This Thread is for showing what Nofap really does to our lives!! I’ll post NOFAP success stories so that each and everyone of you’ll be able to stick with Nofap 
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SUCCEESS STORY 1
It was hard but i did it . I used cigarettes and music and intense workout mostly pushups and 10k walk and i spend a little time watchingthe dumfuck around me and it gave me the motivation i won’t be like that . NoFap works . It increased my mate seeking behavior my erection my mental strength and decreased my anxiety. At day 30 my anxiety was zero. The way my life changed was amazing some drawback i had pain in my testicles but the challenge was great and i did masterbation for 1 week . The health got deteriorate maybe because of long abstinence my sperm count got lower and in the past week the sudden increase in sperm count or increased in rate of production of sperm and action of different hormones which were not active in the course of 30 days might have given my body a surprise. I am back on NoFap and this time its would be more then a year because i got the code for my body
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SUCCESS STORY 2
135 days…success! TRIGGER WARNING - STRONG EXPRESSIONS
After 135 days of no PMO I feel I can finally stand up and ring the bell for a success story. Nofap has totally changed my life!
I am in a long distance relationship where we see each other for 4 days on and 10 off. This has in the past given me plenty of chances to masturbate. There were a few times in our relationship that we would go a visit without sex because I wasn’t in the mood and we would just chalk it up to being tired from all the travelling. That couldn’t be any more different now…
After 12 days of no PMO I was lying on the bed watching my partner
As soon as I took the ■■■■ blinkers off she started looking amazing!! We had sex a couple of times that weekend. That was enough motivation to keep me going.
By my next visit I had managed to go 14 days without masturbating. My dick had started feeling harder and bigger. This time we had sex 3 times and my partner commented that I had hit spots that I had never hit before. Positive reinforcement!!!
In between my next visits I opened up to her and told her that I had quit ■■■■ for 30 days. She knew that I masturbated but never knew the frequency of it. I told her how beautiful I had found her after just 12 days of no PMO and that was enough for me to continue. I explained that I was feeling better with myself. I had an increase in confidence, it was easier to look people in the eye and to have small chat
I loved hearing that!!!
Over the next few months our sex life got better and better. I started getting morning wood again which I totally love now, as well as erections while I am sleeping…which my partner loves. Without PMO I am totally into my partner. She is now my only release so I have become more attentive to her and her needs.
I thought I had a decent sex life. My partner was always up for it. Now I have an amazing one and my partner really loves it too. I have the dick of a 16 year old again. Nofap has restored my libido, and given me a new and better relationship with my penis and in turn with the wife.
Don’t give up guys…the benefits far outweigh that quick 5 second dopamine release.
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SUCCESS STORY 3
250 DAYS
My first real goal was to reach 100 days. Everything about me started to slowly change. My senses, my walk, my skin, my relationships, my confidence, my luck … Everything. It was subtle but it was noticeable. I was liking the new me. I wasn’t going to turn back.
Then i came across a few people on YouTube (Vigor Warriors, Ceaser, Ancient Archives) they really helped me on my journey. As well as this website and forum. Also to the person or people who created this platform, Thank You. You are helping people in an honourable and courageous way. Maximum Respect.
I have now slowly turned my life around, i am now close to securing a new start in life career wise. I have the unshakable confidence that i will succeed in life as i have now found my purpose. What i want to do until the day i die. I feel blessed.
All this in 250 days. Incredible. My routine consists of cold showers while listening to Motirversity on YouTube. Motivational videos that i highly recommend listening to while in the shower/bath. Start your day off right and in a positive direction. Followed by a 10 minute guided breath meditation.
If i could give some advice, it would be to never entertain a Negative Thought in your life. Think Positively. That is what i have found to be the KEY TO LIFE. If you can truly manage that, you can manifest anything you want in life. Master Key Society is a great YouTube channel that narrates life changing books for FREE, I recommend Feeling Is The Secret by Neville Goddard. They have plenty more to help reboot your mind and gear it too finding your true purpose in life. We all have one.
I hope some people finds this helpful, like i found the stories before me helpful. I fully believe in EVERYONE who reads this that they have the conviction & fortitude too lead a productive and wholesome life.
I am sending you Positive Vibes as you read this. Even though we have never met, I Love You.
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SUCCESS STORY 4
Finally!!! First 6 month Streak!
