For those who do have a knack for meditative/yogic exercises, a powerful transmutation exercise is the following : Sit comfortably, close your eyes, flex your PC muscle, begin breathing in deeply and slowly, vocalise mentally the sound HAM (HHHAAAAAMMMMM), imagine sexual energy in the form of light going up from your creative organs through your spine to your brains, and breathe out quickly and powerfully while saying SAHHH as a sigh (no vocal chords used), releasing the PC muscle. Repeat.
@raj10 That is disappointing news, my friend. You were doing very well.
What led to the edging? Let us know here so we can help you overcome it next time.
Your personal counter is up to you, but if you watched pornography, that is a relapse as per the rules of this challenge. Edging should definitely count as a relapse, unless you are only leaving pornography behind and not masturbation.
Iām not sure how aware you are about it, but edging is extremely dangerous to your sexual health. It is more damaging to the body than a single masturbation session would be. It strengthens the bond to the addiction within your brain and makes it much harder to escape. Edging can lead to severe cases of erectile dysfunction and extended flatlines of 1-2 years.
Brother, then x without ejaculation. Is it a kind of edging?? Can this be considered as Edging? Because lots of people who wants to preserve semen and sexual energy are doing thisā¦ even the guy who shared 2 years of nofap did the sameā¦ he has x without ejaculation with his partnerā¦
Bro i am in Nofap but i couldnāt use that energy in a productive way? Many people said nofap bring miracles we can achieve our goals easily like thatā¦ But it doesnāt work for meā¦ Will i need more sexual energy as i get accumulated when i continue my celibacy for more days like one year?
Dears, any thoughts??
Day 14
One affirmation : itās easy to break pmo addiction.
One thing I am thankful for: my teachers
report another clean day
urges 0
practice 2
diary: enjoying small things in daily life.
I have read it completely. I did not knew this earlier, I am shocked hearing the truth behind edging. I will never edge it will be gap or nofap. I have really ruined my health.
I didnāt watched porn since last 2-3 months but instead of porn I used to watch erotic web-series as a substitute to porn, now I I do feel that there is no difference between these two both help in adding dopamine to your brain.
I will reset my counter.
But I wish that I have let you down, I promised earlier and broke it. I think I should get my counter on 30 days or at least 16 days where I was, and then join. THIS TIME NO EDGING OR TOUCHING NOTHING.
Thank you so much @Forerunner. Being accountable to you guys on this challenge is helping me stay on track, like today when I felt so frustrated I just wanted to do anything to kill the negative feelings. I am getting better. Iām just going through a rough patch and Iāll be better soon. Iāll try to maintain the number of times per day that I practise the urge-overcoming method.
Day 2
One affirmation - I have more than enough strength to overcome the challenges that come my way.
One thing Iām thankful for in my life - Thereās always a way out of difficulty.
Progress for the day - Free and clean day.
Number of urges defeated/practices completed - About 1 strong urge today and practised 6x
@Backincontrol How are you doing brother? Do you feel prepared for when urges return? Itās advisable to practise a minimum of 2-3 times a day - takes less than 2 minutes to accomplish, but the practise is so worth it. When we get strong urges, that practice kicks in and makes defeating the habit a habit.
@HappySoul Glad to see you keeping up with your commitments brother! How has defeating the urges felt? Thanks to you and Wyatt for your advice to our brother raj10.
@Wyatt No, sexual intercourse without ejaculation is very different to edging; there are even books saying that this is a healthier method of having intercourse. What we need to understand is that we have been using our HANDS! We are not designed to spend hours stimulating ourselves to computer screens with our hands. Our sexual desires are there to drive us towards wives and child rearing. The energy released during orgasm is huge - enough to produce another human life. Some animals die after having an orgasm; this is how intense it is. Constantly releasing that much energy drains the body. Sexual intercourse without orgasm doesnāt have this side-effect.
@rakshit11 Loving the progress bro - keep it going!
Check-in Day 6 (Day 186 hard mode with GODās Help) One affirmation:I am getting better and better every day. One thing Iām thankful for in my life:I am thankful for learning new things. Progress for the day:Another day free and clean! Number of urges:0 Number of practices:10
Youāve learned something that you didnāt know before. Iām sure you will think twice before edging in the future. No edging, no peeking brother. Leave it all behind. Youāre not missing out on anything. Life is so much better without this addiction. Make sure that you donāt use any porn-substitutes. Lessons have been learned bro.
As long as Iām here, this challenge is a tool to help you. You can always rejoin and re-commit to success this time. Stick to the rules of the challenge. You practice 10 times a day like @HappySoul is doing, and you will laugh when urges come. You purify your mind like @Wyatt and you will not even get urges. It has been 95-96 days since my last strong urge. Itās more than possible for you to achieve the same.
Defeating urges feels good. It is basically past memory defeated within a few seconds. Sometimes, I have urges to type some names which I remember and not able to forget. I do not even remember faces properly and urges for names feel more powerful than the p itself. Any suggestions on this please.
@HappySoul Change the wording of step A -say instead, āI want to searchā¦and thatās okay.ā
Fully accept it in step B. Itās okay to want to type those names in, as long as we donāt do it. Wanting to do it isnāt a crime. If someone wants to kill someone out of anger but they keep calm,. arenāt they a good person? Itās the action that counts.
Remind yourself in step C that you have the choice to type filth into the search bar. You have that freedom. No one is stopping you. But you donāt actually want to do it.
Really picture your vision in step D. Think about what it will feel like. See how that life is what you truly want, and searching those names will not help you get there.
@Forerunner You are right, I never thought about it that way. Making a habit out of defeating the habit could go a long way. Iām going to practice it today onwards as I feel I will need it more in the he coming weeks then before. I usually donāt have issues in dealing with urges but as the streaks grow, so can the urges.
Reporting day 19
Affirmation - I feel more connected to the cycles of nature.
Gratitude - I am thankful for the help and support in this forum.
Progress - clean day
Urges 0 / practice 1
Affirmation - I am a hero. I am a winner. I am successful. I am physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy. I am thankful for - Iām thankful for the help and mercy I receive from God. Progress - streak + 1 Number of urges defeated, practices completed - 4, 10
One affirmation: I am getting better and better every day.
One thing Iām thankful for in my life: I am thankful for learning new things.
Progress for the day: Another day free and clean!
Number of urges: 0
Number of practices: 10
Affirmation - I am a hero. I am a winner. I am successful. I am physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy.