I want to give up forever

I tried writing a diary and all I feel is loneliness. I tried to stay busy, but the negative emotional feelings never go away.

All I desire is freedom from my parents and I desire a hot girlfriend.

But I can’t due to all the responsibilities I have. I woke up today with a mix of sadness, loneliness, desperation, and neediness for female companionship or a girlfriend.

I go straight to porn and it doesn’t fix my problem. I’m feeling upset too.

It hurts more than stabbing knives.

No woman want me. I’m forever trapped and I can’t get a girlfriend on my own. I can’t fix myself on my own. I need someone in person to help me.

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Which country are you from

Dude, if you already know no women want you then why the hell do you want to beg for their love!!!??
And its not just you, many chads and loverboys are literally begging for a woman’s love.

what the fuck is wrong with you? Don’t you got other things to do? why cant you focus on honing youself to such a damn level that is so high that you love yourself more than any fucking woman’s love who you wanted…

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Leverage I’m from the USA

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Because I’m weak emotionally and I need to be taught by someone else how to fix and hold my hand step by step.

What is that you don’t have to love yourself bro?
You got such a damn good body, a mind to think, and money to live.
And here, emotions don’t come in way to loving yourself.
Just change the way you look at things and you’ll realise what the hell of a post you had written.
I’m not criticizing you but trying to help you

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They will someday , try to accept yourself now (that’s essential point right now )
Think of yourself than to think to much of her

how she will be ??
How she will accept or not ??
All this doubts and I think that the first step is to love yourself to the max to take firm steps on firm ground.

Believe that all of this (all you can’t understand now or not accept it easily ) will gone .
and you will be smile about how ?
you will really feel the greatest payment when you skipe woman and thinking of them right , just till you will be ready because when you will you will have the choice as you like , YOU EVEN IN THAT IT CAN ACCEPT ANYTHING , YOU ARE READY TO ACCEPT AND YOU HAVE A CHOICE EVERYTHING IS FINE AND EVEN IT WILL NOT YOU WON’T LOSE YOU ARE ENJOYING WITH YOURSELF AND YOU ARE OK WITH THAT

Don’t stay alone we are here together , and thanks that you shared your thoughts .

Your problem is that You are lonely.
You should do friendship with @anon64122840 and other members of the community.

The community is so humble and kind

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I really recommend you to watch this video:
Life changing stuff.
And if you like, watch other videos of sadhguru. You will see your life will be better

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Trust me celibacy will change your life forever celibacy is the hardest penance as described by many great sages in india .

After sperm in retained in the body
Thought yoga, excercise, meditation good and pure thoughts aversion of bad thoughts and by solely praying to god

This semen gets remixed in blood and then energizes every cell in your body.

Semen changes into Ojas

This isnt just some mythology modern science agrees with it too that semen retention makes your hotter and sexier gives you more strength mind focus

And makes everything better mentally and physically.

If you are weak its because you don’t follow celibacy (bramhacharya). Celibacy literally means to get the knowledge of Bramha who created the universe (not the actual supreme lord but one of the highest three)

People who follow celibacy and do mantra chanting(only chant if you know how to otherwise you can ask me)

Have shown to have grown their brains and then had the capacity to remember more than 180,000 words . Like swami vivekanand he learned all and read all of the Britannica books which supposed to impossible to read in a lifetime (he did celibacy of 12yrs and even predicted his own death)

And then narrated each book page by page

Like Swami Dayanand Saraswari (an hindu reformer) who by his unbroken vow of celibacy.
Even after getting injected by the worst poison in British indian times he held on to his life for 30 days!! Other People would die in minutes

But due to his strength from celibacy he continued to live for 30 days and then himself said that i do not wish to live longer and then passed away

If you wish me to explain more in detail about how to follow celibacy then pls ask

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Never give up, you got this brother. Life is more than just that…I know it’s hard cause as you grow older the more selfless you get the better human you become but for now you need to love yourself first… there’s reason God put you at where you are right now and If you overcome this you can overcome any obstacle in front of you… you should look it from different perspectives and it does change the whole game…for me our soul or the true self of us is influenced by the thought (learned behaviour) and thought are influenced by the feeling and feeling influenced by environment.

There’s a lot to learn from this life but the most important thing before you get girl or pursue dating life you must know how the world economy (finance) operates that’s where you need to sharpen your competence. I myself sometimes think that there is other people suffering way harder than us especially one that still live in war 3rd world country that always find way to keep alive/meaning even there is no hope… so my advice to you, don’t even think about the emotions, don’t give meaning to it,

Be generous in prosperity and grateful in adversity…always humble yourself and keep improving forward and good thing naturally come to u when it’s the right time… you know what my answers? It always does … if you want some help to face the degenerates age world we live right I recommend watch Elliott Hulse, he can give you life advice