Ill make this short and sweet as ive shared my story on previous posts. This is more of a checkin to commemorate the fact that anything is possible if taking the needed steps to achieve a goal. I have finally made it past the 180 day / 6 month threshold. My loving, kind, supportive, forgiving wife deserves so much praise for this moment. Without her i struggled and failed for almost 15 years of our marriage to make any progress. Once she found out about my struggle everything changed. No it wasn’t easy, especially at first but everyday gets better and every aspect of my life has improved in ways i didn’t even realize were possible. With my wifes help, along with a therapist and a best friend, i now have a team around me that makes this journey possible. One last thing that i want to say about pornography- over the last 6 months i have come to the conclusion that viewing pornography as i did at such a young age amounts to nothing less than child abuse. I now realize that it is all but impossible to not contribute to the exploitation and trafficking of woman and possibly, unknowingly, minors by viewing pornography. By coming to hate what is behind this industry i really have been able to change my mindset and i have so much hope for achieving a “0 consumption” lifestyle free from guilt and all the other negative affects of PMO.
Thanks!!! I hope to be back in 6 months to commemorate 1 year!!!
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Hopefully, i will have a success story to share(for the first time in last 4 years ), soon.
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SUCCESS STORY 5
Day 91. Here’s how and why I got here
And through my experience, I managed to keep my sexual identity alive. I still have the same kinks I once had, nothing’s changed there. Still going to explore non-monogamy and my sexuality with my partner, but now, I know how to go about it in a safe, (sex) positive, and genuinely fulfilling way. I might allow myself to masturbate (no P though) in a few months, as we work on our newly rejuvenated sex life. What do you all think?
Anyhow, I hope this story shows you the extent to which everyone has their own paths, that this journey is yours to map out, and success is different to each and everyone. Your path to success is yours to define, and there’s no reason you can’t put your mind to the challenge.
Thank you for reading!
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SUCCESS STORY 6
143 Days on SR. I’m Sparta!!
This has been a very emotional journey for me personally. I never realised how powerful you can become when retaining, powerful in a spiritual sense of being in control of your self control.
Before I started this journey I used to last seven days tops and then feel that I had to release because that’s what we have all been lead to believe by the media and I suppose now we know that’s because society just wants to keep everyone in control and weaken society. But I feel more in control than I ever have been say when you were young without a care in the world.
There have been times when I have felt that everyone was against me and I hit a wall which was such a testing point through this journey and that must have been around 60 days, after that it has become easier and the urges have gone.
Cold showers have been a life line for me absolutely amazing what cold showers can do for transmuting your sexual energy and yoga meditation in a whole Ashtanga.
I’m keeping strong and continuing this path to oneness and hope this helps you all in your journey. One step at a time and you will feel the most amazing things all over your entire being. Keep Strong people.
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SUCCESS STORY 7
200 Days Free of PMO & Transforming Into A New Man
Ever since I was 17, I have struggled with ■■■■ and masturbation. It mostly stemmed from loneliness, not having friends, not having the confidence to meet girls , and growing up in a very broken and dysfunctional family, where the father was not there, and I was not taught the masculine life skills that a father teaches his son.
The addiction originally continued up until I was 28 (summer of 2018), when I finally overcame my urges, and went for a year and a month free of ■■■■ and masturbation. Unfortunately, I relapsed, and it was a hard relapse. At the time, I was in a relationship with a woman, and not realizing at the time, the negative energy that she brought to the relationship and me not knowing how to approach her about it without a backlash, it lured me back into PMO in order to numb what I was feeling inside. There was no physical attraction to her, but due to me feeling bad for her at the time, I continued to stay with her, and the relationship lasted until September of 2022. It was an unhappy relationship, and it further made me dive deep into PMO during the time I was with her. I would not be able to get erect just naturally, and needed her to either stroke me to get me erect, or I had to quietly fantasize about what I watched and seen on the internet to get hard and maintain it while being sexual with her.
It reached a point where ordinary pornography could not cut it for me anymore, and I was further lured into cam girls, which really drained my energy, and made me lose a lot of money in the process as well. Eventually, it made me feel extremely low about myself, and I felt like I reached the absolute rock bottom.
Given that all unhappy relationships have an ending, mine was no different. In September of 2022, after just over 3 years of being together, she broke up with me. I was devastated, but after a few days of processing everything and reflecting, I decided that this would be the perfect opportunity to start working on myself, and rid myself of the PMO demon once and for all.
