The Mini Challenge

Daily Reset

I’ve been struggling to start this reboot. I have been edging the last few days and I’m resetting my counter every time I edge this time because I think a successful reboot needs me to not sow seeds to the flesh at that level in order for me to succeed. I’m still fighting and journeying forward on the Lord.

Struggles in my relationship and with nihilistic thoughts have had me feeling melancholy and without motivation.

Yet, I will reign in life though Jesus Christ. If this I am confident.

No more! New life now! Joy! Unspeakable joy!

Peace

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

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:shield: Day 55

Mini-Challenge
:pause_button: Shower every 2 days
:white_check_mark: Remember afternoon med.
:white_check_mark: No arguments with hunny.
:white_check_mark: Check-in

:moneybag: Coins Received: 3
:moneybag: Total Coins: 276

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:couple: Benefits: :blush:
:performing_arts: Mood: :blush:
:fire: Productivity: :blush:
:bath:t3: Proper Relaxation: :blush:

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:shield: Day 56

Mini-Challenge
:white_check_mark: Shower every 2 days
:white_check_mark: Remember afternoon med.
:white_check_mark: No arguments with hunny.
:white_check_mark: Check-in

:moneybag: Coins Received: 4
:moneybag: Total Coins: 280

:disappointed::neutral_face::slight_smile::smiley::blush:

:couple: Benefits: :blush:
:performing_arts: Mood: :blush:
:fire: Productivity: :blush:
:bath:t3: Proper Relaxation: :smiley:

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Hi Forodwraith I desperately need even MUST! make changes like you.
So WhAt?? Is holding you back from changing job, relationship etc? RBOOtr81

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I felt inspired this morning (late morning) to write the following. I’ve had the idea in my head for awhile it’s a fragment of a post apocalyptic manuscript. After the earth has been devastated and all modern technology , internet connected devices, phones, computers are obsolete and useless with no electrical power to run anything, no understanding of how to create electricity or charge a mobile phone. Maybe centuries after nuclear war there are still maybe books or accounts of this thing called porn addiction but it’s really hard for the inhabitants of this new world to understand how a generation could be ensnared by a porn habit. So I’ve tried to use non typical language to make my point and see the world through their eyes although now I’ve started I’ll probably want to rewrite it or use different words but this is a first attempt and it’s designed to make a strong point which I think we will resonate with as we stare aghast at ourselves and ask ourselves:
What happened to us? Both individually and as a generation

There came a time in the late 20th and early 21st century when men (well largely men) were becoming so enchanted by these moving images and still images of the opposite gender as if to deify and exalt certain members of it above what would be considered normal or natural.

In a bizarre way these public female prostitutes were both being publicly shamed through degrading sexual acts and yet celebrated and admired at the same time.

Although life for these famous sex slaves appeared lavish and luxurious little was known of their private anguish and suffering. Indeed humans were not created for such degrading treatment so many voices still spoke out against this phenomenon.
It was through the sheer magic of highly complicated technologies lost to us today that moving and still images of women in degrading sexual postures were made available to the masses. literally any person and normally a man would go to his handheld device (which was a marvel then and a total mystery to us today following the apocalypses and devastations) and seek satisfaction and pleasure through such images.
It seems very odd to us today that so many were in the thrall of their handheld devices, sat at their “computers” which were not really used for computing mathematical sums as one might suppose but rather used to summon up and procure these enchanting and erotic images.

Records show that the vast majority of humankind were in thrall to their technological devices and nearly all the men and a large proportion of women spent considerable time staring at still and moving pictures of women and men involved in sexual practices.
Typically the women were the main spectacle and were treated quite badly it is believed in most depictions. What is so puzzling to us today is that Men because it was largely men who were so enchanted and ensnared by these images would prefer these depictions however realistic to actual women of the opposite sex.
Apparently one factor in this mass obsession was the sheer abundance and novelty of the images and moving images( yes with sound it is believed! )
Did the men think that the women on the screens were able to satisfy their desires for sex and intimacy, for friendship and companionship?
It seems ludicrous to us today but our depictions of women are crude engravings, sculptures and drawings whereas their representations were in stunning minute detail it is believed.
Also it is believed men were able to speak with some of these women over great distances and yet still see them in absolute clarity on their many screens either undressed or involved in a sexual act of some sort.
So many men (and women) were thus ensnared by this practice and the governments of the time did little to prevent these activities or warn against it.
This activity of ’ looking’ linked with self stimulation became so commonplace that after many years a few groups arose in opposition to it.
Many men of this time suddenly seemed to realise that this practice was neither natural or healthy. One group that formed called itself ‘nofap’ another group the ‘rewire community’ and as bands of soldiers rallied together to encourage eachother to stop this practice which had taken a hold of their lives and thinking.

