I'm breaking the silence ( I AM SEXUALLY ABUSED) 😭

[Element45]

Ok I will try to talk to them and thanks for the love brother. I wish things get better for you too.
Thank you

[maka]

What ever happened is cannot be changed. But your step to come out from that is welcome. Do concentrate on your carrier and go to gym. And don’t be idle.

[drago]

bro @Element45 let me tell you i was abused 5 times till I was 12 years old , i only knew it when i was 15 or something …4 times by males and one time by female…i dont want to mention one person who is most close to me…
but by gods grace i am on day354 of nofap… stay strong bro…

[Element45]

@drago I’m sorry for what you’ve been through I know how hard it must have been growing up. But brother your on day 354 and I’m proud of you. I’m gonna reach there just like you. You really did inspire me to achieve it. Thanks for letting me know that I’m not alone, I pray and wish you the best in life.

[Shayra]

Hey, me too… I am a girl and I was abused when I have 11 yo. I tried to forget and I succeeded. But it did me a lot of harm because I lost a lot of memories, I only talked about it when I was 16. Now I’m 18 and I don’t know how to deal with it, I have nightmares and I was diagnosed with PTSD.

thanks for sharing this, we are not alone.

PS: Sorry my bad english, I’m brazillian.

[Vardan51878]

You should know that life is not about what happened to you. Life is not about events and memories. It’s about how complete you are.
You were abused, that’s a bad thing to happen, some people experience events that are different, but not good as well. But is that one day your childhood buddy? You were born, that’s what wonderful. You woke up today while millions went to sleep and didn’t. That’s also wonderful.
You had a girlfriend. She left you. Do you have to cry? I have never had a girlfriend around me. I don’t have to cry do I? Girlfriend is not more important than your life. Neither is that event that you call your “childhood”. You weren’t abused before that day, and you weren’t angry, depressed or low. You were just living and enjoying your life. Can I count that as your childhood, bud? And the days after that day. The school days.
Your life has a greater value. It’s to keep the body healthy, full of energy and calm. It’s to use your brain happily. It’s to give yourself whatever your mind and body needs to shine. And it’s easy to understand what you need for that. We are creatures. Most of our needs are from our grand grand grand … grand parents. Just before a couple of hundreds years ago they were doing physical work, 50 times more than we do now. Do you do physical work, bud? Do it a little more. Also they were communicating to survive. We have already become creatures that need to communicate to live better. Communicate more than now. Have questions about you job, studies or life? There’s always a book about that. Do you need a hug? Hug the people you love. Is there more that you can do? There’s nothing more. Then why are you crying?
Students were beating me in the high school, because they were playing that way. And no parents or teachers or principal cared. I feel in love with a girl who hated me. Stole money, got kicked out of university, restored, saw a huge war, been rejected from companies. I failed 29 exams overall. See? These things can sometimes flow in a row. But they have good things to teach you. The things that your parents or your school never did. These are the things that your future girlfriend will fall for and things that will make you smile so wide, your mouth will barely fit on your face. Things that you won’t have to write on your cv because you’ll automatically get whatever you want. Things that will warm you when you’re cold and feed you when you’re hungry.
Live next bud, don’t fap, don’t cry, don’t feel low. Love yourself.

[Vardan51878]

No, please don’t suffer bro.
I mean you can suffer if you want. But life is not a suffer. Maybe the outside world is suffer for your thoughts. But life is not about your thoughts neither is about government and economy.

[harn]

What you have is a congenital habit, these habits are inscribed so deep. The more you do the more deeper it becomes, becomes more harder to erase.

If you react to those urges/sensation you are literally strengthening your habit.

Only solution is to face it and don’t react. Easy said than done.

One way to practice this is by learning Meditation (mindfulness/Vippasana), these meditations are not easy, it’s a mind surgery without anesthesia. It’s like you cut your own wound and take the puss out of it.

Try if you can, you will see the difference day by day, eventually it will fade away, of course there are other ways which I am not familiar of.

May you be free from craving and clinging. Good luck brother.

“You alone can fix yourself, it’s just a matter of self realization”

[PrDr]

I cannot believe these are the words from the same person who was so down a month ago that he didn’t want to live anymore. I’m glad to see this pleasent change in you, brother. If it makes you feel better, then I’m 2 years older than you, I’ve never had any gf either, have failed many exams as well, can’t get a good job, most of my childhood and adulthood, so far, has been mostly without presence of any friends or any contact outside my family, and I was also hated by majority of students and teachers in the school and college. I once got lost in my obsession for a female I met online, but she ended up hating me as well, much like your crush hated you. But life still has much to offer, like you say brother. The Sun doesn’t shine less on us, plants don’t stop us from eating their fruits, streams don’t abandon us when we feel thirsty, we are still able-bodied men while a billion are either crippled or too poverty-struck to even have enough food and water to avoid malnutrition. We are still young and we still have enough opportunities to appear in many more exams. We are blessed to be still alive and loved by this nature bro. Your message is beautiful.

[_TIGER]

Great thoughts!!! Salute for you bro !!! I am happy that I am alive now .

