I had also turned one girl down 
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Bro same ā¦ I have seen his few posts and every post creeps me out .
Hes recovering. Lets not judge a person just bcuz hes being honest. Every one has their own battles.
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Yes bro in india we canāt share our problems with anyone ā¦ so In this forum he is telling . 
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Its fine if he creeps you outā¦ U donāt need to call him outā¦ He did change after so many people roasted him the last time. He needs support, world has enough critics.
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Ya , we should respect that heās seeking help from a place where he wonāt be found and can stay anonymous, I should have not judged anyone, after all anyone can do shit sometimes.
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Bro @zorim craving for female companionship is not something to creep out. It is totally normal and if we donāt crave that then that is something to creep out.
He is being honest here and let us help him out by giving honest opinions.
Iāve been following this thread closely since I was going through the exact feelings he mentioned here.
As you go forward in nofap streak youāll naturally crave that.
In India parents stop expressing love openly to their sons usually when they reach teenage etc. The only option we are left with is dig ourselves in great male friendships if you are not in the dating, relationship category.
The other option is get a girlfriend.
Humans are wired to be intimate with someone.
We need relationship, strong bonds, someone to share everything to go forward in life bro.
That is what makes us human after all.
For some of us who got addicted to pmo at a young age relationship was too much to bear. Others loose their friendship too due to this addiction.
Bro @Roads_to_purity it is totally normal that you are going through these feelings.
Iam also going through it bro. Most of us go through it as well.
But the thing is, right now, are you in a position to manage, take responsibility of another personās life along with yours??
Do you accept and love yourself unconditionally, right now?
Because if you donāt love yourself, donāt accept yourself your life will only get harder when someone else joins you.
This is my take on it bro. The first step is to get our shit together.
You have to become complete in yourself.
It is not when your girlfriend joins you that your life becomes complete but when you start living a life based on your core values, purpose, meaning and ambition.
But still, Iam in no position to give you advice bro. Iam also going through the exact same situation as yours. What Iam doing now is, digging in the happiness and intimacy that my male friends give me and focusing 100% on my purpose in life.
Maybe you can do that too for 2-3 more years and get your shit together.
Or you can make the move after 90-180 days and get a gf.
This is your life bro. It is great to have intimacy with a gf. (Not sex). Love is 10000 times better than sex.
One is connected with the physical and other with the spiritual
And when both of it are mixed together magic happens!
All the best mate.
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May I know what I did to make you think Iām creepy ?
U donāt know me personally, neither do I but letās me tell you that I am very alone,Iām have been addicted to my studies right from my childhood,not like porn which many of my fellow mates are addicted to.
In pursuing my studies and dream,I have forgotten to make genuine romantic relationship with girls. Once I had loved a girl deep from heart,never had even kissed or touched her. When she went to her new college,she ghosted on me and blocked me on everywhere without telling the reason. Imagine that situation,my entire emotions got stirred. Since then I have been jerking off to relinquish my lonelines. Since then I fear to again been ghosted upon by a girl I love. So I switched the path of masturbations to fight my lonelines
If thatās what makes me creepy. Yes Iām super creepy
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Oh God, I needed to read that. Thanks a lot and also, you @Tagore, are not alone in this situation either. I am there too :D.
TBH, sometimes I lost my thoughts and peace and I start thinking that if I am doung the right thing as my life were āeasierā in past as I was not care about anything, but then sometimes I snap out of it by myself, sometimes I need enouragement in shape of words like yours, either its comment or quote or whatever. The thing is that everyone sometimes need support in some shape or form. So I am thankfull that today I decided to open this forum and see that 
@Roads_to_purity I totally agree with @Tagore , we are wired that way. I was in one meeting 2 days ago and there were some truths said and one of them was āif you are not ready to do some step and cross some threshhold, it might be RS, or start NOFAP or start workout or whatever, life will pull you out from that, as life knows that you are not readyā you might not see it as life pulls you out, but it dont want harm to you. Basically it might be path for you have RS and GF or other things, but if you are not ready, it will not happen. So dont stress much about it, I am lonely too, but I bet that in these lockdown times, I am less lonelier as people who have problems to be with themselfs. And one more thing, you know what you want and having GF can be true, but she need be the right one for you as if you will not be āconnectedā in some deeper way, it will not last and both of you can suffer in that RS. It is not easy for me to admit that, as I had juse one RS, way in past and it was not OK and was not long at all, but I am starting to understand it more and more, it just need a time to acknowledge all this
Also, it might be fightening to know that fixing yourself may take months or even years, but on the other hand, it is better to know it and start it immediatelly when you are ready, you might know that you need fix, but you will not be ready to make that step. Thats why there are relapses and cheat days and weak days and etc.
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Sorry to ask but whatās RS ??
RelationShip ā¦ sorry I was in zone and a bit lazy to write it 
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I believe you need to let her go
Stop thinking about her
Iām in the same process. Not easy but thatās how you can help yourself. From what I know she left you when you were in highschool and now youāre about 24? Itās quite a long time man. She doesnāt deserve you. Sheās living in your head rent free for so many years.
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Yo I take my words back, Iām being an idiot, I know.I have withdrawn my comment.
Well I do notice people are more in trouble than me sometimes and I canāt help but keep my mouth babbling.
The habits are bad but if you can quit them, then you are a legend.
Sorry for being an asshole bruh, get that shit you want.
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