For a whole month afterward, I kept relapsing day after day, but once I reached mid-October, I told myself that I could not continue like this, and basically, the PMO demon had to be surgically extracted out of me one way or another. Since October 16th of 2022, I have not masturbated or gotten aroused by pornography at all. Combined with me returning to fitness, working out on a regular basis, focusing on more important things, and a new job that I started in which I earn a lot more money and now being able to finally save money again and stabilize/repair my financial situation, it has healed me a lot. Being free of PMO for over 90 days, I feel like I have more energy, more driven to accomplish goals, more disciplined, motivated, in addition to becoming a lot more authoritative in the way I speak and interact with others, not putting up with nonsense from others either. In addition, I started talking to a new woman, and being free of PMO and negative energy, and not having her bring any negative energy either, when I was sexual with her just over a month ago, I actually got erect instantly and naturally, without any fantasies or tugging away. I am completely attracted to her, and I managed to maintain the erection for the whole entire time I was having sex with her.
Now that I have pulled off over 90 days without diving into the PMO bottomless pit, I feel like I am on my way to being the lion that God and nature intended for me to be, and not the docile and lethargic sheep that I was before.
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SUCCESS STORY 7
Vulnerability Will Set You Free
I have been dealing with a ■■■■ addiction for the last 13 years. From early exposure to ■■■■, being molested by an older “friend”, and sexting girls all though middle school and high school, it has been a very difficult time. Although I have been dealing with my PMO addiction for a very long time, I still had amazing relationships in college and found my soulmate of now 3 years. I have relapsed countless times and I have always started from ground zero. After a heated discussion with my gf today, I just could not hold it any longer. Before joining this community, I never thought that I would be able to share my story with her or anyone in the real world. However, after almost completing two weeks, I just could not hold back. I stood in silence for about 5 minutes questioning whether it was the time to finally break free and be vulnerable. I said, “can I be vulnerable with you?” And I shared my experience with ■■■■ addiction. She mentioned to me that as a child she had a similar experience until her father caught her and took her out to ice cream and told her that that was not a path she wanted to go down. My mother caught me once when I was younger and tried to avoid the situation. The reason I am writing this story as a success even though I have not completed two full weeks is because I finally feel FREE. My ■■■■ addiction is now real because she knows and I know I will forever have her in my corner if I get an urge or negative thoughts about wanting to watch ■■■■ again. I feel SO much closer to her. I don’t recommend everyone to share their story because I know it is such a taboo and sensitive subject but just know you are not alone. We can combat this together. I will also attach a link to a video that motivated me to share my story with my gf. If Terry Crews can do it, why can’t I? We all have our darkest secrets and just having someone to trust makes everything so much better. I know that I have not beaten my ■■■■ addiction but now it feels like it is two against one.
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SUCCESS STORY 8
Victory
Yess, I struggled very much it was worth it. I started nofap three years ago and jumped through hoops however I beat addiction. Everything didn’t finish. I need to improve myself more. I don’t have fetishes now. I think the reason was lovelessness. But I loved myself and I was able to solve some of the problem. Now I have different plans. Everything isn’t prefect but you must quit the addiction. Believe me! It is worth this. Don’t doubt that you can overcome fetishes. I’m sure you will say “I always have them”. This is brainwashing. If you still have fetishes, it can be psychological. You should go to a psychiatrist. My reason is psychological too. But this is not a problem. Yo can do this. The solve is to just do it and be patient.
I am not native English speaker. Because of this there may be problems.
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SUCCESS STORY 9
NoFap changed my life
Since about the age of 10 i’ve been watching ■■■■ and fapping.
I’ve aways had a lot of social, self esteem and physical issues. From tireness and unability have a decent sleep to physical discomfort and embarassment of my body. I used to be so tired I couldn’t even move without literally risking to collapse, nobody ever noticed it (hopefully). I didn’t think that was an issue due to ■■■■ and masturbation though. Everybody has always said that it was normal and that masturbating (even multiple times a day) was fine, so I didn’t think much about it.
But one day i’ve found a video of a guy talking about NoFap on youtube and thanks to him I discovered the NoFap community on Reddit. Thanks to the subreddit I started gaining more information about compulsive masturbation. Something clicked, I understood I needed a radical change to my then self-destructing lifestyle.
