Refer this!!
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(I hate 20 character rule)
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This is clearly a hard phase , but you can beat this.
Even I relapsed twice today
I was exhausted after studying
I laid down on the bed to sleep
But the mind started searching for cheap thrills by giving excuses
You don’t have time now to worry about Relapse @The_Ambitious_One
Examination is very close
You can’t keep worrying about this relapse
Just leave it
Nofap journey will gef alright after exams are over
We will focus on Nofap then
Now focus only on studying
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It’s true but at some conditions. If a person is indulged in fapping most of the time , how he will have time, focus and energy for studies.
He will be sleeping too much and doomed while awakening. Once a day could be tolerated.
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web version ? i can’t see your counter to be zero btw what was the reason ?
thats the point
that is the reason I keep worrying too , I think that I won’t be able to give my best or won’t be as good as before because of indulging into it . That has been the cause of my fear all the time
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I understand
You are trying to say you are worrying that you will become more and more weaker by indulging into it and you fear you might not be the same person as before
But things can change
Once you pass your exams with good marks, get a seat in top ranking university, you still can hope of improving yourself then
You need to dream of that future NOW
So much as I agree with you, but there are flip sides to this as well
Ofcourse I am not supporting or encouraging to relapse
If I had suppose 100 days streak before exam, there are chances I might get carried away with this and forget about the real thing of studying
Relapse makes me to strive more work harder
Also when I relapse its not like I want to relapse
Its out of my conscious thinking
My point was about worrying
If I keep on worrying about the relapse and lose my time, energy and self esteem thinking about a relapse, I will not be able to focus on studying for exam which is barely few days away
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I suppose most of you guys are Indian.
and what if I have been fearing that it affects my studies or at least I have built a false belief that I won’t be able to think , calculate and remember clearly . I guess , that’s where my fear started as well and everything revolves around it . Back then , I didn’t study and blamed the lack of clarity to brain fog/lack of focus due to dopamine imbalance . Now , even if I have studied harder than ever , a relapse limits my confidence from performing my best . If I manage to do well , I do well and judgement stops but if I messup , it will be blamed onto pmo and imagine 2 years of this . Its been a long time into this lack of confidence , I mess up those tests where I mess up the first questions and when I pass at least one section easily without discomfort , I usually become confident or peaceful enough to do the later sections better than I would have done . I had set for myself at least a goal of 100 days before the exams and I was already 50 days towards it , and you are right about getting carried away with it . But on the mental aspect , I was able to solve problems easily without anything limiting me and because of my faulted mindset for so long , I still had the intrusive thought that I wouldnt be the same after relapsing or something , even if it wasn’t much serious the first time . The chaser with that thought turns out to be worse and I worry more than I work . I keep regretting about being peaceful and judge every small thing that I can’t do . Fuck bro , I realized everything while writing this . It is like , when I am on good no of days , I won’t blame small failures on everything but when I relapse I will blame not being able to do well to that relapse . On the real side , I have been studying the same way all the time , its just that I don’t see things the same way after losing and take everything negatively or otherwise I lose calm so bad that I don’t do well due to losing focus . I had understood this thing well before in august but my wrong mindset was forged for long time and fell back into it without clarity .
Now the thing is about losing my thoughts and working silently . It will be hard to kill everything because it has been so long , again . I was more peaceful earlier when I didn’t know about things , I didn’t have intrusive thoughts about withdrawals or dopamine and all.
But also the good side , as it is just a false belief . If I keep studying , I won’t lose much but I must refrain from relapsing because it kills energy and drive and from corn because it is more obviously harmful for brain .
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There is one best thing about no fap. We need to do nothing in this journey. It keeps progressing by itself. Just don’t fap , obviously 
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So instead of focusing on NoFap journey , we can focus on studies .
Btw @The_EnlightenedOne I’m not doing any debate , we both are on the same side. 
@The_Ambitious_One Leave regret and get ur life escalate…best of luck 
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Hmm
Understable
And you are right the relapse makes us to perform less than our capacity
But its just in our minds and not scientifically proven
One college mate of mine who would fap 7-9 days every single day was a severe ■■■■ addict
Yet he cleared CA intermediate exam in the first attempt with good marks
And here i am who would fap once in 2 months and stuck in CA intermediate for 4 attempts
Ofcourse I can understand what u r saying
But don’t let the thoughts that relapse actually has a bearing on performance in exam
There are many college mates of mine who would fap almost daily but are extremely brilliant in academics
There are some others too who wouldn’t even know about Fapping but still perform less than required
Rest is true
Relapse dimishes mental clarity, wipes of excess energy, creates brain fog, confusion etc
But the thing is majority of the consequences of a relapse are to do with thoughts created by yourself and may not reflect the actual reality
Just be mindful of it
PS - I hope people here would understand that I completely agree that ■■■■ and PMO are evil things that one needs to get rid off as soon as possible and PMO destroys dreams and aspirations of an individual
So I am not justifying PMO at all
Here I am talking about a totally different aspect not connected with general conversation around Nofap
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Happy birthday @The_Ambitious_One 
! May all your wishes come true . Honoured to have you in our lives!
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Happy Birthday Fushiguro. I know your situation demands focus but do take some time to let loose and laugh like the innocent punk you are 
Enjoy your day!
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Happy birthday @The_Ambitious_One
May all your Wishes come true in the new year
All the best for your exams
Looking forward for your success 
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Kudos to your 17th revolution Daredevil @The_Ambitious_One . Look you aged like fine wine and trying your best to be the best. The only thing I wanna say is make the next year yours, and be consistent in your efforts, they never go in vain. If not here, somewhere else they will be used. Work hard but also love yourself. 
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thank you gojo 
thanks for the wish sukuna 
thank you very much brother
sure thanks bro 
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