You have to quit first. 12 years time is gone. are u understanding? Why you didnt had this thought earlier.
You will feel it once you are free from this addiction and are meditating and exercising regularly, it is just PMO that is not letting you achieve your spiritual and personal goals.
Yeah bro! This is not the correct approach to ene the addiction…doing what we want!!..We have to do what needs to be done.Isnt it?
I wish i had meet you guys earlier😭Having read many of your diaries and posts are making me wiser wiser day by day…I really feel lil bit transformation in me…from angry young man to a wiser…calm young man😎
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Godfuckindammitt DUDEEEE… GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!!! You are not the dude who had that long streak anymore. More like you gave up, because you failed your Akhand brahmacharya!
They best way to get rid of something or building a habit is taking baby steps! Why don’t you go on easy more for sometime, get your rythm back, and then go on hard mode. And hard mode being “no pmo”. And not " no life". Do shit you enjoy, don’t run away from girls, don’t be that weirdo who closes his eyes when women are in their vicinity. Trust me there are people like that here. Live your life, do things that make you happy. Whatever that maybe, except pmo that is. Take it easy, don’t be so hard on yourself that you hate the whole process. If you hate it , you won’t stick with it. It’s the hard truth believe me or not
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That is the purpose of this forum, I have grown a lot since I joined this forum and I am not planning on leaving this forum ever, this forum got me into habit of journalling, this forum helped me quit pmo, and I have made many good friends here who are always motivating and supporting, this forum helped me with studies too with awesome study challenges.
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Guys I know you guys think I am an idiot. But there has to be a better way than this.
EasyPeasy sadly did not work. And I know how it would work as well.
I have to listen to it every day for the rest of my life.
As soon as I stop listening to it, the old beliefs might slowly creep in. Not after a week or even a month but slowly and eventually.
Guys you all know me more than my family and friends. I have a really long diary.
I know what works :
- Being immensely dissatisfied with yourself and hating yourself to a degree where you have no other choice but to quit
- Having accountability
- Working obsesseively
- Exercising to the point of you cannot stay still without it
Yes, I have tried it all. I have reached one 145 day streak years ago. And multiple 90 day streaks. Alhough these days I am hardly crossing a week.
I became hooked to exercisin guys. Not kidding. I could not sit down and study because I needed to release that energy. That is not a healthy state to be guys.
And I have been to the point of hating myself to a Goggins level and I have pushed myself to do things I never thought before.
I have tried brainwashing, affirmations and everything.
These are great and they work.
TEMPORARILY.
What is permanent is if you get a HIGH greater than this addiction offers.
How do we get that ? Spiritual Connection with the Supreme (Follow Sadhguru).
Extreme sense of Purpose (Follow people like Elon Musk).
I am lacking in these 2 areas and these are the ultimate.
This addiction would be nothing if I build myself to a level that I have spiritual bliss and extreme purposefulness.
I am not a fapper. And I do not want to live life a fapper.
I was born to do something GREAT and I want to reach that level no matter how long it takes.
Yeah bro! Finding this forum and you all guys is a life changing moment for me…First my mission was no fap for about 1000 days…now Iam thinking i have to make my streak for lifelong (no pmo only)…Before i used to think that i was fighting this battle alone and hating myself…but now understand that so many young men are fighting this devil and share horrible stories…I love you guys! If i can make my streak 1000 days it will all be beacause of RC …bcz of you guys😊
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Read the book . dont use the audio version.
Shit 
, then you already know all the tricks.
I don’t know about this 
, I am just a happy person with 59 days streak who knows he is never falling in that trap again 
. I have days where I don’t exercise a lot or don’t study ( work) too much but I never think about going back to PMO and I am happy with this mindset. And I am fairly confident and careful that I am never gonna watch ■■■■ again in my life.
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Bro this will be counter productive. If you do follow Sadhguru or Meditation thing they say be kind to yourself and forgiving. Guilt is not a positive emotion. BE HAPPY.