It took me a while start an actual healing journey since I couldn’t even stay 3 days without relapsing. But last year’s summer, for some reason, something changed. I’ve managed to stay without fapping a whole month and damn, that migh not sound much for a lot of people, but for me it was a lot! Just in one month I’ve started finding a motivation, a strength I’ve never had before. All my cognitive abilities improved drastically, including my ability to focus, physical coordination, exhibition capacity and mental health. Before I’ve even noticed, 3 months have passed without fapping. I’ve found the psychological strength to start going to the gym and actually taking care of my personal hygene. I have much more friends now and I feel much better both psychologically and physically overall
Thanks to all the Nofap community, if it wasn’t for you I would probably still be addicted and depressed. Love you <3
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SUCCESS STORY 10
The journey is the purpose
dysfunction became a regular occurrence until sex was almost an impossibility. It was at this point that I opened up to my wife about my addiction, and began looking for resources online to quit ■■■■.
During my many subsequent reboot attempts my performance anxiety spiked dramatically. All I could think about was how emasculated I felt, and how I had a penis that seemed utterly lifeless. Every morning I would wake up and dwell on my lack of morning wood, and dread going to bed at night knowing I would have to find an excuse so my wife wouldn’t try to initiate sex with me. All this stress led me to relapse numerous times back to ■■■■. I would find comfort in the thrill of its familiarity, and relish the sensation of being able to achieve a strong erection again, all the while knowing in the back of my mind I was only making things worse.
Eventually I managed to maintain a reboot long enough to start experiencing the benefits of being ■■■■-free. In the early months of 2022 I had my first real breakthrough, and I seemed to find my footing. I was thirty-plus days ■■■■-free at the time, my performance anxiety was vanishing, and my sex life with my wife was the best it had been in more than a year. I got comfortable, and quickly took my newfound success for granted. I let ■■■■ sneak back into my life because I had it under control—or so I told myself. I regressed on all the little things that had helped me succeed in that reboot, and my spiral back to my old status quo was alarming. All the pain and doubt in my marriage, performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, and chronic physical fatigue flooded back seemingly overnight.
It was from this latest period of relapse that I built my current success. I took stock of my situation, and set out to take a holistic approach to my recovery. It was with this approach that I built upon my past achievements, and found the techniques and philosophies that have led me to where I am today.
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SUCCESS STORY 11
40 + days No PMO (Benefits and Tips)
Hey all, finally got 40 Days in !!! Woo–hoo !!!
You can too – anyone can !!!
Some of the benefits:
- No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easier to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, “What do I have to be fearful about?” And calm down in about 2 seconds.
- More attention from opposite gender – without trying
- No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
- Increased motivation
- More Stamina – can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can’t
- No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don’t take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
- More Free time for Good things – (not going to phony ■■■■ sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.)
- Women are becoming less & less of a priority or need. Why get married only to get sex once per month – when I can have a nocturnal emission/really cool dream about as often?? Difficult to find a good…normal… fair-minded woman. Most are very selfish in my opinion.
- Improved Confidence – (online comment) “■■■■ and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence”
- More Respectable – (online comment) “if you resist the urge to masturbate – a practice that is generally condemned – you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more.” We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping … nervous … weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
- Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness
*Not all days are wonderful. Somedays are so-so …… many are common… some are difficult due to “flat line”… But who wants to go backwards – to weakness, shame and not respecting ourselves? You can change! You can be a stud (studette for the lassies)… Or you can choose PMO and feel like a dud. You are 100% in control – you call the shots!
Tips
- Are You Tempted? Get up off of your buttski and GO OUTSIDE*.
This BECOMES A HABIT. (A habit that always works.)
- Exercise, meditate, work on your hobby, go visit a friend, walk the dog, call a relative/friend/etc, go for a drive, go buy yourself a Reward for having self discipline, etc.
- Every (AM) I listen to an encouraging or positive message; sermon; etc. This puts a ‘theme’ or ‘positive influence’ for the day. It works very good. Sometime I do the same thing in the afternoon …… evening…
- If you get tired …… take a rest ……… or nap. Your brain is ‘reconfiguring’… “recomputing”…
- “Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” – saying by Steve Arterburn. (One Victory at a time …. one day at a time.)