[josephvt]

Yha brother every single one in this forum has a story to tell…Me also sexually abused by one man…The Thing is that those memories are killing us…The Only thing to do is forget the past and fix the present…

Porn Can Kill Nofap Can Heal

“Heal” I literally meant This Word Healing Is Possible with Nofap

[Nep_12]

@Vardan51878

Students were beating me in the high school, because they were playing that way. And no parents or teachers or principal cared. I feel in love with a girl who hated me. Stole money, got kicked out of university, restored, saw a huge war, been rejected from companies. I failed 29 exams overall.

And I thought my life is shit
Damn
Take care bro
I believe in you

[Tagore]

@Vardan51878

You should know that life is not about what happened to you. Life is not about events and memories. It’s about how complete you are.
You were abused, that’s a bad thing to happen, some people experience events that are different, but not good as well. But is that one day your childhood buddy? You were born, that’s what wonderful. You woke up today while millions went to sleep and didn’t. That’s also wonderful.
You had a girlfriend. She left you. Do you have to cry? I have never had a girlfriend around me. I don’t have to cry do I? Girlfriend is not more important than your life. Neither is that event that you call your “childhood”. You weren’t abused before that day, and you weren’t angry, depressed or low. You were just living and enjoying your life. Can I count that as your childhood, bud? And the days after that day. The school days.
Your life has a greater value. It’s to keep the body healthy, full of energy and calm. It’s to use your brain happily. It’s to give yourself whatever your mind and body needs to shine. And it’s easy to understand what you need for that. We are creatures. Most of our needs are from our grand grand grand … grand parents. Just before a couple of hundreds years ago they were doing physical work, 50 times more than we do now. Do you do physical work, bud? Do it a little more. Also they were communicating to survive. We have already become creatures that need to communicate to live better. Communicate more than now. Have questions about you job, studies or life? There’s always a book about that. Do you need a hug? Hug the people you love. Is there more that you can do? There’s nothing more. Then why are you crying?
Students were beating me in the high school, because they were playing that way. And no parents or teachers or principal cared. I feel in love with a girl who hated me. Stole money, got kicked out of university, restored, saw a huge war, been rejected from companies. I failed 29 exams overall. See? These things can sometimes flow in a row. But they have good things to teach you. The things that your parents or your school never did. These are the things that your future girlfriend will fall for and things that will make you smile so wide, your mouth will barely fit on your face. Things that you won’t have to write on your cv because you’ll automatically get whatever you want. Things that will warm you when you’re cold and feed you when you’re hungry.
Live next bud, don’t fap, don’t cry, don’t feel low. Love yourself.

Bro @Vardan51878 trust me, these words went into my heart. Iam grateful to be alive and thanks for being there bro. Thanks for spreading light from your heart through these words. Thanks for sharing it. Love you man.

@PrDr

But life still has much to offer, like you say brother. The Sun doesn’t shine less on us, plants don’t stop us from eating their fruits, streams don’t abandon us when we feel thirsty, we are still able-bodied men while a billion are either crippled or too poverty-struck to even have enough food and water to avoid malnutrition. We are still young and we still have enough opportunities to appear in many more exams. We are blessed to be still alive and loved by this nature bro.

This is poetry bro @PrDr . You guys make the world a little brighter. Atleast this forum and the heart of people like me who read your message. Again, thank you for being here man. Grateful to have you. This life is beautiful

[Dean_Ambrose]

You are 1 out of 7Billion so just celebrate for you ~ ATEEZ

I’m glad you opened up , instead of writing alone in your diary.

[Sacred]

The first step is recognizing you have a problem which you already have so be rest assured you’re on your way to recovery. Keep GIGHTING brother. You cannot get comfortable with this pmo thing. Literally FIGHT your temptations. Fight with everything you’ve got. Pmo cannot beat you unless you let it. DO NOT LET IT. It’s time to decide and say to yourself “I am done.” “I’ve wasted enough years of my life with this. Ruined enough relationships. Ruined many good things, but now I choose to stop.” And one day soon you will look back and say “Thank God I am free.” “God free’d me.” Good luck and God bless you brother.

[zakaurrahman]

Me the same story of sexual abuse, don’t worry we will help each other

[Element45]

@Vardan51878 Thank you brother your words impacted my perspective of life. I am learning to be grateful for what I have and what I am becoming. Thank you !

@josephvt @zakaurrahman Thanks for letting me know that I am not alone and lost.
Let’s erase our past and fix our present together.

@Sacred yeah it’s true I’ve wasted many years but not anymore I decided to stop and never look back. I won’t give up this time, Thanks brother.

@Shayra Me too had nightmares and I know how hard it is. I’m not sure if this will help you or not but try not to consider the past as traumatic and don’t let this memories take over you, Try to replace it with good memories. I’m on that path and it works, Take care of your health.

I wish and pray you all successful recovery , Thank you all .

P.S sorry for late reply

[Element45]

Now I realise life is not short it’s really big and there are lot of things waiting for me in future.
I’m making progress and I can’t thank you enough for your words.

[godofwill]

Brother, i was sexually assaulted by my cousin male, we still live together but never talked about it.
There are much bigger things happening in others life.
You have to accept it and pray to god you will be a good person with no lust.

Many things happen in childhood, its good you shared it to make your self feel lighter.

You are the man in Charge
You are dominant
Dont make a female overtake your emotions.

We are brothers here to support each other.
Thaanks