I understand that doing the things you love to spend time on is difficult.
That is why I said we need to do task which are boring or might not result in immediate reward.
Your brain produces dopamine when it wantâs you to repeat certain actions like ( eating food, get high/drunk, sex, etc)
And once u are done with the action your brain release chemicals like serotonin , oxytocin , vasopressin.
These are the chemicals which actually give the feeling of pleasure.
That means every time u have an urger, your brain is releasing dopamine(getting u exited for things that might lead in releasing of serotonin , oxytocin , vasopressin)
Here is the trick,
We need to train the brain from releasing excessive dopamine by flashing images from memory and balance the chemicals by re learning that fapping isnât real successâŠ
Truth is that real success takes time and offten the things you need to do to get there are mostly boring and donât release dopamine.
But by doing these tasks you are actually forcing your brain to re learn the meaning of success and donât fall of the trap of fap.
Please if you are confused I insist everyone please watch this video. This is what openned my eyes to the Vulnerable brain
Listen drawing and painting in not only enjoyable during the process but also when youâre done with your piece, you feel like youâve been productive and didnât waste your time
Day 5: peasant. Not the most pleasant adjective but what can I say I deserve it. Does any of you avoid pmo when youâre about to get a test result in college or youâre hoping to get a job or passing the entry exam for a college abroad? Because I used to do that in college so God wonât be mad at me and I could get good grades if I wasnât sure about my results.
yea I would, at that time I didnât have clue that I was addicted but knew it was a sin and at that time i used to make sure not to miss any prayers as well.
See, this is us humans, when we need something, only then we turn to our Lord and he still answers our prayers despite we being ignorants at other times.
congratulations on going to 7days without chaser effect, I mean it seriously wow, Ma sha Allah, keep goingâ:v:
I understand that you are not able follow your routine and low on energy, but how about using this opportunity of gaining countless rewards from Allah on laylatul qadr, (praying on this night holds the reward of praying for more than 83years)
And more importantly there is high chances of our dua getting accepted, so do dua for getting free of this addiction once and for all and go ahead with your dreams for the sake of Allah(swt)âŠ
I mean you know in almost 7 years of addiction the only ramadans when I relapsed were this year and 2018. But the 2015, 2016 2017 2019 and 2020 were pmo free. I noticed that because of my resistance sometimes I can spend 1 or 2 weeks sometimes 3 without pmo but I always managed to relapse either because of strong urges or because of boredom. Anyway At least I managed this year to decrease significantly my Pmo activity and did the longest strike ever so all hope is not lost.
Day 8 and I gotta say I AM SO DEPRESSED RIGHT NOW I want to kill my self Iâm in a very bad place just thinking about my life and my future is so stressful I feel like I want to end it
.You can do this time.You are completely fine. Trust me. This is just a test and your mind and emotions are trying to control you. Hang on there, You ll be fine. Let this time passes. Meanwhile try your best to figure out a way out of it. Divert yourself by doing something but say no to PMO. Plese stay strong
Okay I am sorry.I misunderstood. First thing, Stop crying. Second, try to find someone close people around you with whom you can share ur problems. If possible find alternative ways to tackle the situation. I would like you to stop stressing yourself more. You deserve a better life.but Not allowing yourself to die or loosing you. Never ever dare to take such extreme steps. Look around you. I am sure you ll find this world beautiful. Donât give up. Certainly, I can only say based on my level of experience and environments,at the end you need to find a way out.We all are listening to your story⊠okay,at least you can count on me. I am listening to you. fight back now and tell me how you faught backâŠYou are strong already.
You know itâs really nice of you but Iâm really stuck I live in one worst places in the world (Algeria) and this only going to get worse, my problem is I have no future here Iâm incredibly lonely and miserable here I never belong in this place and with these people thatâs why Iâm so sad. I want to leave this forsaken place by any means Iâm tired of this, I feel like my life is iot worth living at all
Okay, you identified that place is not safe/likely to stay. Why do you imagine rest of the life there? You are life matters. Try to find some source of income over there. To be honest, I have no idea how rules,regulations and complicated your situation but only thing I can say you that, itâs not the end. You find a way out to move from the place. At any point of time, things gets change and our situation as well. Trust me, We have to keep on believing on something and work for our career.Then family. Life is so much to explore and experience. Each and every experience makes us stronger in future
something fresh and good deep inside .
yea I would, at that time I didnât have clue that I was addicted but knew it was a sin and at that time i used to make sure not to miss any prayers as well.