- Fasting – occasionally I will fast from food. Doing a water only fast for 1/4… 1/2 … or 3/4 days – or longer for you hard core peoples. Fasting helps you develop & have self-discipline.
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SUCCESS STORY 12
One month without MPO and weed. Hard mode!
Hi there!
My first month. Finally.
Yeah, but let’s be honest, we all know that nofap is not about days, it’s a process. I would like to share my “success” story. I wrote success in braces because I am not there yet. But on the way 
I experience a kind of derealization. It’s like being drunk without drinking. It’s weird, but I have it all the time. Hard to explain. I had that years ago because of an overdose of caffeine, and nicotine… add weed and mpo, and thats a prescription for disaster.
Do I take supplements?
Yes. Vitamin D ( prescribed by the doctor because of my blood test results). Some multivitamins for a little bit too high cholesterol, same story as with Vitamin D. I am not taking anything for my libido, erections, whatever. As I said, I am not in a rush. I want this process to be natural.
Things I want to change:
I quit smoking and coffee today. Still fresh but I need to do it. I was told that will help me with my cholesterol ( and a billion other things!). I will use the same strategy as I used with urges during nofap. Whenever I will have urges, I will not fight with them. I will just say in my mind “That’s normal… that’s part of the process… it would be weird if I felt no urges at all”.
I will start to exercise today after work
Sexual part. I experienced PIED for years. At the moment my libido is close to 0. No urges, no sexual fantasies. Nothing.
I think I hit the flat line. I don’t care to be honest. I am not in a rush.
So…
Today is my first month without MPO (hard mode) and Weed. I will carry on. I am not there yet But very excited about the future!
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SUCCESS STORY 13
Decreased urges in watching ■■■■
I started this Reboot adventure a little over a month ago. Relapsed at day 21, and really felt the negativity in personal failure. You can lie to everyone but yourself. I had no good reason to relapse other than boredom. I told my wife, and my therapist about it, and I am fortunate to have both be understanding, and not give me the heavy guilt shit that does NOTHING but piss me off. I am my hardest critic. But, with a new week, and being mindful to stay busy, and keep reading a shit ton of books that keep me mentally stimulated, I have lost the interest to look at ■■■■. And even when I did last week, it wasn’t the same. It’s like I have seen it all, every category, and frankly it’s now boring. I found that by not watching hours of ■■■■, I have stayed focused on my time in the gym, my diet, reading, yard work (which I like), and my wife and I get along better than ever. In my search for peace I found God. The more I turn towards a spiritual guidance, I find peace. I guess it’s supposed to be that way. Everyone has their own journey, but maybe all good journeys bring you closer to Source. I am reading, “The Power of Intention” by Wayne Dyer, it’s heavy, but it makes sense if you say to your self, “I want to feel good.” May you all find success on your journey.
As my journey continues, the universe keeps trying to teach me that my Ego has the addiction. I am not my ego, although it is a very powerful force in one’s life. So, the more I suppress my ego, the less I am driven to looking at ■■■■. Not to sound preachy, as that may not be a credible truth to all that read these posts, but my journey is a very spiritual journey. My search for freedom from this addiction has caused me to take a good, hard look at myself. I know my trauma, and most likely what led me to this problem, but I don’t have to be a slave to this. I don’t have to follow the ego, quite the opposite. The result is so much more than decreased urges in PMO, the result is a more “present” existence and I am in a really happy / satisfied place in my life right now. I feel a little more vulnerable, (like those around me can see right through me) but the promise to myself to be honest, and moral, and of good character seems to be easier when I start my day off with meditation, followed by reading anything on my list of “self-help” books.
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SUCCESS STORY 14
365 days A year after being born again
made it worse. If you don’t start to heal your wounds, ■■■■ will always be in control of your emotions. Practicing meditation and therapeutic writing have been fundamental tools in my process and, above all, memorizing biblical portions to face temptation has been the key.
Knowledge is the best method to deal with addiction. He lived in ignorance. Like the frog in the boiling pot, I had adapted to a destructive lifestyle. But, this Nofap community, and other men who have shared their experience, helped me see that there is new life behind this addiction. I let my addiction normalize and the cases of overcoming it made me see that I can also get ahead, and in the same way, the testimonies of brothers who have relapsed, helped me identify myself and learn from the mistakes of others to avoid them in my process. Keeping the mind occupied in studying about the restart and in everything that can help us is of great importance, otherwise, an idle mind is a breeding ground to continue reproducing this addictive behavior.
