Ahh , donโt be sorry for something thatโs not wrong , just checked this thread after you tagged me . You were just asking for advice from those you expected , itโs not attention seeking .
Keep the hope alive brother !
This happens bhai
Itโs alright brother , I was about to drop an event today (but was stucked) , so not yet, will tag everyone in the challenge (attโฆ seekโฆ) . You can continue brother .
Thanks for your kind words and understanding behaviour. You guys are the reason why I keep trying after failing again and again. Thanks for helping me to improve myself.
Ooo god I am unable to follow the right path. Seems like Iโm dipressed. I have nothing to do these days and being alone, diverts me towards the wrong path. I have lost my innocence, will power and baseline dopamine level. In short, my whole life is totally fucked. My daily routine is just wasting time on mobile then fap and wake up late. I donโt even get fun, it seems like an escape from reality.
The worst thing happened today is I heard my parents discussing about why I wake up so late, do I sleep late ? What do I do at night
Someone please helpโฆ
@FaithfulWalker @Covertxomic @anybody
I have tried infinite times to change myself, but I failed each and every time. My own mind starts causing me problems and illusions like
โhow can u change so soon, u got afraid ? U should waste your life like Tony stark then make the biggest comeback that whole world admiresโ
โI canโt believe u changed so early, I know u will fail after 10 or 15 days. You are a bad person who is just trying to hide it for sometimeโ
Thoughts like this come to me. I donโt know what to do.
My whole day is being wasted, Iโm afraid to wake up now
I think you really need to figure out why you are trying to walk in this journey.
Whatโs your purpose? What do you want in life?
You canโt just say that you are walking in this journey because you want the usual benefits people say that comes from nofap: increased confidence, no more social anxiety, have a stronger body, etcโฆ Of course these benefits are real and they are definitely good. But is that really the only thing you want? These things are secondary goals. You need a primary goal.
From my side I started nofap 8 years ago (around your age), but I wasnโt really serious. I only wanted things like the benefits I mentioned above. But I never had a real purpose at first. At that time, I tried everything: willpower, blockers, training at the gym, read motivational books related to this issue, joined a few apps and even paid some subscriptions for helpโฆ Nothing worked. I would only go a maximum of 1-2 weeks before failing again.
Thatโs only 3 years ago that I realized that I never had a primary goal, a main purpose. Thatโs when I thought about where I was at that time and what I really wanted. Until I realized I wasnโt investing anytime in my faith. I am a Christian and I never thought about God all these years. Thatโs when I decided I would invest more time with Him. In October 2023, I had a drastic change when I decided to repent fully. Since then I am witnessing a transformation. I had streaks of 120 days, 150 days, 65 days, 345 daysโฆ Itโs working. I am getting free. I decided to think more of Jesus and invest more and more time in studying the Bible. Thatโs how I found my primary goal: to seek God.
Itโs all thanks to God. I tried all methods imaginable before. But all failed. Only with God it is possible. These other methods will only take you so far. Even if they will improve your life in some ways, they will all fail in freeing you totally. Only with God you can be free. Iโm not saying you shouldnโt try any of these methods at all, but they shouldnโt be your main shield against this opponent. God is.
I am sharing this with you Brother because I wanted to show you that it is important to rely on God. Think on it deeply and you can dm me if you have questions.
u knew the things i didnโt even share. I Really appreciate your time and knowledge.
I was chasing the secondary goals for all these years. Thatโs why I kept failing.
To be honest I feel like my primary goal is similar to yours, to be on the right side. To be with God and humanity.
The things Iโm addicted to are serving devil, one day it will make me do even bigger sins. Thatโs why I should be on Godโs side. Iโm Hindu. But I also didnโt pay much attention in religious things till now. I should be more close to God. I also feel like this is the only way of freedom. Thanks for reminding me big brother .
I wanted to share same thoughts as I shared with @Sampanyo
Self realisation is the key. You have the potential to get out through this, Focus on clean days a month point is to not fall into old habits.
The energy is so strong thatโs what Itโs called sexual energy you need to give that energy a proper direction. Do whatever it suits you , go outside , gym , hobby anything. You need to transmute your energy somewhere.
You can do orbit meditation start with some basics. You can search on internet thatโs a great meditation clearing all your 7 energy chakras where your energy stuck.
Last advice I wanna give is Focus on your discipline like follow certain rules throughout the day. The addiction inside your mind there is a way to defeat is to weak your old pathways adopting new pathways and building strong foundations.
Refer some books like easypeasy , your brain on โ โ โ โ by Gary Wilson. You will clearly know the brainwashing aspects of PMO.
Be clear :
P*rn doesnโt fill a void , it creates one.
This section is from EasyPeasy. Refer the book to understand the root cause of the problem. Wising you a best of luck ya Donโt lose hope
I completely agree. The most brilliant thing about being free is that that sexual energy can be redirected. You have learnt to put all that energy and excitement into โ โ โ โ - a key part of rewiring (and the most beneficial part) is learning to put that energy
and exitement into what it was destined to be put into - the things you really care about.
@flameheart1123 we can both look forward to this . It is one of the many rewards we will look forward to.
Once again, thank you to both of you
Confession โ
I just started counter again which has reached 7 days. Truth is I fapped every single day. I just ignored this app all these days so counter kept running. The shit is real, Iโm really addicted. My life is ruined, I have fucked every aspect of a human life.
My mind is blankโฆ
Wanna do accountability?
We can create a thread and report there
I wonโt be studying much but I need to focus on many other things including workout .
Will think about itโฆ Wanna join but not sure if I will be able to continue or not.
If you cannot continue due to other parts of life then my thoughts are with you.
If you can, but you do not feel strong enough, then simply try and then you will see how strong you are . We will be beside you man.
Yeah, itโs bad, but whenโs it going to get better? Try, with our help, and you will get better man.
The other parts of life is ruined because of this addiction actually. I have seen the vast difference between clean days and fapping days.
Thanks brother, I know thatโs the key.
Letโs do it brother.
Every morning when I wake up after fapping last night, I feel disgusted. I want to quit it forever. But again the same day routine of comfort and guilt starts which leads me to jerking off all the stress at night. And the cycle continuesโฆ
I want to end this loop. Iโm not sure if I will ever accomplish it or not. But I should keep trying. I want you to create a different thread for us.
Then you know what you need to do brother .
Letโs get that life that you want. Well get it together, beside you, and you will get it. Run. Fight for it. Get that life. Itโs yours to take if you reach out and grab it. Well be beside you in any case though man
Thanksโฆyou guys motivate a lot. Iโm getting my enthusiasm back
It is our honour man . We donโt like to see a guy struggle. Especially when we have seen him around.
Enthusiasm is the seed, and discipline the plant that grows from it. Youโll grow man .