@Element45 bro when the urges come ā¦keep your phone or laptop away from u ā¦ donāt get swipe away with the urges or thoughts like "one peek wonāt harm " , āi will just check out whatās newā ,etc. They are utter lie and nothing else , many including myself have fallen to it .
Start mediation , exercise and also read the easy peasy book 
, download a blocker in ur device.
Just make sure to keep yourself busy u will not find time for the urges ā¦
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Thank you for the advice you have great insight brother
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@The_integrous_one - Thanks for the book recommendation bro I will read it for sure and I hope I will get past 30 days and beyond
@anon25497833 - That rubber band trick might work I will definitely try that. Also from that video Iāll keep that in mind.
@kanu - I always fall for that trap bro and from now on I will try to keep myself busy but the thing is night time is the most difficult for me. Anyway now Iāve decided to sleep next to my brother.
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Bro @Element45 while reading your story I felt like reading my own biography. Almost all these things Iāve gone through as well. My cousin sister SEXUALLY ABUSED me (yes I must use that word too) when I was 4 or 5. I havenāt yet joined school at that time. I also didnāt understand wtf she was doing. She told me this is a game and some mfer peodophile did this to her. So donāt hate tour sister bro, if she was young when she did that to you. My sister was also young and sexual thoughts got imprinted in my fucking brain at that age itself just like you. Then always I was following sexual things in my life- in magazines, in pictures, in movies everywhere. This was a constant companion to me. After 2 years or so, I did the exact same thing, my cousin sister did to me, to one of my neighbor girl. Yes, I didnāt know this was wrong or anything; I was a child who found something that gives pleasure and was experimenting with it. And hear me out bro, like you, I was going through constant guilt for doing all these things through out my life. I had pain Inside me. I always thought Iam bad, Iam not upto par, I was always insecure about myself. And then p*** came into my life. I found it as a great way to escape from the pain, guilt and insecurities of my life. I got addicted, fucked up everything. Even though I didnāt had a successful relationship I used to run after girls- I wanted love, I wanted connection, I wanted someone to hide from my insecurities. I failed in all these things but I was growing in one area of my life. ONLY 1 AREA!
MY PASSION- WRITING.
Somehow I was also channeling my pains into short stories, screen plays, books after books I wrote. I published it in magazines, I earned money, my teachers and parents were proud of me. This gave me ONE REASON, ONE SAVING HAND to go forward in life.
Otherwise trust me bro, I would have died, I would have killed myself.
I have a thing that gives me meaning in life- my passion- writing!
Brother @Element45 donāt try to hide from your past, donāt try to forget it. If you try to forget it itāll come back stronger like a trauma when you go through hard times in life. Talk about it openly to your close friends, extremely close friends whom you can trust. It is only by opening up about it and by gaining positive feedback from trustworthy people we can clear off that guilt feeling within us.
And above all, follow your passion. focus on succeeding in your goals. It is the only way, in my view to achieve true self confidence!
All other things are fake, arrogant masks. If you succeed in your life, if you live the life of purpose and meaning and passion youāll find true happiness and confidence.
And also understand that you are not the only one who went through these trauma. Many others have bee through it as well. Iam also one example. These experience was also a big reason for our addiction to pmo bro.
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Also these childhood sexual experience + pmo addiction makes us a nice guy too. That is a very dangerous problem as well. Running after approval, running after sex, running for pleasing people. I was a nice guy; Iam also working on that problem of mine as well. You also may have that problem. If you donāt conquer the NG syndrome it has the power to destroy our relationships, love life, and personal life as well.
I suggest you read the book- no more Mr nice guy.
In many cased pmo addiction and nice guy syndrome are directly proportional. If you are addicted to pmo there is a huge chance that you may also be a NG. Not always though
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Imagine going through that sexual abuse and then not discovering Nofap , you are mentally dead right there.
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Life is suffering and you need ro find some meaning in order to keep going. To find your inner power to climb back,
to believe in yourself,
to start working on yourself.
Use your pain as fuel to create something which is beyond yourself - no one wants to hear the story of the guy who got everything and didnāt worked for it, warriors must bleed in their training in order to win 100 battles. The skies are quiet, the Gods are waiting for us to meet them after we either win or lose at the battles of life, but we get to choose how we are willing to live while we are still alive on this earth.