Some of the benefits in this process:
Greater self-confidence. Years of insecurity, of living in shame have been exchanged for a new version. Now I am able to look anyone in the eye, I have eye contact with women. I no longer look at them as a beta man, but as a true man, with respect and cordiality. I walk safely and with my head held high.
My appearance has improved significantly. My eyes radiate a special sparkle that children admire, women notice, and men respect. The light of life is in the eyes, it makes sense. If you cultivate your inner being, if you heal the soul; your eyes will manifest this to others. My skin is no longer oily and full of acne, I struggled all my youth with this, but in this year, this problem has completely subsided. In short, you feel alive and you transmit it to others with your gaze and your presence.
Better work performance. It is as if the creative potential that I had not experienced for a long time resurfaced. The reality is that it was always there, but the brain fog produced by PMO always hindered it. Now, I have a better ability to memorize, my verbal communication skills have improved considerably (the stutter that characterized me for a long time has drastically decreased).
Living true Masculinity. One of the things I have achieved this year is learning to live my masculinity in a healthy way. I am learning at this point in my life to see that my virility does not consist as society promotes it, as a hypersexualized being. Actually, masculinity lies in taking care of our essence, guiding those around us, leading our lives, governing our impulses. As a man I was not created to live worshiping women and their bodies. On the contrary, I was created to transcend, to inspire, protect and motivate others. ■■■■ castrates us as males, but abstinence gives us back the manhood the world needs and real women crave deeply.
I am aware that there are areas in my life where I need to work more, but this year has been just a starting point to continue becoming that man that God always wanted me to be. If anyone took the time to read this far, thank you very much.
Truly, I hope you can have hope knowing that there is an extraordinary life waiting for you. I am experiencing it.
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SUCCESS STORY 14
5000 Days ■■■■ Free
Yesterday I reached the 5000 day mark from my last P relapse. That was almost 14 years ago. I’m not posting this to brag, I’m posting this to try to help anyone who might currently be struggling with P.
Don’t ever give up. With the right motivation and the right amount of effort, you can and will overcome P. And life without P is worth the effort required. Life is beautiful again. Life is enjoyable again. The guilt and images of the past have all vanished.
How did I do it? Answer: hard, uncomfortable, inconvenient work. What do I mean by this?
I attended two separate 12 step groups, saw two therapists, told three people who were close to me (who held me accountable), and went without the internet in my home for a year. Some might consider these extreme measures. I tried everything else, and this combination was the only way I found deliverance.
It was embarrassing having to tell my deepest darkest secrets to those people. It cost me a lot of money going to therapy. It was more than inconvenient going to the library in order to use the internet while I was trying to get my master’s degree. I gave up my free time to go to recovery meetings. I had to humble myself and admit over and over that I needed help. I had to learn how to be an honest person and no longer live a secret life.
Why would anyone put themselves through all of this? Because I had finally had enough of P. It was impacting my relationships and it ruined my self esteem. I finally determined that I was willing to do whatever was necessary. It was hard work.
You are worth every effort. Your hard work will pay dividends. If you feel stuck, switch things up. Disclose your addiction to real people. Join support groups. Recovery is all about relationships - to stop living a life of isolation and open up to those around you.
You can do it with the right amount of effort. Never give up! Someday you can look back and be glad you chose freedom.
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SUCCESS STORY 15
9 months - 270 (and few days plus) days
Guys, first thing first: this will be long post. If you don’t want to read it all just read bolded quotes. So lets begin!
When I started this journey I didn’t want to give any particular advice because I didn’t really have some new or outstanding advice for you. In fact, I didn’t have it today. I will write (shortly) my practical experience which I think will help you.
You need physical activity but you must have clear mind. During my medical condition in the beginning of the journey, I didn’t go in gym. In fact I started workout in last month. And what I see when I start? There is no urges. I was worried beacuse of attractive girls in gym but when the day comes it was all good. No urges, no gazing, no dirty thinking. Just work, sweat and more work and more sweat. And I was thinking, is it smart for guys to wait month or two in beggining of journey before they goes to gym? You know, just to clear mind and rewire brain so they can really focus. Tell me your opinion on this please.
