NeverGiveup420's Journey of SELF MASTERY and DISCPLINE

Seriously this community is like a family, people come to help and also spread love without asking for anything in return.

I am in debt to this forum bro.

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Well said bro :heavy_check_mark:

Me too

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Day 3 completed :heavy_check_mark:

Hi Awesome People,

Today was the hardest day yet. I am starting to feel hunger pangs. And my headache is still present. Its been 3 days since the headache started. I am very hopeful that it will disappear after i achieve 7 days. My energy is not low. Its average. But i feel weak.

Apart from headache, i am noticing more deep sleep. I am also noticing freshness after i wake up. When the headache goes away, i will be glad to be fresh and happy.

Today i accomplished more than yesterday but its getting difficult to ignore the pain and suffering. I am strong, i believe i can achieve my goal.

Tomorrow would be worse than today but i am ready for it. Afterall, hardship never stays around. Soon, i would experience the benefits of my juice fasting without the side effects.

I hope i survive tomorrow

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I would like to ask how you fought the urges during this complete journey of 90 days?

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I would be happy to answer. I wrote the 5 most important points down. Im posting it here.

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:fire::fire::fire:5 MAGICAL POINTS to AVOID and DEFUSE a RELAPSE :fire::fire::fire:

These are some points I have learned in my journey from experience and from other amazing companions.

POINT 1. Learn to automatically divert your eyes away from triggers. Maybe you dont want to stop using youtube or watch a movie, Ok no problem. But you need to train your mind and eyes to not check out the opposite gender and only look at their face. By following this, you will get expert in dealing with popups and surprise triggers.

But If you are early in your noPMO journey then its better to avoid all triggers. Go on a dopamine fast (no dopamine and entertainment from screen). Just avoid visual and auditory i.e. ALL TRIGGER. Stay the hell away from screen, social media and movies (also series and animes). Don’t check out girls or opposite gender.

POINT 2. Stay busy to defeat physical urges. Don’t fight the urges, it will get powerful if we concentrate on it. Staying busy is the ultimate weapon to defeat horniness. Staying busy for a lifelong goal and dream is better. Follow a routine. Don’t divert from it.

POINT 3. Never fantasize. If a sexual thought comes, just focus on something else. It just takes 5 seconds to redirect to a new thought. Entertaining a thought will increase its power and make you more horny and create powerful urges. So focus on something else.

POINT 4. Don’t touch your privates ever. Don’t put your hands in the pants. NO Touching!!!

POINT 5. Remember your horrible feelings after EVERY. SINGLE. RELAPSE!!!. No porn will satisfy you. No masturbation will make you happy. PMO will not decrease your stress. It will not relax you. You don’t need PMO to feel good. You don’t want PMO anymore. YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED BY PMO ANYMORE. YOU VIEW PMO AS DISGUSTING, HORRIBLE AND VOMIT PRODUCING. YOUR PAST IS PAST. NOW YOU ARE A NEW AND BETTER PERSON. AND YOU WILL NEVER EVER GO BACK TO THAT CRAP!!!.

After breaking from the conscious mental attraction of PMO, now just take a cold shower or put cold water on your privates (if you know for sure you won’t touch yourself). Then stay busy in your task. Or take a walk, socialize, eat or drink something and exercise.

Practice these 5 points. Make it a habit and you will NEVER relapse!!!

Congratulations, you just avoided and defused a relapse. You are getting better at this. SOON , YOU WILL ACHIEVE HIGHER STREAKS AND BREAK FREE !!!. MAN, YOU are SIMPLY AWESOME :fire::fire::fire:

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These 5 points helped me the most. And, the best help i had was reading the EASY PEASY WAY book.

I listened to the audiobook version. And let me tell you my greatest help.
 I listened to the last 5 audio files of the easy peasy way book every night while going to sleep for continuous 75 days more or less. Its 25 mins long total. It acts as a guided meditation. Its the most help i got. Ill post a link.

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Yesterday Night i had chills and i felt cold. Today I woke up and my temperature is 100 F.

Turns out I have Corona :slightly_smiling_face:

My father says i have to stop my juice fasting. It is necessary for recovery. I would be given doses of antibiotics.
So, i will stop my juice fasting. To be honest, i am glad i will eat food now. The only reason that kept me going was my desire to make my father proud with my willpower. But as he himself said to stop, i will gladly stop :joy:.
I know what i was doing was extreme. Self imposed starvation is not the right way to live healthy. I should be moderate in my life knowing my physical limits.

I hope i recover soon.

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OMG!!!
I wish you speedy recovery.

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Warmest wishes for a speedy recovery.