These are all clumsy and lousy words. These are nothing. Itāll fade away tomorrow. Itās up to you to change, I myself hate preaching, I myself need to change, I myself know that words are nothing - only actions speak louder.
All the best.
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@Element45 easypeasymethod is a God-send. Donāt miss out on it. It a must read above all other addiction books.
Iāve started the original Easyway to stop smoking, and now have an illustrated version too.
What I love about it is; it is not a willpower method, but realistic, and enjoyable to start breaking illusions.
And btw, please be kind to yourself, no need for hate. Nobody here hates you, We all love you and want you to do well, as we all hope the same for ourselves.
Please donāt spend too long thinking about the past and in your worries 
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@Tagore Thank you for sharing your story bro
Itās sad that we both have to go through this.
You are right bro my relative who abused me was young at that time. It was really hard for me when I was young not knowing whatās happening in my body all of a sudden. Itās good to hear that your doing good in your passion bro.
Maybe you are right at this point too bro, I was way too nice in my childhood and teenage life. I will forgive people easily because I always think in their perspective. Even if the mistake is not on my side I will apologize and because of that people took advantage of me sometimes.
I was not really aware of NG syndrome up until now. I will read the book you suggested and I will work on that bro, Thank you bro for bringing this to my knowledge.
I hope I will succeed in my passion and I wish you the same Bro.
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It seems like change is the only good thing I can do to myself. As you said I will work on myself to become a better version of myself. Words may fade away but the pain always exist so Iāll associate that with the words and use it as fuel.
Thanks for the reply bro it means a lot
The words of you may or may not fade away tomorrow but It saved me today and thatās all really matterās. Thank you !
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Definitely ! I wonāt give up on that book for sure.
Right now Iām reading Garry Wilsonās Your brain on porn. I read few pages of easy-peasy method too.
Thanks for the care and taking your time to reply me. Iām trying my best to not think about the past and be engaged to something. All the best to you 
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Yes, it is a very dangerous problem. Trust me, take real action to get out of it. No more Mr nice guy by Dr Clover gives you real actions and steps to get out of it. Be real serious about it.
And as I said, focus 100% only our passion. Pmo and all are crap! Real, concrete, authentic confidence comes from achieving your dreams and living the life and purpose and meaning. We got this bro!
Everything is possible Infront the unlimited human strength and commitment
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Iām am so sorry this happened to you. I pray that you find a way out of this darkness . 
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Brother you are probably rightā¦ masturbations addicted are directly related to NG syndromeā¦
I can literally feel your words. The worst thing about being a nice guy is that woman donāt value you. You are used by them and you are the only reason for this,u allowed yourself to her shoes
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I would like to know more about NG syndrome from you ? What are your experiences being NG ?
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Bro, get over it. If we could change the past, then none of us would be here. If we were not living with some traumas, none of us would have any regrets. Its how you cope with it, that makes all the difference. You can stay there and cry over it for the rest of your life, making it even worse. Or you can accept the past and not pay any attention to it anymore. The more youāll think about it, the harder it will get. Let it come and go, you just donāt pay attention to it anymore. There have been some people here who were sexually abused too, but they are taking control of their lives now and are changing it. You can do it too.
Take care.
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Thank you for the reply bro. I am trying my best to not think about the past. I wish I could just delete the memories like it was a file in my computer. Seems like that features are exclusive to computers alone.
So Iām in the process of replacing the memories with good oneās thatās the least thing we humans can do, I wish it goes well and for everyone else here.
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Oh my friend, Iām so sorry for what happened to you.!nobody deserves thisā¦if you wanna get back at life you must follow a plan!start exercising, Eating healthy, focus on your goals,keep your house clean,try to move on with other girls but focus on yourself! And last but not least speak to your family about thisā¦ Iām 100% sure they will understandā¦ You have to go to a psychologist. It will surely help you!
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Thank you for the reply friend, Iāve been to psychologist twice but not for this reason. I was depressed in my school days so my parents took me to psychologist. Thatās a another traumatic big story I will open up about that too someday.
Also I canāt tell this to my family they will be heart broken. They think Iām fine and happy and I donāt wanna spoil that for them, But they know about my relationship break up.
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You have to my brotherā¦ You are everything to your parentsā¦ They HAVE to know! You can contact me anytime if you want someone to talk toā¤ļømuch love, I hope things will get better for you!
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