This group encouraged self restraint, self denial and the respect of women in an era when women were simultaneously empowered and degraded

This group promised eachother to not self stimulate and to record any act of self pleasuring particularly with these erotic images.
In this way these groups held eachother to a higher standard than the world around them.
It took many of the group years before they achieved what could be considered actual progress.

Our reports show that this group enjoyed a measure of success with many leaving behind the false and obviously empty pleasures of self stimulation to erotic depictions.
The counter system and support offered encouraged many to leave this life habit behind and pursue new life habits to replace it.
Many went on to have fulfilling relationships with women (and men)

Did all in this group ultimately succeed in stopping this negative and self indulgent practice?
Were some still indulging into the later years of their lives even to their very deathbeds?

The answer to that I do not know

Can you answer that question for yourself reader?

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@Rebooter81 That was powerful, brother. The imagery really helps frame our journey in perspective. Makes you think what those on the outside looking in would say about our behaviour.

What happened to us?!

Those questions at the end…Man. I’ve met a man in his 70s who’s still struggling to break free. We have to figure this out before it’s too late for us and 30-50 years have gone by.

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Currently my Visa is tied to my job and I feel lean to finish my agreed period of work which is at least another year. Therefore, I cannot easily change jobs however I can make changes about how I do my job and I had a good conversation with a senior co-worker about how to improve the quality of both my work (production) and of my job (the experience of work). It’s not a guaranteed game changer but there is lots of little by little.

Relationship, too, I’m not ready to end. When I pray I feel like the Lord keeps emphasizing the need for their process, their development, their capacity and I need to make space for this. This space also helps stay dependency or other unhealthy forms of attachment. It also helps me put my trust in the Lord for outcomes rather than in my own action and the answers I try to arrive at prematurely because I lack the maturity of patience and long-suffering.

In both arenas I have the opportunity to grow in patience, in endurance, in discipline, and in self-control. I have the opportunity to mature.

Thank you for the good questions.

I’m on Day One. It’s been a week of shedding myself up and today I was super tempted too. I came across an Instagram post that said, are you ready to make him (Jesus) your foundation? And it asked for a slide response. That was my way out for me and for now I am standing in his grace.

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

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:shield: Day 57

Mini-Challenge
:pause_button: Shower every 2 days
:x: Remember afternoon med.
:white_check_mark: No arguments with hunny.
:white_check_mark: Check-in

:moneybag: Coins Received: 2
:moneybag: Total Coins: 282

:disappointed::neutral_face::slight_smile::smiley::blush:

:couple: Benefits: :smiley:
:performing_arts: Mood: :smiley:
:fire: Productivity: :blush:
:bath:t3: Proper Relaxation: :smiley:

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Day 0

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Well, after 38 days here i am not going to give up.
I wonder why this bad habit can’t bring joy into my life, but only the absence of it. I made some progress during those days, i really did, but by staying clean i have the power of will to continue on, i feel like i am worth something. So here i start all over again.

It promises everything but gives only shame, here are some facts about how bad this industry is, taken from the article “Por*ography Facts: 20 that will shock you”:

  1. Though many people use PMO to “relax” or “relieve stress,” it can cause more mental health issues in both men and women, according to a study published in 2013 by researchers in the University of New Orleans’ psychology department. These include anxiety, depression, insecurity, and body image issues, to name a few.

  2. Studies report that people who use PMO feel less love for their spouse/partner and are more dissatisfied with their spouse/partner than people who do not use PMO, according to the psychology department at the University of Arkansas.

