Hey @mamacitabla I am glad to be of some help, and your plan sounds great, have fun! 
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Be patient, trust takes time.
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That’s what I’ve been trying to tell him. Being stern is fine, but he goes a little far.
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I can help you if you need. I’ve been right where you’re at and I actually ended up telling my girlfriend. I can give you some advice and how best to handle the situation if you need help. Just message me on this forum 
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so
what you think your relationship will look like?
because i dont know how to start after i told her
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Well I told my girlfriend August of last year, so it’s been about 7 months and we’re doing ok. The only difference is that self control around her is much harder, and it hurts more when I relapse. But I’m glad she knows because I don’t have to fake who I am anymore, that can be a good and a bad thing. All in all it just means I could either take the opportunity as a way to work on myself, or I could continue to do what I was doing and feel worse. Unfortunately I chose the bad option and I’m still struggling. She refuses to leave me though because she loves me that much, so that leaves me with a lot of responsibility. So my advice to you is to man up and take responsibility. We have a God given responsibility to lead our relationships and be the head of our family. So we need to take it seriously. So to sum everything up:
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Be responsible.Take blame for your actions, because no one is at fault but yourself.
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Work as hard as you fucking can to beat this addiction, because your woman should be the only woman in your life, except for your family, and if you disagree you don’t deserve a girlfriend.
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Now that she knows about your addiction you may be more sexual towards her, DO NOT DO THAT. I did it, and things only got worse. Be in control. Prove to her that you’re worth her love.
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Give her time to think about it. She needs to think about if you’re someone she wants to be with. If she decides no, then she didn’t really love you. That’s the scary part.
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Don’t make her your accountability partner. Maybe if you’re married, but if you’re just dating don’t do that. Every relapse will hurt her way more than it hurts you. Sure, you can check in with her every once in a while, but not every day, or every relapse. Let her know if things are going good or bad, but never go into detail. You watching porn is the equivalent of you cheating on her. It will make her feel like she’s not good enough for you. We don’t want that. So my advice is to instead find a good accountability partner here. Choose me if you want
That’s about all I can think of right now. If you have any questions let me know! And most importantly you’ve got this, I believe in you!
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I disagree with people telling ur gf will see u as weak
Because i said my gf all of my addictions
And initially she felt super bad
But she has been supporting me all this while
And whenever i was a bit low and on weak point she was the one motivating me and she has stayed by my side all this while
But deep down i have the fear that she might consider me weak someday in future
And thats scares the shit out of me
But the only way to not let this thought ever come true
U need to beclme stronger
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I totally agree with this
Many time on day 9 or 10 somethjng
We start texting but i m the one who initiate it and when she asks what about ur nofap i say i can manage but i end up relapsing and i regret why did i do it
And so i no more do sexting
When u r ono nofap
There will be few days where u are more hornier
But donot substitue sex with ur gf
Insteak just control the urges
Urges are normal
They were there when we didnt even discover ■■■■ and mastrubation
And we didnt struggle then because we considered them to be normal and we didnt need a release from those urges
Just telling u again
Donot every substitute sex with loved one for pmo
@Finding_Myself
I guess we have gone through sinilar things in life😅
And i agree with this point too
In the beginning i used to tell her every single day
But when i relapsed it used to make her upset a lot
So now what i focus on is where im happy with the day
Relapse is secondary thought
I just wanna stay happy achieve my goals and workhard
Nofap is just a by product of me improving my life
I do relapse but it happens when im not productive or i start using social media
But the main focus is to grow strong mentally, physically and spiritually
So now when my gf asks how are u doing on nofap
I tell the truth that whether it is going good or bad
And i dont talk about streaks
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but how about sex w girlfriend
when is a “good time” to do it?
okay you cant listen to your urges every time
but when she is attractive to you its normal to have s w her
she also need to see that ibdesire her etc
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So up till now, you still masturbate and watch porn?. It’s almost 15days.
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To be honest, I recently switched phones so it’s worse, 4 day streak.
Isn’t it terrible? Not me able to open up about it to my girlfriend? I feel like such a coward 
Hi there, I hope you are fine.
Willing to communicate each other especially friend and family about addiction sometime embarrasing. I understand that we some time feel annoying ourself but for me it was a good courage to talk when they are ready to know when fair circumstance. I know it is hard but do not let down yourself, maybe you can talk with in good way such as write down and send privately by email or messages that you need to tell it.
I want to share for you and suggest for learn about it.
Herewith my information. Thanks 
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guys i relapsed several times in one day…
sometimes i feel thath i cant control it
im little affraid of it
what shluld i do?
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Ya go ahead
I also shared this with my girlfriend
At first she was little bit upset from me
But I promised her that I’ll quit this addiction and now she is fine and I can discuss with her now
And after telling her I am grinding hard to quit this addiction never before
Yeah you can tell her about your addiction. She can be there to help you overcome this bro. Keep on fighting.
I also have that same problem. What I do is keep on going until one day I manage to go over the limit hitting over 16 days of no-fap not lossing hope.
Yes bro have fun have sex it’s fine. You will feel better and that’s not a fail. This way you can keep your relationship advanced and you won’t be afraid of a breakup.
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