Nofap Motivation for Beginners by Legends

[Cubenix]

Hey guys. Sorry I know I said I will give tips and I didn’t forget so here is some that I think might help.

You see this is YOUR journey and YOU need to do what is necessary to beat it. YOU know YOURSELF and nobody can tell YOU anything different only guide some of YOUR thoughts.

See YOU have to have YOUR set of rules and YOU need the basics to start it off, but YOU need to do the effort.

For p* :

1. AVOID use of electronic devices when you feel the urge.

2. AVOID the use of electronic devices in the bedroom at night or places where you have watched p* before.

3. USE your elctronic device for the purpose you intend and stop use if the task is completed. If you really struggle alot use porn blocker apps.

For example with no. 3 if you need to google something for a project or just for info if you don’t know about something just google it.

Say I wanna Google how to plant carrots. I google it and read about it and stop use after I am finished reading the article about it.

4. Stop the use of it immediately. Don’t think to downgrade it and a downgrade later again to think it will help you to stop it completely later. No it ain’t like smoking if you have smoked a packet a day you would switch to half a packet and then 1 cigarette and stop( besides this also sometimes fails and you still are smoking or drinking). To beat a addiction you have to commit and this method never helps in beating porn. Say no to nudes, to video’s, audios or anything related in triggering you to watch porn all at once!

For m*

1. TOUCH only when absolutely necessary and try to to it for as short and as less triggering as possible.

2. If you have a boner have the next thought ready. No TOUCH, no THOUGHT an no EYE CONTACT.

3. When you feel a urge have the same appoarch as no 2.

For the overall journey

1.Remember what I started out with and I emphasized YOU. This why I did it. YOUR BODY ,YOUR MIND, YOUR CHOICES, YOUR JOURNEY. So what you gonna do you are gonna make it your own and beat this thing and you have to find your way with the basics and some of our help, but you have to make the time make the choices to complete the journey and while you are at it have tons of fun on this journey to keep you motivated to make it easier for yourself to stay om this journey.

2.Beat those thoughts of I am just gonna do it for the last time today and start 100% on this journey tomorrow . Because you might not habe tomorrow or that thought will stay with you and that tomorrow that your journey will start will never come.

3. Leave your past behind start looking at today and take each day one at a time as they come. Stick to today only and still stay at the thought of today is day 1 no matter how far you go.

4. Don’t fret on how many days you wanna do or days you have completed as this could discourage you as you think it might not be able to accomplished say 100 day if you are on day 7 and stay stuck with the thought if 7 days are hard how will day 100 be. So have a goal that is good yes, that’s great, but forget a little about your counter.

That is what I have for now and all I have left to say is stay strong, have faith in your self and stay strong within your faith and good luck and het out there and be awesome and stay awesome!

[kpwins]

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[Brahmachari_17]

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[Brahmachari_17]

Found this on message board today. This is very motivating and relatable.

[Cubenix]

Hahaha haven’t read this post, but it is quite funny as the guy states almost half of his reasons to chicks. Sorry just had to say it. It sounds a little perverse for me, but who am I to argue.

Anyways, on another bitter note if I may. Today is quite a dark day. Call it my evil honest day. I apologise in advance, but yeah today I have relased something and I wanna share it.

The is two tipes of nofap on this forum.

The Nogap(Nofap) and Nofap.

What do I mean with Nogap(Nofap) ?

It seems that guys ever increasingly focus on a lot of stuff whilst on nofap. Take the post for example the guy is concerned about chicks for most of it. Other guys just wanna jump onto a productive train the whole time and want be as productive(busy) to enrich their lives.

Sure it is good, but sometimes this tends to bite you a bit as you start dropping one challenge or one habit after the other, because you don’t create a gap for yourself to chill out a second. As this spells disaster if you sit still.

In all technically the guy here well creates a lot of expectations for other guys, but still is kinda obessed about sex.

And this to me doesn’t feel right.

Nofap:

I have realised Nofap ain’t a game you play lightly and yes there is a lot of falseness within and not much is known as not all guys experience the good of it. See there is negatives about it which is normal at most. Most guys get nightfalls, blue balls etc. And don’t feel great about nofap as they feel sick. See it is the hormonal changes etc. In the body.

Not going to to expand much into it. I don’t wanna discredit nofap, because Nofap should actually be for you to get sexual healing. To destroy fantasies about sex and rebuild your body to a normal life where only sex without porn and masterbation can lead to a healthier sexlife . To heal the body of the damage braught on by masterbation (the causes of ed or pied).

