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wall-e · July 6, 2021, 4:39pm

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Day : 24/30

wall-e · July 6, 2021, 4:41pm

@Sadus13 Sometimes I get jealous of your routine Only thing I am doing

RaZat · July 6, 2021, 4:57pm

Day 16
Safeguard (no peeking)

Duran · July 6, 2021, 5:26pm

I can totally agree with both of you. I only want to point on one thing. Our freedom is already up to us. Our mind is messing with our thoughts. We are not only should wish or desire freedom. We have the right to start living like that. That is the most beautiful thing about this. The very moment you realise that there is nothing that can actually bind your thought to porn, but you have tha right not to think about it, not to adjust yourself to it, you immediately will feel as free as you actually are. Our mind wishes for dopamin, you might experience things due to it, but you always have the right to remain free, to deny the evilish wishes of your mind and body. Also as you adjust your way of thinking to this, your life will change accordingly. It’s not an easy road still, but the hardest part is to make the realisation that you are already free.

This was actually one of the biggest part of the easy peasy book, so once again I recommend it to anyone willing to read a little.

tanmay_ck · July 6, 2021, 5:27pm

I relapsed today on day 10, as of my last stand now I’m out of challenge…but definitely this challenge help me to remain positive in all situations…& Seriousness to do more longer streak!!

Duran · July 6, 2021, 5:31pm

Check in

Streak: day 87
Habit(M/P): day 6

I have my birthday today,(I turned 35) but I never felt to celebrate the passing of time. I always enjoyed celebrating achievements more. Thankfully I had a busy day, so I didn’t had to focus on it. Still times like this, makes me feel lonely even if I have more people around me than ever before. Being 35 and single is not somethig we were meant to live, so all of you here, who are younger, please listen to all the good advices on this forum. Change your life for the better, as soon as you can. Don’t waste a single more day.

Sadus13 · July 6, 2021, 5:40pm

@Duran

You’re right, our freedom is up to us. And yes we are capable of experiencing freedom now. Yet, as human beings, we imprison ourselves. It is our jobs to break free from these chains that we impose upon ourselves. Until we come upon these realizations that you have mentioned, we will continue to imprison ourselves. Because we don’t think we deserve to be free or because we believe our freedom comes from outside ourselves.

You’re absolutely correct, every single one of us has the ability to be free in this moment now. The question everyone should be asking themselves is “What will I choose to do with this knowledge? Will I continue to enslave myself or will I embrace this newfound freedom that has always been within me?”

Reaper097 · July 6, 2021, 6:03pm

Day 9 & 10 Check In
S1 -
S2 -

Apologies been busy and sick so not active much

rewire_user · July 6, 2021, 7:05pm

Combined Check-in

2021-06-27T18:30:00Z
2021-06-28T18:30:00Z
2021-06-29T18:30:00Z
2021-06-30T18:30:00Z
2021-07-01T18:30:00Z
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I won’t Count Days I don’t wanna become overconfident. I hope I cross Day 18 soon, Looking forward to reach Day 30 this time

HealingSpade · July 6, 2021, 7:52pm

Congratulations, @Duran! We hope better days to you.

alidaniyal · July 6, 2021, 8:14pm

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Day 17/18
Only 1 day to go

Sadus13 · July 6, 2021, 8:31pm

@Duran

Happy Birthday!

I agree with your last two sentences!

Look, don’t sweat it. There should be no more room in your life for regrets.

I wasn’t married until I was 41 years old. And now I’m separated at 46. This is life!

I’ve had a lot of relationships and I can honestly say, I didn’t give them my best. But all of those relationships have taught me valuable lessons and now I know what I want and don’t want in my next relationship. I let my earlier relationships sour my heart, I built up walls and didn’t let people in. Therefore, I pushed away people I cared about.

My next relationship will be my first relationship. The first one that will be real, honest, and not codependent. It will be the first one that I will be walking into it already loving myself. You don’t need other people for that. In fact, the only way to have a real relationship with someone, is when you both have done your self work. When codependency transforms into co-commitment. Then too powerful people can come together and respect each other’s growth.

So no regrets! Be aware of that thinking and stop it dead in its tracks. You will find that special someone someday. Until then, you are that special someone.

thisisit100 · July 6, 2021, 9:23pm

@Sadus13 Thanks Brother.

thisisit100 · July 6, 2021, 9:25pm

Checking in Day 21 and feeling great

mphexpert · July 6, 2021, 10:37pm

Day 36

I know I’m a bit late, but @Sadus13 congrats man. You have made a milestone that we are all striving for. By you completing it, I believe it gives others more hope of achieving it as they now have seen a brother do it himself. Thank you.

As for me. I’m learning to push through the grind and figure out a plan. I’m not enjoying the basic mechanic life yet, but I know with this experience I can grow as a man and move to achieve greater goals with this career in the long run.

Jaskeerat · July 7, 2021, 2:25am

@Keats may I restart my streak because I am feeling very down due to this nightfall and I feel like I will sooner or later relapse. Others too I need your permission to restart because I haven’t relapsed but this nightfall is making me very disappointed.
@Sadus13 sir, since you have reached such a high point please grant permission to restart.
Also @Duran happy birthday sir and please grant permission
@HealingSpade sir, please grant permission for the same.
All those whom I couldn’t mention here, you too are doing great on your part. So please grant me permission to restart because relapsing and resetting is not what I want to do as I am on my last stand.
Thank you all

loser12 · July 7, 2021, 2:42am

Check in day 47
HS 5

Duran · July 7, 2021, 2:44am

Brother, why would a nightfall make you feel that down? It was not out of your ill intent that you had it. You were not even conscoius. It’s natural that it happens. It’s even healthy. This is going to happen in the future as well if you keep going with your streak. You shouldn’t blame yourself for something that you are not in control of.
I hope you understand this and based on this, regarding the permission, I’m not willing to give it to you, except if there was something else behind this nightfall or it wasn’t really a nightfall.

To be honest, you don’t need our permission and you shouldn’t push the responsibility on others. You only need to listen to your conscience. If you are honest and this was a simple nightfall, your conscience wouldn’t want to count it as a relapse.
So what is it that really happened with you?

Jaskeerat · July 7, 2021, 2:49am

I am feeling drained that’s why I want to count it a relapse. I couldn’t even run today like I could on other days. I am feeling very weak that’s why I want to restart I’ve had nightfalls before but this one is making me feel similar to what I feel after relapsing.

Duran · July 7, 2021, 2:54am

Thank you for calling me out on my bad way of thinking and thank you for sharing your personal experience. I honestly appreciate it.
I let myself get used to think this way even more around my birthday, because I feel more alone around this time. This I think is also belongs to the problem with my self esteem. I look down on myself and start pitiing myself. Thinking about myself as a looser for being like this insteed of thinking that I’m already on a good way of changing it and being grateful for what I already achieved. I still have a lot to learn. Thank you for teaching me something today!