Sharing my thoughts here. I completely agree that an attitude shift is required. Iāve been working at that harder than ever before in the past two months. Iām working with a ā ā ā ā recovery coach, itās costing quite a pretty penny but itās worth it to cut this out once and for all.
Mark Q, EasyPeasyWay, The Freedom Model, all these ideas that have resonated with us have something in common - eliminate the desire to PMO. They have different ideas on how to get there, but theyāre taking us away from the typical NoPMO strategies of trying and failing to resist doing something you still really want to do.
My coach gave me this example the other day:
The Two Men
Imagine two guys who are trying to eat a nutritious diet.
One of them has gone online and researched healthy eating, read case studies and research on what the best foods are for him to eat, knows all the benefits heāll get from clean eating and fully accepts it as his new way of life. He no longer views his old diet as appealing or an acceptable way for him to live. He happily gives up his old diet and embraces one that will lead to greater health and satisfaction in the long run.
The second guy really loves eating trash. His diet is awful and itās taking a toll on his health. He is reluctant but he knows he ought to make some changes. He forces himself to read up about all the harms of eating unhealthily to shame himself into quitting. He joins a support group of people watching their weight and partners up with someone, sharing his diet plan and confessing whether he breaks it. He slips up a lot, wavering between periods of commitment and active rebellion against his new diet, but he keeps trying and gets back up again.
Which man will successfully change his diet?
Truthfully, both of them may get there eventually, but the first man will do it within weeks or months, while the second may take years if not decades.
The key difference between them is the desire to eat junk. One is fully convinced that his old lifestyle will no longer bring him any benefit, so it is easy for him to leave behind. The other still sees so much value in what heās leaving behind, so his positive efforts are being swallowed up in a fight against himself.
Just like the first guy, we must become fully convinced that our old lifestyle is useless, and be happy and satisfied with leaving PMO behind. This is how we succeed permanently.
Just like EasyPeasy and the Freedom Model suggest, it doesnāt need to be hard. The difficulty exists because the desire is so strong. But that desire is not a permanent part of us; rather, itās a learned behavior which we can unlearn within weeks. And when the desire is gone, youāll wonder why it took so many years to stop doing something that was always in your power to quit.
because I donāt always have my thoughts together, and double check myself, and then edit over and over 
Wishing you supernatural strength as you feel through your pain.