Tuku's diary - a new hope

Absolutely incredible how far you’ve come in the past 4 months brother!

The climb continues.

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Thank you brother @Forerunner. You are one of the main reasons I am standing here today.
After reading your story you gave me a new hope to start this journey. Your experience and your words of wisdom have become the spine of this very forum inspiring guys like me from around the world.

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Thank you brother, that’s very touching to hear.

I’m sure that with time, reading your journey here will provide others with hope too!

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Love hearing these things man! You are doing amazing.

Keep fighting, keep climbing🧗

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Thankyou @Special_Bird . Seeing you complete 100 days on hard mode gives me motivation to push myself. If you can do it then I can do it too.And I have seen you never hold back in helping out your fellow companions. It’s very nice of you to take time and motivate others , you are a genuine dude as well.

Day 41
Starting to focus on my discipline. I slacked off half of the day by watching Netflix. What good is it if I don’t use my full power to be better than yesterday. Making a schedule didn’t help but I am trying to find a solution to improve my discipline, why I can’t stick to a schedule. I shall find out the answers as soon as possible.

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Thank you man! I could say the same for you, always making sure to reach out to new members and keeping up with their journals. You are a key member of this community brother.

I know you can do it this time :pray::muscle:

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Yes! Yes ! Yes! Keep on climbing and let’s keep that day counter keep on flying higher and higher. We know how our climb is going with all of our obstacles and what’s going on in our lives with the hustle and bustle of everyday and it seems most guys don’t care about others and what’s going on, but anyways @tuku truly I wanna salute you my brother for becoming this awesome man you are starting to become.

The beginning was hard you admitted it and shown the rest of us how hard it is and to wake up and truly fight it and that inspired the rest of us to be strong and you rose up and just climbed and shown that nothing’s gonna stop you and I’ll pray that nothing’s gonna stop you. I want to climb with you so we can both be strong and rise to the top of the mountain so we can enjoy a awesome view!

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Thankyou very much @Cubenix. It means a lot for me. Yes we will make it to the top one day and we will remember those time when we were hopeless and then enjoy the view followed by a big proud smile. :smile:
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Day 42
So today I researched the term discipline and how to implement it efficiently.

The first thing I found was to divide our goals into small doable goals. At first I was targetting atleast 10 pages to write daily. But within this 30 days I was only able to achieve it only for 2 days.
Today I decided to let go off my ego and decided to reduce the pages to 5 pages daily.

And the next thing is that discipline can only be build by practice and repetition. There is no way around it. I was trying to find a shortcut but now I have go through it. I have to avoid any temptations and distractions with also a back up plan. For example if I my laptop stops working or there is a problem, I need to have a notebook where I can continue to write those 5 pages. Or if I couldn’t go to gym due to traveling , I shall do freehand exercises ,wherever I am.

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Day 43
Today I wrote 5 pages according to the schedule and I was also able to take out time for reading a book on leadership.
Talking about time , an average man on PMO waste atleast 4-7 hours a day watching porn,edging and the number of times of fapping. Time is an essence we should use it wisely.

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This diary itself is an strong inspiration for people like me.

Am so proud of you man @tuku

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@tuku
Brother Didnt see you for many days
Is everything fine??

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@tuku
Just a reminder: edging COUNTS as relapse

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Yes @tuku

Are you okey?

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Day 52
Hey guys , I am here. Our government banned internet for a few days. Today I woke up to see it’s back. I will explain later. And I haven’t relapsed yet.

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I can’t understand. …
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@Aragorn thank you brother . I am fine , how are you doing.
@fenila yes , we should stay away from edging ,it messes up the rebooting process .

@Thenofap_king everything is fine for now.
I can’t do anything about it. Our state ASSAM is in a crisis right now. There is a protest going on since Dec 10 . Our internet was banned by the government to suppress our voice, but today the high court has given us back our voice. Can’t say right now if the internet will be getting banned again or not. Things were really tough at the start but now everything is fine, people are protesting peacefully. Not gonna lie , I was scared at the start but kept a hold on myself. Life maybe unfair sometimes , you just have to be tough to go through it.
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Being away from the internet for 10 days was an completely unexpected experience for me. I felt very alone at the start. Urges were challenging me day and night and I wasn’t able to keep in touch with this community. Whenever an urge hits me I just went through the WhatsApp accountability group’s old conversations and I always kept telling myself that if I somehow don’t act upon my urges , there is a new tomorrow out there waiting for me filled with everything I wanted. I continued meditating , cold shower , free hands exercises and everything. After the first week I started going out more and interacting with people made me feel alive. We had like endless topics to talk about.

I lost my track of progress, 10 days feels like 10 hours now ,it happened so fast. I crossed my highest streak like a week ago.
I can’t give up now. Almost there I can feel it, A FULL CLEAN 90 DAYS REBOOT here I come.
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Wow brother! That is an interesting and difficult experience, I had to go research it myself because I didn’t know anything about these things at all before. But I am glad you are back and still holding out!

90 days is around the corner brother :point_left::pray::pray:

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@Special_Bird yeah. Everyone goes through some tough times. Sun always rises after a dark night.

Day 53
Urges coming back stronger than ever. Yesterday I literally wanted to just search some P and edge till I die. As if I don’t watch it I will die. I sat down and relaxed myself , did some heavy breathing. And proceeded to do my daily routines.

No matter what methods you try, at the end of the day it’s upto you to make the choice that matters. You have to compare and weight the thoughts whether a temporary pleasure will be worth it or a happy life will. Think why did you started the journey at the first place. In order to change the world you have to change yourself. If you saw your own son or your brother or someone close, fapping and wasting his life away how will you guide him if you yourself is stuck in it ?

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Day 54
Today went home to see my mother, and she told me I was looking like high school kid. She was the same person that told me I look like an old and pale person, a year ago. I think it’s because of my hairstyle or my new specs but it feels good :two_hearts:

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Day 59
Today I sat down with my grandmother and I talked about her younger days. They always have so many interesting stories . I asked her how was my father , was he a bad boy while growing up and how did he met my mother. Her answers were like a new movie to me so funny yet honest. And at the end of the day she gave me an advice that I will never forget.
She told me “Don’t waste your life sleeping around you will get plenty of time later to do that”.
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From today on I am determined to live my life to its full potential. No more procastinating, no more being lazy , no more excuses . Life is an adventure and we can’t just let it slip it off from our hands.

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