@TusharPuri Sometimes we won’t feel shit when we look at erotics for the first time after a long while, we might have tiny urges that fade immediately especially in the 7 day boost situations. We think to ourselves like “Huh, is that all you got? Bitch, I’m strong af right now. This picture can’t make me relapse. I’m so fucking strong! Hell yeah! NoFap is working!”, and we keep scrolling on the same platform, like nothing ever happened. Or might sit there and admire that chick, be like “Damn, she’s hot. But I’m on NoFap rn, i shouldn’t have urges. So I shouldn’t care. I’mma move on.”
Big fucking mistake.
What you need to understand is, even looking at that image, just that peek, has reawakened the Pmo pathways in your brain. It has dropped on you a tiny dose of dopamine, and oncIt has affected your subconscious. Trust me buddy, that image will come to bite you in the back later, it will test you. Your willpower is slowly working in the background, even if you don’t know it. It is slowly draining, and at the end of the day, you won’t have willpower to do tasks, will feel lethargic, and you WILL have urges to check out pictures.
Exactly what I was talking about. Listen, when you find yourself in such conditions, DO NOT SCROLL DOWN! Novelty is another aspect your brain assosciate with PMO. You are continuously seeing new shit wherever you scroll down. If you just saw a sex picture and scroll down to avoid the urge, the pathways become further activated.
Man, fuck that shit! Is your problem that you are NOT feeling any urges, not feeling anything when you look at sluts on a screen? The truth is, YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO! They aren’t real! It is one of the goals of rewiring, to never be aroused by bitches on 2D screens ever again, to be horny for real, prospectable women you see in real life! But what happened to you is that your insane motivation just masked the urge, you were feeling like King Kong, and that is the only feeling that saved you. It hit you in one of your strong moments. But the challenge is to face an urge at your weakest and come through. When every single atom of your being is screaming at you to relapse, but you stand your ground, you look at it in the face and say, “Fuck You, NO.” But that takes strength you can only garner with experience and time, when you have longer streaks.
Do not feel bad about not getting horny for chicks on screens. Nothing happened to your testosterone. You were starting. You haven’t been tested. You may feel loss of libido, part of the process.
No you didn’t. Please don’t test yourself. Don’t go around spraying your willpower on everything like it is cheap air freshener.
Let me share my mindset. I abstain from all open social media platforms (facebook? tf is that?) because I know I’ll be walking on a wire every second I spend on there. The algorithm is designed to push sex towards you, whether you want it or not.
I use YouTube, with restricted on, WhatsApp, Telegram to chat with my close friends and get content. Chrome is a big cause of my relapse, i have blocked a number of sites(porn, definitely, plus some other sites i have fapped to, like urban dictionary, or 9gag, quora etc.) with blockers. I don’t miss a thing.
Whenever I hit an urge, or even momentary thinking of the shit i used to do before, like searching up sluts on Chrome images, or hit an involuntary trigger in YouTube or someplace, I IMMEDIATELY take action. My mindset is now “Man, that girl is hot. WELP! Time to do 50 pushups asshole!!! Move, Move, Move!” Please don’t try to fight your urges, please, especially in the early stages. This is a mistake I did, cost me 2 relapses, an 11 day streak, and lot of progress and shame. (In fact, I thought about google images as I write this, time to hit pushups)
Done. See what I’m talking about? I suggest you do the same, bro. I don’t want anyone doing my mistakes. You can still make it. Do not worry about your libido going or sex drive falling. Please. Do not try to get your dick erect just to see whether you still have it, if it would erect better, has it gotten bigger, or anything like that. All of these are just your junkie brain giving you excuses, trying to rationalise the act! I made all these mistakes too, this is why I am investing this much.
Stay alert, vigilant, all the time. You are facing yourself, and you are your absolute worst enemy. You are formidable. You DO NOT want it to end in a full blown war.