Porn and dopamine

Porn is sick and evil.

Many of us started from soft porn and then our fantasises and porn content grew to extreme level because of our dopamine level increased like drugs.

I used to watch soft porn then hardcore to extreme. From normal celebrity sex to teachers, MILF, Stepmom, aunt and sister in law (brother’s wife). This has cause my mind to become more sickening as I started to fantasise about my aunts and sister in law.

The last few years has been even more disturbing and hard as I somehow managed to find a topless picture of my sister in law in her laptop. I made a copy and start masturbating with other online friends on pornsites with her nude picture. This got me even more addictive. I know, I feel ashamed and sick for doing such thing.

Since then I’ve always fantasised her and got addicted as I would think of her very sexually and would watch porn and later recreate that scene in my mind but have her as the pornstar.

I didn’t know that porn would increase my dopamine to a level where pornstars is no longer my interest and this delusional pornstar that I have created of my sister in law in my mind has become my ultimate porn video.

I was never this evil, low, cheap and inhumane but this is what porn and dopamine does when certain types of porn no longer arouse you, so you look for the ‘Next’ thing that does.

I have been avoiding my sister in law for a while but she doesn’t know why. She has called me but I would ignore her. I am trying to elimate this sick mind as I know I am very sick in the head now due to porn.

I am now 2 days without fapping over my sister in law (usually her pictures or fantasise her in my mind).

If you have any ideas or have a solution to solve my problem then please help.

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Don’t take the help of pictures or porn to fantasize. Fapping frequency will reduce.

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Hey @Sean85! I salute you for coming out for help on this platform and also cheers to you for figuring out that your state of mind is a sickness. But the awesome thing about this situation is that we can literally rewire our brains to get out of such situations. And the first step in that direction is admitting to oneself that such fantasies are evil and sick and should be gotten rid of ASAP! So cheers to you for already accomplishing the first hurdle.

Bro I feel your emotion because even I was into porn so much so that I used to initially watch normal BF - GF porn, then I started drifting towards categories like Teacher, Milf, stepmom, stepsister. Self realisation is the only real source of motivation that you can get in order to get out of a bad habit.

Now all you need to do is get hold of your life back and make it busy with your Short term goals and work towards achieving the Long term goals. Also surround yourself with people as often as you can so that the thought of relapse doesn’t even enter your mind. If you live alone then try not to stay indoors for longer periods of time because loneliness tends to trigger urges. Get yourself a friend or a companion to whom you can call even after midnight for help if you feel like relapsing. Try meditation. I would like to give you a tip about how I meditate. Close your eyes and imagine that there is a lot of energy stored in your crotch, now try to imagine that this energy is moving towards your brain through your spine. Doing this exercise even for 5 minutes will take away your erection and bring your mind at peace. It also clears the Brain Fog.

The first week will seem to be very long and passing by very slowly but after that you will be willing to not let your nofap streak go to waste. Your decision to not mastrubate will be more certain and rock-solid. And one more most important thing is to realise that you are not doing nofap to relieve your mind of sexual thoughts but to mold your life into a routine which is meant to be the Real Way of Life! Porn doesn’t make us a Man, it just makes us a spectator to the sexual act of two other human beings, which is really disgusting and sadist.

Please don’t use any social media apps like Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter in order to avoid encounter with sensuous photos of models or actresses.

So here you go my friend. Accomplish the nofap streak of 1 week and then you’ll know that nofap is the correct thing to stick to. The confidence and self pride that develops with Nofap will be the forces that will work against your urges and bring you back to your senses and remove brain fog.

All the best for your Nofap endeavour.

And stay connected with the community to inspire yourself. :+1::+1:

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Fam!
Do read my confession too.
Peace. :crossed_fingers::heart:

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Hey man, I’m glad you’ve taken the first step to getting better by coming here. I used to be the exact same way. I started soft and actually discovered myself by accident (my parents were the type that were too embarrassed to give me “the talk”) so I was left to find out for myself… At the age of 10. It was terrible. I quickly got addicted and stayed addicted not realizing how badly it was affecting me for 6 years. Finally I started realizing that my addiction was hurting me and wanted to stop, but I was so wired the wrong way that I failed over and over. Finally, I came out and told my friend about my problem and things started getting better. In my opinion you shouldn’t strictly avoid your sister, but try to instead reform your relationship and thought process around her. Try to have a normal conversation with her. Be ready for those thoughts and urges to come and be ready to swat them down, tell yourself know. I think once you start being able to think of your sister rationally you will also be able to rationalize your addiction, which I think will really benefit your mental health. If you can’t take that don’t force it. All I can say now is stay strong. Talk to people, and be honest, both with them and yourself. Don’t accept yourself for anything worse than the best you can be. Good luck brother.

Thanks for the support and sharing your addiction. Just to clarify, it’s my sister in law (brother’s wife).

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Thanks for the support and for sharing your addiction bro! Good luck to you as well!

Oh, sorry for the confusion. Good luck just as well

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