We all know NoFap is a choice, but how do I reach that mindset?
Being a non-pmo’er is easy.
Don’t believe me? Then please please read this.
For your own sake, I beg you to read it, and take it seriously. Please don’t pass this by if you seriously want to start a new chapter in your life. And share it with others.
Here are some excerpts from The Freedom Model for Addictions, but not the whole story.
Just to add a bit of myself to the story.
I’ve been a long term weed smoker, I tried to stop many times, and would get very angry and irritable when others would smoke around me, let alone offer it.
I didn’t quit it, but just realised I didn’t like it. I didn’t like the feeling anymore.
I’m sometimes tempted, and have a few puffs, but then quickly realise “this ain’t good, this is making me feel awful” and just move on from it without guilt, worry or anything of the sort.
Here’s the link to the book another non-fappers here shared with me
It’s probably best to open in chrome
Hmmm
You made me question everything right now 
I have always considered that i am addicted and i am always in fight and urges would come to me at anytime to get me
Buy i have sometimes thought about it ( if i am in a battle and waiting for urges to come then they will come although i am assuming that they will always come to me at anytime which makes me tired of tge idea to be ready at all times leading to expectations that i will get beaten someday if j continue to take it like this )
In fact urges are real and they really are there , but what I missed was that urges aren’t urges , they are your “natural sexual desire " that every human have not only human it’s also present in animals
So urges are not something bad , it’s the way we deal with them , that is bad
When they came we do have the choice to control them by converting your mind into another activity
( and few minutes they will be gone like they weren’t already there ) or we empty them with our sexual partner which is the right way
But instead we go to empty them on someone we don’t even know by being third party making us get regular with things that is considered irregular to the society and after that all end we finally say " oh thus addiction is beating me hard, i will try my best next time (you are establishing your brain that there will be ** next time** ) creating by this an infinite loop which will take almost most of your life before you finally find out that this all could have been solved by using the right mindset.
Oh fok this man
Our life is miserable
One point i wanna add ( if this is an addiction, then if you stopped it will you die ???
Will you even have any symptoms ???
This is all an illusion we have made to trap ourselves in this repetitive loop )
With right mindset + the right environment + your partner = you will forget you had any issue like this
Fok this i am really angry and tired if this life
I don’t want to live all my life thinking that i am an addicted loser that needs to " recover” from this addiction
I want to live like normal person
Why am i doing this to my self
Why am i forcing myself to be caged in this trivial loop
Fok this all fok everything
If you’re struggling to download, feel free to pm me and I’ll happily send the book by email or WhatsApp
I like the identity of being a non-fapper. Being a nofapper means my identity is still associated with fapping, but a non-fapper means I’m now free from it. I focus on my life, my goals, and will not allow anything to steal my energy and hinder my goals.
I still think urges are real, but I do think some of the urges are self-imposed, due to the identity of nofapper. Thanks dude, this identity of non-fapper makes me feel that I will be free from it forever. 
I sometime feel like a carrot buried underneath the ground
The carrot grows underground.
The freedom model sets you up for success, a 100%.
Once again reminds me of something I read in the EasyPeasy model: “quitting is easy once you realise that you’re not giving anything up, because there was nothing to gain in the first place”. When you understand that you were losing every time you made an active choice, like choosing to gamble in a rigged casino, then all you really have to do is CHOOSE to stop that action. Suddenly, fighting this addiction is a simple choice. You have that freedom.
We can stay in a mindset of “Oh, this is an addiction, I’m a poor helpless soul that can’t help but PMO every trigger I see, I need support”, or we can start to think, “I have a problem but I can make my choice to do everything I can against it”. One is a victim mentality and the other is a self-empowering mentality.
The sooner we realise that there isn’t anything to fight, the sooner you realise that your choice to not do it outweighs any possible temptation that may come your way. Simple as.
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