Is there any real way to escape?

It is hard to believe that there are those who succeeded have gotten out.

Let me ask this question.

How come the ones who succeed never stay long enough to share how they got free?

How come its just their streak and they are happy and they are gone?

I mean if they are doing well why not tell us the secret?

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There’s no secret.

I cannot talk by everyone but I believe that people might care less about others since they got rebooted because what they shares and suggest might not work to everybody that is still fighting against the addiction, it’s something particular.

Since I’ve been rebooted I seek to be busy and doing good habits, it’s not magical or easy to get rid of it but on the other hand we can’t hope just a miracle without efforts and a real persistence.

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I myself keep searching for this secret, and the answer has never been a simple one.

All of us got addicted differently based on our personal circumstances and choices in life.

And the answer will never be 100% same for 2 individuals.

Its been a year since i crossed 20 days and my highest streak is only 24days between.

I tried so many methods and it did work for a period of time, but not anymore. Maybe new methods work for some time and the main root problem takes control again.

I personally think getting help from a personal counselor is the solution. Which i have never been able to afford.

But its true that People who got free, they leave, and i understand that because whenever i have been able to control myself for more than 20days, i have felt like i am not addicted anymore, and at those times whenever anybody used to ask me for help or anything regarding nofap here in this forum, i have found myself to be avoiding or should i say, not being able to give more importance to their issue, and later i figured that, i was actually getting triggered by listening to other’s problems about nofap, which is why i used to avoid them. It someway or the other reminds us about our addiction when we try to help others in the basics of nofap.

And since you said escape, i understand now that, we can never escape this addiction, rather we gotta face it, its hardships and pain of all sorts(depression, stress, anxiety, flatline, withdrawal, etc.), and by facing it we have to figure out the solution based on the knowledge we have about nofap and this addiction. And when we overcome this after facing the problem, that will make a difference and have a long term effect…

Though this is my opinion and understanding, since i have never broken free.

For you there is no real way to escape.

  1. You don’t have control.
  2. You don’t want to follow any advice.
  3. You fear very much to other people like we are cannibals who will eat you.
  4. You are just don’t have guts to talk openly to us just cry like a wimp
  5. You can’t even cross a week.
  6. This forum has lots of advices which your brain aren’t processing so yes for you theres a big secret which might you can’t find out.

Please you don’t say man. You are itself a numb button. Not trying to open up, when you get down you relapse like a bunch of douchebag. How much horny pills you need to stay like this?
Write on your friend that you are a douchebag.

My problem is that Im lonely.

Loneliness is why I relapse.

Being single and afraid of women and desperate for a girlfriend is why I relapsed.

Is this clear?

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In simplified form this challenge is all about urge.

Urge will always be there. It’s one of the reasons people get married and stay married for life.

Those who got out just know how to deal with urge.
There are many ways to deal with urge. Not always all method will work. I keep a list of methods to do when an urge arrives
Execute them and hopefully one sticks

And women would not like a desperate person like you you know what’s your problem the above i have mentioned before

Yes. Sadly you are completely correct.

I am incapable of applying advice. Because when i really do try to apply it, the results are always different than how it should be.

The talking openly part I am confused on.

What am I not talking openly about that would make things better?

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Now this is something I can give advice on.

  1. Don’t be desperate for a girlfriend in the first place. Bro you are thinking with your dick here. The whole point of self improvement is to be happy with yourself. Be confident to be by yourself. Be comfortable doing things on your own. This will not be easy but it takes practice and patience. Don’t be a sex hungry beta, what you need to look for in women is value and virtue. And when you start thinking that way, you will see them as humans that aren’t that scary. Why would anyone want a guy who is desperate?. Think!
    Desperate= low value.

  2. Women aren’t that scary dude. I mean think about it, they are just as much as human as we are. What you even scared of? Rejection? That will happen throughout your life. There is no success on the first try. It’s always trial and error. Try your luck with a girl. You might fuck up. So what, try on someone else. Bro there are so many girls out there. Most guys are so tunnel visioned that they limit themselves to a small group of women. Here’s a neat trick. Practice talking with girls who you don’t find attractive. Why? Because you won’t be scared of rejection coz you don’t care about them in the first place. So try conversing with them, practice with them until yyare more confident to step up your game

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There are zero single women for 80 miles in any direction of where i live

There’s literally no woman to talk to except married ones

Thats why can’t even try

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