I dont have any friends.
I very much dislike my life.
I still believe if I do those things, I will still be alone forever.
No matter what I do, women are never interested.
I dont know what I have to offer any women and believe I will never figure that out.
There I conclude that PMO will kill me and I will die alone.
@Vortexkicker any specific reasons for not having friends?
I was homeschooled for high school.
I am an introvert.
And my Dad didn’t want anything to ever happen to me.
My Dad only wanted me to spend all my time with him and no one else.
Research Zip code 12855 and you will see my Dad, Mom, and I live in the middle of no where, the Adirondack Mountains.
This may cause the problem. But past is past what’s done is done. You can’t change that. But you can change now.
If you keep telling yourself this you will simply reinforce your own insecurity. I am an introvert. Interacting with women has not had much to do with introversion and the extroversion.
Stop blaming everything on your dad now. Take responsibility for yourself. By 18 people become adults and they should start making decisions for themselves. If you give this excuse now to anyone no one will sympathize with you. Since you are at that age where you should be Dad of someone else.
If you read your answer, You will see for every failure you have created a solid excuse to yourself which helps you to stay in the comfort zone. You aren’t alone however, almost every one does it. Even I do it.
But you have to understand if you want to change your life you have to come out of your comfort zone and all the bullshit story you keep telling yourself. It is holding you back.
There are guys who are murderers, rotting in Jail, druggist they have girlfriends fiercely loyal to them. You think you aren’t even better than them.
May be that’s the problem you are always trying to appease women, trying to get validation from them (In short nice guy syndrome) that’s why they may not like you.
A guy with no quality just some bullshit stories to tell I have seen them they are really good with women. However, I am not saying you to become like them. I am just saying your excuses don’t hold any value.
To be able to get a girlfriend if you are so socially awkward while some books or online videos gives you the direction but you will only will get better by interacting with multiple women. There is no short cut. It’s like extrovert are extrovert becuase they talk to lot of pople all the time. Some guys are good in math he put practice in that thing. It’s as simple as that.
So you want to be good in anything you have to practice it. While ususally most people meet with girls through mutual connections or through some events or in college same classes. This may take long time for you may be. But it’s a slow process. If luck or God is with you you may meet one but it’s like leaving things in the hand of God.
I don’t know if dating apps ar working for you or not. It never worked for me. So I have a habit of interacting with people at any places. In Gym, in train, in bus.
SO you just have to talk to girls where ever you meet them not just talk as a brother or friend. Ask for her number , ask for a date. You will get weird looks you will get rejected but that’s how you learn.
I usually find most of the girls are getting bored most of the time. They are waiting for a guy to come and talk to them. Maybe initially your conversations will be boring but slowly you will start to learn what to say, what not to say.
Maybe talking about start wars and other nerdy stuff will make them go away but you will only find out once you start interacting with them. One will go away find another one in a coffee center or in a mall anywhere. You are just improving yourself, just practicing things. So it doesn’t matter much how someone is treating you at that time.
But If you really want a girlfriend you will do it. Otherwise, you can stay practicing NoFap. Maybe in 5 years when you will reach 120 days a girl may pop up for you.
Nope. I have no opportunities to make this happen. Research the Adirondacks. This is where I live. I am far away from any thing.
There is nothing here. All women here are married.
Online dating only gave me scammers.
I dont know how to change.
I am afraid of standing up for myself. I’m afraid of everything.
I do not know what to do. Yes I’m 31 and I should be acting like a man, but I don’t how.
I need someone to literally take me by the hand and teach me how to do everything.
Sounds like your broken. I was the same as well… I thought I needed someone to love me. I fell into deep depression and just watched and fell into porn all day and just gave in, but each time it got more painful… I looked in the mirror and hated who I saw. So I did something different I did all the things I wanted to do but couldn’t because of how people would see me.
TLDR ( too long did not read)
I thought I needed some one to love me I thought I needed a girl who would give me her heart mind body and soul… but I ended up working on my self making music, watching anime, going to the beach, spending time with friends and family … seeking Christ and than all of a sudden I wasn’t scared to be alone anymore. Something in me changed
In the end all I can say is if someone gave you their heart so you can be happy… it would never be enough and you would want more even though they gave you everthing. You need to love 
your self first in order to notice the love around you 
. Porn ain’t going help infact porn is a selfish and cold prostitute… she wants all your money and time and attention and in return she gives you pleasure for a fleeting moment and quickly leave cuz she’s gotta another customer to serve
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