Be careful what and when you eat. I find out that I have more energy when I don’t eat much and when is in my table more vegetables than meat and bread. And I keep it simple when I cook. I don’t want to say meat is this or that. Keep it in mind that this is my example and we all are different. But it is universal to watch what you eat.
Going offline is double-egde sword. Yes, I delete (more like uninstall) my accounts on instagram, reddit and twitter (actually I delete last one, I find it toxic).I enable youtube too. And games of course. Yes, it has benefits like more time, more mental clarity and focus, better memory…list are long enough. But you will live “under the rock” especially if you don’t watch news or read newpaper/portals. Yes, it has great effect on your confidence and calmness but you won’t know what are going around you (and I mean it literally). This is price which cannot everyone pay.
Remember the basics and stay humble. Many of us (more like everyone of us in some time) forgot basic techniques and get cocky. Yeah, I can watch her instagram; I know I’m strong enough; that has no effect on me…Sounds familiar? Guys, listen to me. Urges are still there but they change together with you. There become more pure, more innocent but they are stil urges. And many forgot that. You can’t be focused 24/7 but you can and must know how to recognise them. There is no place to ego in this path. Remember what you do in first days: some of us look away when they see potential trigger or don’t want to hear some songs etc. I must say (more like confess) that in searching for advanced techniques I forgot basics. And thats big mistake.
Mental celibacy. Our battleground is in our heads. Not in our bodies. Discipline the brain and brain will discipline body automatically. There is many ways and techniques but remember this: fantasizing can deal a bigger damage and it is bigger threat.
If you read all that, congrats. For the end I prepare some daily advices to easy up our way. All of this advices come from my experience and they are proven by me and many others:
- don’t judge other brothers
- you have to prove your worthy to yourself not to others. Remember that.
- there are bigger fish in the ocean. Smaller dog barking louder
- there are alway something to fix on yourself. You are not damaged, you are just not in the best mode (yet)
- don’t be angry of others. Master your emotions not suppres them
- remember what you were and what is your goal
- Woman will trick you but only if you allow them
- find your vent. Working out, hobby, dancing… whatever
- Think
- Be modest, gentle and strong
- Help others
Guys, thats all. Thank you all for reading and support. Remember this is marathoN
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SUCCESS STORY 16
Perspective after 8 years
Hello everyone,
I am 32 years old and I have started introducing the rules of NoFap into my life since I met my first girlfriend at 24 (We are now happily married for 4 years).
At first, I had trouble getting aroused, but over a few years a combination of several methods helped me achieve a healthier sex life:
- Avoiding ■■■■ and ■■■■ fantasy.
- Trying to focus on the present moment as much as possible, using a mantra that works for me.
- The continuous support of my partner.
- A good therapist whom I keep meeting weekly.
- For the first 5 years I have also used different ED drugs intermittently. I began to have side effects that forced me to abandon them - and I was happy to discover that over the years I developed the ability to go without them.
However, something happened about 2 years ago - once I felt that I “solved” my problem - I gradually became worried about “maintaining” my success. Thoughts creeped in - as if now that I have reached my “goal”, as I will get older, sex will only deteriorate due to physical reasons and due to my (possibly wrong) belief that I will become gradually “bored” with sex.
Everything was stable for a few months as I tried to avoid thinking about these worries, and constantly only focusing on the present - not indulging in fantasies, only being present, and letting sex with my wife come naturally when the situatuon was right.
After a few months, we started trying for a baby. It introduced more stress, and sometimes I “allowed” myself to imagine my wife doing a fetish that I remember from my ■■■■ days, to be aroused and come during PIV sex. When it happens it makes me feel very guilty, as if each time I “damage” the success that I have achieved with nofap.
There are some things that helped since then - we started using toys, and using a dildo on her, or watching her use it arouses me as hell, without me having to escape to fantasy. Also, when I succesfully convince myself in my inner dialogue that there won’t come a point in my life that I will “have” to resort to fantasy, and that I will always find a way to be aroused only by being present with her, even at a more advanced age, I start feeling better for additional several weeks, and I feel more naturally horny during the day.
Another thing - mutual masturbation is easier for me (me masturbating her and her masturbating me), as I can feel more connected with her and cum only from this feeling of connection and feeling her body. I also feel better when I convince myself that we will always be able to enjoy this activity - even if PIV will not be possible anymore at some point.
I would be really glad if older guys, in long term relationships, could comment on how they maintained their success with NoFap over the years
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