his heart a - venergy.
In contrast the woman at her vagina has a -, energy and at her heart a + energy.
When one of the two is active we call it a one way channel, and when booth are active we call it a two way channel…
Imagine electricity, it works the same way, ± -+.
Now
there could be only a one way Chanel active. Example The channel from the penis to the vagina That means casual sex without feelings, An + - energy. The penis gives and the vagina sucks the energy in…
Example two There could be a Chanel from the heart of the female to the male, a + -, (and visa versa) that would mean love without sexual attraction. Kinda like your sister.
And third: there could be a full circle of energy
A + - from penis to vagina circulating back to the male from the heart of the female to his heart an + - again.
Then when this full circle is achieved you got sexual attraction and love! The ultimate goal!
That circle continues and feeds from its self and becomes stronger and stronger that’s why o Iove grows and why sexual attraction grows…
Now you see sometimes with couples when one of the two energies starts diminishing then the foundations of the relationship become unsteady and loose. Then you have to reinforce the channel what craves your attention if you want to maintain a healthy loving passionate relationship…
I went a bit off topic but I hope I cleared the air.
Cheers