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Give up.
Give up and you’ll understand that you can’t give up.
You don’t have money, girls around you, houses, vacations, you’re under control of your parents and so on you think your life is garbage.
So. Will this change if you give up? You know the answer: it won’t change, it will get even worse.
You know, life is not that generous to let us choose everything.
But I have a question to you. “Imagine you have a box. You can just open it and press the button. After you will painlessly disappear. Nobody will understand how did you die.” I want you to close your eyes and imagine this scene. You laying on your bed and you have that box only for one night. Will you press it? Will you open the lid look at I and then press?
I hope the answer is no. But the answer is not important here. The important part is “why?” Please answer here.
Trying to live is easier than giving up. That’s why homeless, disabled, blind, deaf people exist.
I’m not saying it’s easy. No it may be very hard.
The key is small steps. The first step for pmo addicted is low energy. Concentrate on building energy. Day by day, as much as you can, no matter how hard it will get, you improve it, you push through. Then you continue and add something new, reading. Again it may be one page, you may get bored, you may get angry, you may not like whatever you do. But slowly you it starts to get easier.
Then when you are full of energy and knowledge you start making money. Again it’s hard, you get rejected, nobody likes that idea, parent say are you crazy, go find something, you hate them, but you do small steps and you do the first money. Finally.
When you are used to making money, the world changes. Girls love you, because of your energy, your smarts, your money, your power, your connections. But it’s hard again, because higher companies start to compete, they use police, law, marketing… every way to get you down. But life is asking you to go on and persist, and don’t get broken. And when you, your level increases.
3 days ago I was laying down to sleep but couldn’t because I was feeling what you feel now. And I imagined that I have the angel who always try to accomplish my dreams. But he constantly asks me to be patient, so he can work faster.
Close your eyes and talk to your angel. He will give you all the answers and will ask you to be patient when: your parents are angry, your energy is low, when you see your friend getting job, when you see your other friend getting a girlfriend, when you get one but she leaves you, when you watch Netflix and think you’ll never get “that life”… He will say buddy, I’m making your dreams, be patient and go through.
Your dad gave you a life. Do you think he didn’t have a girlfriend? Funny right? Your mom gave you a life, because she found something beautiful in life and told (I want a little angel that will experience this beauty). And she raised you so you’ll experience that beauty. If you have a roof on your top and food, please hug and kiss your mom. That’s all she needed to give you :sob:. Everything else is your duty.
Experience this small part of life. Whether it’s hard or easy. And when it’s hard, I’m here for you.

I thank everyone who responded. I was extremely sad and messed up. I relapsed again at my 3 day mark. I can’t seem to stop.

No advice works. I hate being like this, yet I sometimes love the things that make me relapse.

I have no will power.

I hope someone can get me through this. I hope to get my mind fixed soon. I’m jealous of those on here with long streaks and seeing others success makes me see its possible but makes me mad that I am incapable of getting there on my own.

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Brother… there are many like you here… i can kinda relate myself.
The thing is that you need a strong reason. If you find it, you’ll be unstoppable. I’m trying my best to find it and u should start too

I will suggest watch all the videos of Jordan Peterson.

Start with this one.

Start by daily cleaning your own room. Watch is other videos. Read his books. Just focusing on Nofap won’t help you. NoFap should be part of the overall self improvement. Also just complaining and acting depressed will make you more and more weak. Start saying positive things to yourself.

You need other things going on your life. Girls will get attracted to you automatically when you’re busy in your life doing other things.

It’s really weired. You get girlfriend when you don’t need one.

I have other things going on in my life. I have a job as a Team Lead. I live with my parents as my Dad has a lot of medical issues and I have to help him almost every morning with his routine.

But whatever my Dad wants happens. I never got to make a major life decision. My Dad always did and that bothers me.

He always has to know what I’m doing, where I’m going, and if I want to leave the house, he has to always cone with me. Again his choice not mine.

I’m 31, he is 70 and on dialysis. He has blood clots in his legs and needs special stockings to wear to get out of bed. I am the only person who can put these stockings on him in the morning and off at night.

No woman wants a man in my situation. If you find one let me know.

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That’s good to know brother.

That’s a nice thing to do.

You said you’re 31. First if your Dad is still making decisions for you I would say he isn’t vry good Dad. But even that’s the case you have to stand up for youself other wise you will only have regrets later in the life.

In my case also I had older brother I used to follow him blindly and he used to enjoy that. But even in his mind he used to think he was doing good for me but it was making my life disaster.

People are selfish and delusional even your own father and brother. You only know what’s good for you. You are a grown man if you can’t stand up for yourself why any girl would want to be with you.

I think it’s your own hand to make your life better. I don’t know your life so I can’t say anything much.

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Unfortunately with the responsibility of my Dads blood clots legs and the stockings part, that won’t change. Therefore, my life can’t completely change. All I can change I how I see my life, and to stop this addiction. I can try to eat healthier, I can try to work out / exercise, but I’m slow to all of it.

Yes, I feel regret every day. This is why I’m lonely.

I unfortunately can’t change this responsibility. If a woman ever showed interest in me, she would have to join me and my parents.

3 will become 4 as it was once prophetic said to my Mom by some guy back in the year 2000.

What single woman will accept that?

I don’t think that should be obstacle for getting the girlfriend. But I am not from USA. SO I don’t know how it is there.

But if you aren’t doing then do the workout, improve your dressing sense , eat healthy and approach girls, talk to them as many as possible. May be you will find someone… That’s what I would do if I were at you situation.

I think you should go out and play with friends that usually immediately helps you