Work hard because you enjoy it not because you want to achieve more, not because you are dissatisfied.
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I am out of likes here’s a like for you 
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Please read it again. I think you misunderstood it.
Nope I didn’t hate myself even when I was addicted but I hated the trap I was in which was not letting me achieve true happiness and my true potential, you need not hate yourself at any point in life but you should know what’s right for you and work towards it.
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I understand what you are saying. But compare this with the drug addicts like who is addicted with cocacine. Do you think demoralising more, saying negative stuff more to them will help them quit?
Saying to smokers that it causes cancer never help them to quit. In fact it increase the uses.
No it’s often they need kindness for them. When they feel someone doesn’t look at them with pathetic look they they start to improve. They need more love not more hate.
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Ok now I was so busy showering my absolute wisdom here that I forgot I was in a study challenge 
, I have to complete at least 4 hours of study by night and I am at 1 hour. See you folks, enjoy life @TheFinalFrontier bro, hope you achieve what you want.
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I have been in the same situation like you. Earlier I used to thought that I have to follow akhand bhramcharya at any cost . So there were days when I used fap to start again just because I watched a girl for more than a sec. This is what addiction is. But now I realised it’s not possible to be complete monk without any practice . It needs time . You need to train your mind to become like that. First quit the PMO and come back to the normal state like a normal person
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Brother don’t be so hard on yourself at very beginning. I have done this mistake , it’s always leads to failure. Don’t consider that you failed because you took a second glance on a woman.
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Ok , If easy peasy doesn’t worked for you. Trying going for another ways . Start being connected to God . Chant name of krishna or any other deity you love. Listen to bhajans and songs.
You can’t become a spiritual person in a day . It takes so much practice.
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I really appreciate the wise advises and support that I have received and you are right. I should take it slow and easy. I need some comtemplation and will get back in 30 minutes to announce my decision on how to proceed. This time I want to make sure that I do not fuck up. If I have to post here daily, so be it if I have to quit this forum altogether so be it.
Love you guys and thanks for your support.
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I have decided that I need to take strict action and should be willing to do anything it takes to never fap in my life.
That’s right. I will make the perfect plan and will try to follow it as diligently as possible.
Why I fap :
- Staying at room all day
- No social life
- Working all day
- No hobbies
- Not working out often enough
- Feeling satisfied in life
- Being ok with being average
What worked in the past :
- Making it absolutely necessary to never fap
- Having an insane level of urgency
- Reminding myself all day that this is my last shot at life
- Staying outside all day and spending minimal time in room
- Pushing my comfort zone taking challenges
- Accountability on this group
Side effects of my previous attempts were :
- Neediness towards women since I needed some sexual outlet anyway
- Extreme dissatisfaction towards life
- Dependent on the community
New additions :
- Focussing on and reminding my purpose multiple times during the day
- Evolving spiritually
NOTE : These additions aim to keep myself blissful and focussed on my purpose so I do not need it anymore. This would be ultimate. Also, both of these would kill my desire to have sex all the time since I would already be eternally blissful (IDEALLY)
Final plan :
Keeping both old and new habits as I am not as strong as I fool myself into believing
- POST THE FOLL. THINGS ON REWIRE 3 TIMES A DAY : (Brainwashing - EasyWay)
- Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm and women are not a source of pleasure. You have been using them as a way to numb your uneasiness and discomfort. They are PAIN
- I am an Akhanda Brahmachari. Sex is only for Procreation. And you can be friends with women without sex.
**AFFIRMATIONS 3 TIMES A DAY : - Goal visualization
- Negative visualization
- This is my last chance
I cannot unfortunately reduce screen time and work time or time spent in room alone as it is essential for my future goals. So I have to learn to live with it. And be stronger than this.
I hereby take an eternal vow of celibacy and I will post regularly on this forum. 3 times a day
STARTING NOW
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