  3. Despite the high numbers of people who use PMO, only 29 percent of Americans think that using PMO is moral. Some 23 percent of women say that using PMO is moral, compared to 35 percent of men. The numbers come from a study conducted by the Public Religion Research Institute.

  4. People who view PMO regularly are less likely to get married than those who do not. This is because users see PMO as a substitute for marital sexual gratification, according to a 2016 study published in the Eastern Economic Journal.

  5. A new PMO film is created in the United States every 39 minutes.

  6. Studies have shown, according to Focus on the Family, that the average age at which a child is exposed to PMO is eight years old.

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Today I went to my college after long while, and I met my female colleagues, I was happy to see them, I talked to them and laughed, but I’ve noticed something, even they look great and have nice shapes, curves and sex appeal my brain take them as sisters, no sexual desire to them. And I know that’s PMO. How the hack I didn’t have no arousal impulse towards them. If I see my colleagues on screen, then I will have a boner for sure. They fucked my brains men. :cry:

Fell down the proverbial stairs. Pray for me brothers, it’s going to take everything of me and heaven’s help to break the grip of this which so easily besets me.

Day Zero reset, reboot

@anon67854825 @Gk-00

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Scary stats thanks for this post

Saturday
No mini challenges completed the past couple of days due to work and such :pray: but it’s okay.

Really tired tonight, but wanted to check-in regardless and wish you guys well
:candle::candle::candle:
@Forodwaith @Gk-00
@Rebooter81 @Forerunner @Positivebloke

I had Mass this morning, life candles for you guys, my friend and myself.
And had a good confession :pray:

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It’s embarrassing to say but I’m not doing so hot. Another reset and some lessons learned

  1. avoid introspection that is not initiated by the Holy Spirit because until I’ve had time to detox I have a lot of darkness that I’ve allowed to come into me
  2. I need to stick to accountability
  3. it’s proper to engage in spiritual warfare because this is one

Day Zero, reset, let’s reboot

@Aoshigreen @Gk-00

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Sunday

Sorry I’ve been a bit absent - I’m dealing with other things at the moment. Your point about introspection really resonates @Forodwaith

I feel I really must not go too deep at the moment, but use my energy on what I know to do.

Forgive me, if I’m not a helpful companion at the moment :pray:
@Forodwaith @Gk-00
@Rebooter81 @Forerunner

I’m doing well, no challenges today, but I will make time and schedules :pray:
You’re in my prayers, I’m lighting candles, and in Mass as much as possible.

Please pray for me towards Lenten ways, and for grace upon my elderly friend :pray:

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:shield: Day 58

Mini-Challenge
:white_check_mark: Shower every 2 days
:white_check_mark: Remember afternoon med.
:white_check_mark: No arguments with hunny.
:white_check_mark: Check-in

:moneybag: Coins Received:
:moneybag: Total Coins: 286

:disappointed::neutral_face::slight_smile::smiley::blush:

:couple: Benefits: :smiley:
:performing_arts: Mood: :slight_smile:
:fire: Productivity: :blush:
:bath:t3: Proper Relaxation: :smiley:

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:shield: Day 59

Mini-Challenge
:pause_button: Shower every 2 days
:white_check_mark: Remember afternoon med.
:white_check_mark: No arguments with hunny.
:white_check_mark: Check-in

:moneybag: Coins Received: 3
:moneybag: Total Coins: 289

:disappointed::neutral_face::slight_smile::smiley::blush:

:couple: Benefits: :smiley:
:performing_arts: Mood: :smiley:
:fire: Productivity: :smiley:
:bath:t3: Proper Relaxation: :smiley:

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Monday

@Forodwaith @Gk-00

I was out all day and went to see my Dad on the way home. It’s been a good day, and I’m working through this thing that has been a dark cloud for a few years.
With my friend, Dad & his partner we could talk about these things and the ugliness of this situation - but I’m feeling great, healthy and very well.

No challenges complete again :sweat: but it’s okay, cheer up :sweat_smile: tomorrow isn’t such a busy day

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Day One and I can feel recovery happening. In hopeful in the Holy Spirit and thankful for a conversation with @anon67854825

Peace

@Gk-00

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I wanna quit smoking… Is anyone interested to join?

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