Yes, sure it is build around sex, but it is a means to rebuild your views about it and to respect woman and her body for her to recognised as another human not as a ‘chick’ you can toy around with.

Sure, you can be motivated to change your life in other ways as well. Through aquiring more knowledge or faith or do exercise.

It is not force upon you to do so, but you do it out of your own.

Like I said this is your journey you don’t have to aim for perfection and be that Nogap kinda guy. You can be who you are and truely test yourself and commit to you and the journey.

Hope this still falls it the topic and I just wanna break open what we must know and truely be honest with one another as the Nofap community can’t stand on false hope or beliefs! We have to be in unison on what nofap is and what it means, but we have to have our own ways on how we deal withit. Sure I attacked this guys argument and how he experience it, but isn’t it too fake?

Good luck and stay strong and awesome!

[Brahmachari_17]

Actually by relatable I meant,
Good sleep
Energetic
Clarity of mind
Facial hair grows faster
Music sounds better
Etc.

And for a Student like me, good sleep and mind clarity are a blessing. I totally agree with you about this point.

@Cubenix

Yes, sure it is build around sex, but it is a means to rebuild your views about it and to respect woman and her body for her to recognised as another human not as a ‘chick’ you can toy around with.

One can’t heal completely if his main aim is to attract girls. For eg. There is a guy ( I don’t wanna reveal his name but you may also know him ) who has a streak of 800+days. He posted his journey on message board so I read it. And I found out that he is not at all healed. Because he still sees girls in a sexual way. And he saw P-Subs throughout his journey. Just my not masterbating you can’t be healed. It is more than that. You have to clear your mind also.

Tell me one thing…
Should I delete those photos from here???
Can it be triggering for someone???

[Cubenix]

I don’t really see how it could trigger someone and the decision is up to you. I just said my what felt and felt the need to express that how we should view what info we subject ourselves . We should be taking consideration on why we really do Nofap and to stay true to it.

We have to be in unison with the nofap journey regardless of what the benifits are. I kinda think the ‘chick magnet’ thing is to lure guys to the journey. He and I could speculate over it and at the end of it some have and some haven’t experienced it this way, but to be obsessive about it ain’t a good thing as this might affect the healing process.

[HappySoul]

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[Brahmachari_17]

Here are two parts of a really inspiring story of a person who was very shy. And had ED. The first one is long but the second one is too long. I have read the first one. And now I will read the second part even when I am on 58th day because after reading the comments I really want read that part. This will definitely help me to keep going. As I said that I haven’t read the second part so be alert while reading it, it may contain triggers.

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[Brahmachari_17]

This is just to realise you that how big PMO addiction is and why?

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One of the reasons masturbation is the most difficult negative habit to overcome is that, it starts secretly during childhood for many reasons and we become experts at hiding this habit because it starts at a very young age. Then, masturbation is not highly discouraged by doctors because of sexual liberation movement and society shies away from it because masturbation is seen as taboo and not discussed openly in society about the scientifically proved negative psychological effects in the brain …

[TheDominator]

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[trusty_potato]

Hey… It’s my 18th day and it has been a smooth sail so far as I’ve uninstalled any sorts of triggers (Instagram/Facebook/9Gag) from my phone. I’ve also restricted myself from watching Netflix/Prime. Today I was bored and was watching a show when there was an erotic scene where the girl tries to seduce a detective (No nudity, there is not even a kiss) and I had all these flashes of my viewing history. I was tempted to give in. I even searched for the actress right away. In a couple of minutes I realised where I was going, locked away my phone and just sat calmly for 20 minutes. I just shut those thoughts away to a dark place in my mind. But, I still feel like all these suppressed thoughts might one day find an escape and that day I will be too weak to help myself.
Please do help me out if you have any solution. I’ve been am addict for 13 years and I want ro revive myself.

[Brahmachari_17]

Once I watched P-Subs on day 42, I was half convinced to give up. I was worried that if I didn’t relapse today I may relapse tommorow by flashes of these things. But then I decided to control myself for just one week. To see if the memory of these P-Subs erase or not. And then for the next 7days I tried to not think about it as much as possible. And believe me the memory of those P-Subs got erased all by itself within 4-5 days. After 10days I realised that I have erased those memory. And after that day I setted a counter on an app for P-Subs and also for Nightfall. Just try not to think about those secenes for few days. And after that you are going to be fine.

[Brahmachari_17]

What did you thought at first?

[Brahmachari_17]