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I also want to try so many extreme things like juice fasting ,etc. But my parents don’t allow me to do so.

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@Visionary_18 @anon41607238 Thanks guys. Stay Safe. Corona is real :joy:.

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Im glad you didn’t try. Its really a week of suffering and pain. I would never do something like this again :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:. Im surprised i made it to day 3. I can now say, ‘‘once i didnt ate for 3 days’’ :joy:.

You can do something less extreme then. Like drinking juice and eating just fruits and salad. Thats extreme too but very tolerable.

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Get well fast buddyđŸ’Ș.You are a hero and heroes dont stop trying.
I myself failed just now but I would start again :blush::+1:

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We all are heroes of our own story. Its amazing the willpower we all have. We try again after a relapse. We dont lose hope. This is called commitment and hope.

Thats the real spirit of a warrior!. :fire: We only lose when we admit defeat.

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:confounded: Day 0
 I have to start again :pensive:

Well, now that the chaser effect is over, i can clearly see why i need to quit PMO again. My routine is fucked up. I sleep in day during my online classes and wake up at night. I pass my time by watching movies and animes. I dont want to be alone with my boring life. I have no friends. I am alone in my room wasting my life away, draining my potential and energy down the toilet. I am left with zero energy.

I can see myself jobless and a failure after my degree is completed if i dont work hard. I cannot work hard because i have no fire due to PMO. I am a fucking loser. My mind is all dirty. I am a fucking pervert with a mask on his face. I have filth in my mind. I am always afraid. I am a coward. I always look for other people’s approval. I am a nobody.

I am physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fucked up due to PMO. I spend my whole day in front of a screen in my room that i do not clean. I jerk off many times to fill my brain with satisfaction only to find that the more i jerk off, the more empty i get. I cannot fill the hole in my life with PMO.

The worst mistake i made was relapsing at day 101. It was all going good. But I didnt replaced the void that i created with good life and healthy habits. I didnt exercised. I didnt developed a habit of book reading. I didnt grew as a person. I went after temporary pleasure. And got pain, depression, anxiety, regret in return.

REMEMBER, THERE IS NO TRUE PLEASURE IN PMO. ITS ALL A LIE. YOU GET YOUR PASSION, YOUR HAPPINESS TAKEN AWAY FOR PLEASURE. EVEN THE PLEASURE YOU GET IS TAKEN AWAY FROM THE PLEASUREABLE MOMENTS YOU AND YOUR LIFE PARTNER WOULD SHARE.

ITS NOT WORTH RELAPSING. NEVER EVER.

I cannot live like this. I have to start again. I have to go through flatlines and withdrawals again. I have to make my life worth it. I have to fill my life with purpose, discpline, routine, happiness and dream.

I HAVE TO QUIT PMO. I CAN QUIT. PEOPLE HAVE QUIT. I CAN ALSO. I HAVE TO QUIT THE RIGHT WAY. :triumph:

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If you were to be a " fucking loser " then you won’t be able to reach day 101. You are great in yourself the only thing which you need now is efforts, and that too genuinely . Efforts which you made earlier , don’t think that getting lost from 101th day means you can’t make such a streak again . Feel yourself lucky that you were able to resist yourself for 101 days in new year (2021) ; when many people thought to start nofap for 365 days. Many of them failed from there, but you didn’t failed when everyone fall. Atleast you tried hard and fight .

See , semen is like money and relapsing is spending unnecessarily. If you’re semen increases by nofap , then it’s your duty where to invest it ( exercising, meditating, reading books 
and many many more things) . If you didn’t utilized your money well then it would get stolen by thieves ( evil thoughts and urges).
So man believe in yourself and you’ll surely succeed . Even I took the nofap challenge on 30th March for 1 month but I failed yesterday , so it doesn’t mean that I am a loser , we can only learn from our relapses such as winners learn from their mistakes.:hugs::hugs::+1::+1:

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I understand. Thankyou very much brother.

Well said brother. Mistakes are our lessons to improve ourselves to achieve what we did not achieved before.

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Completed Day 1 :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes::tada:

Didnt knew completing day 1 would bring so happiness and comfort to me. Now those streaks like day 10 and 15 look so awesome. 45 days and 50 days looks like a dream come true. And day 90 and 100 seems like a paradise. I got myself kicked out of paradise ( I RELAPSED AT DAY 101 :cry:) thinking hell would be better and more pleasurable than paradise but its not.

Day 1 was hard, all those fresh memories of porn and filth calling me out. But i know those are complete lies and fake promises.

My next target is Day 10.

I hope i never forget the regret and loss after coming to senses after a relapse.

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