Maybe that’s the problem, I stay alone in my apartment
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I agree but what u want to say ? Should I work outside ? Not mindind the distractions
I’m not suggesting anything yet 
Yeah it’s too easy for you to just to give in all the time. It really helps to be out around other people cuz you’re not most likely going to jerk off in public. Even going a day for you would be a huge accomplishment
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I think maybe that’s where we “lose” it - when we start giving ourselves suggestions to conquer problems before we’ve identified them
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In theory could you work outside??? You say you like music could you work outside and put headphones on?
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I can actually do that. Never tried though
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Might be worth a shot. What else do you have to lose at this point right. Like I said even going a day is a huge accomplishment from where you’re at
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Asking questions is also an accomplishment.
If we don’t get answered - it’s either the wrong question or the wrong answer, or we simply aren’t asking enough
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I don’t know about better or worse, brother. An addiction is an addiction. If you want to stop doing something and you find yourself unable after repeated attempts and the realization that it’s damaging your life, that’s a major problem.
For relatability, we’ve all been in dark places in our lives. I for one used to watch P on public transport. I would borrow my friends’ devices to watch the filth then clear the history and hand it back. I developed a plethora of hideous fetishes. I would swear to GOD that I’d never go back and then relapse again within 6 hours. I’d relapse in the morning and say No more for today, then come right back in the evening.
@anon67854825 is sharing words of wisdom bro. Being here is a choice. This journey is a choice. It’s a lifelong journey. But it’s all mental. When you make that switch in your mind, it’s no longer a fight or a struggle.
I’m on day 76 with GOD’s Help. There are no blockers on my phone, I use my devices in private, I take my phone to the bathroom, use my laptop in bed, I still use Instagram daily, and I have not once in those 76 days searched for anything remotely pornographic. It’s a switch in mindset. There are methods out there to overcome this addiction for good; find one and stick with it is the simple solution. If you relapse, refine the plan and go again. You speak about motivational videos - they only serve to give you that ignition to start your journey to change. Zig Ziglar says motivation doesn’t last, it’s like a shower - it’s recommended that you do it daily! Motivate yourself daily to continue. Remind yourself of the reasons why you want to be free and clean. Make a real plan and carry it out.
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Haha, I love that last bit - “motivation doesn’t last, it’s like a shower - it’s recommended that you do it daily”
Spot on! Motivation is just the ignition.
Once you accomplished a day with that energy, you can look back and say “Fuck yeah!” - I did good and, That is the truth.
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Very true on making a plan and following it out #forerunner… I have recently started journaling and writing out my reasons for why I need to do this and want to
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“God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference”
Chicks are hot, get over it already 
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This is awesome - really funny too!
We’re men, they’re women. We’re always going to find them attractive, that’s the point, otherwise we wouldn’t be here.
But instead think, what is looking at her/thinking about her doing for me? Is this going somewhere? Why am I preheating the oven if I’m not planning to cook dinner? Don’t let sexual thoughts linger in your head. After 2-3 seconds they start activating your reward circuitry in your brain and lighting up the same pathways that led you back to PMO in the past. Think about something positive instead, like the benefits in your life after 3 months of freedom. The brain cannot hold two thoughts at once; one must fade away. This simple habit alone can take one to great strides.
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I feel the same bro…
Really ruining my life every single day…
Tried everything…
Donno what to do next.
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Nothing works if you don’t.
You have to train your mind to have control over your own body. They’re 2 different things. I’m religious so I see them as spirit and body. I am my spirit and I am also my body but they are both seperate. I do not give my body what it wants, infact I train it. When an urge does come I fight it solely through the power of my spirit and the word of God. But I’m sure if you’re not religious you can do this too just take control of your own body.
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It’s only impossible if you give up.
Try meditation, like ones by Aaron Doughty and Eric Ho on Youtube. Get in therapy and understand, Nofap is not JUST stopping from PMO; You have to change you while life! Hobbies, habits, passions, goals, dreams…all of it can be yours, if you are willing to let go of the past and see your bright future.
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No you are not pissed at yourself. You just want to do this because you have seen and heard other people do it and achieve things due to it. You are just another guy, trying to ape NoPMO. You have not even the slightest idea what PM does to a man. No, you clearly have no motive to do nofap coz you have not realized the consequences of PMO. No rational man would relapse after knowing how PMO destroys their life. So find the purpose your self and then you will not need those BS motivational video coz the reality is Nofap can only be achieved if you want to do it from within, not because their are people doing it. Find that purpose.
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That’s a mistaken belief, because otherwise you wouldn’t be posting this. You would be free of ■■■■.
To phrase it differently: you are most likely just going day by day, somehow “trying” to abstain and then you relapse day after day. You need to break that cycle by taking action. You need a proper plan of what your threats are, who can assist you in this journey, what your commitments are and so on. It’s a lot there’s to explain… either way, you are going to make it.
Check out this podcast, these episodes helped me a lot. I bet you haven’t tried that yet
Take care.
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I will check the podcast now, thank you
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