I tried my best but it feels like I just won’t be able to do it. Countless times I tried and countless times I fall no matter how far I go… I am just frustrated at myself at this point. I make improvements then I destroy it by my own hands
It is a deep rooted addiction and my reason is not strong enough to overcome it or more like I lost my reason why I began at the first place
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But do you want to get rid of this addiction?
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I do wanna get rid of it forever
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Try a different approach. Set systems and habits to avoid PMO, then don’t think about it for a while.
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Have you tried setting a method or technique that will work for you?
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No I didn’t, I mostly relapsed in free time
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This line of thinking
I had experience of it before
I learnt what was wrong
So now for the first time i am doing 120+ days going good
Listen brother
Please take my following words very seriously
This idea that you feel the intense urge to get rid of this addiction forever is the exact same reason why you relapse every damn time
You cannot overcome an addiction
You can NEVER BEAT this addiction forever
It
YOU CAN NOT OVERCOME PMO
Its an addiction
An addiction is something that is present in some corner of your brain forever
It will always be there
You CAN ONLY RESIST!!!
RESIST !!
Resist each moment
DON’T TRY TO OVERCOME
DON’T TRY TO BEAT IT
PMO is not like some monster we see in anime for us to kill it and live peacefully forever
PMO is an addiction
You can only guard yourself
Once you think you have already overcome this addiction and let your gaurd down, suddenly from some corner of your brain this addiction strikes and you relapse without any damn control
So lets stop this fantasy / wishful thinking of Overcoming/beating this addiction
And instead RESIST
And once you Resist it continously for an extremely LONG period of time, it creates neurological changes in your mind, and PMO addiction gets deleted once and for all
But it will take really a LOOOOOOOOONG period of time
Remember these words of advice
I was the same person who felt absolutely helpless and shameful for seeing no way out of this addiction and even asked in RC whether i reveal this addiction to my parents
That was the level of hopelessness I had
The above words of wisdom were not produced by me
I listened a psychologist and he told me the above words
So i understood those words so deeply
And it made so much sense
I am now 120 days going on
I am still keeping the gaurd with me and being vigilant
I am totally aware that achieving a certain number of days in streak doesn’t mean I overcame PMO
I can never overcome
I can only RESIST
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Thank you for sharing this with me. 
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Brother, you know very well that this will take a while to be free from this. It’s not only 90 days. Sure it gets easier the longer you go, but it takes way longer than that to have control over your thoughts.
Remember that it requires patience (a LOT of patience) to build a strong discipline. Just start slowly, 1 small change in your habits. Then after you have introduced this habit in your routine, start with another small change. Be patient, and with the inclusion of small changes in your routine overtime you’ll see how far you’ve progressed.
I’ve been at it for years. Did I stumble a lot at first? Oh yes. Countless times. But I’ve slowly introduced new habits and got rid of others over the last years. The one that got me so far is focusing on Jesus Christ and on studying the Bible. I wasn’t motivated at first, but I slowly introduced changes in my habits to focus on God. Do I see progress? Definitely! But it took a lot of time and patience! Just remember that Brother. Start small and you’ll have a huge victorious leap in the end.
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Congratulations
Damn ! How are you brother??
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Fine lil bro
How about you?
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Deep down you just want someone who loves you. I know because I want too.
I don’t want to indulge in this mess, yet I do, knowing well enough the consequences.
You deserve love, but you don’t seek it. May be, waiting for the right moment, or may you think its a waste of time. Hope you find it sooner, and replace lust with it fully.
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Come on bro…
Clean your room, order your stuff and start a new streak.
Start with one ritual or routine and grow your streak with a classic milestone process.
Striving for every badge like if it was real.
Join a serious challenge.
Remember it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Grow one day at a time and do something useful on the way.
It always gets harder before a breakthrough and you got this.
Peace 
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Thank you, I should get going, start again.
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If I may ask, what do you get from fapping?
Iam good too
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When I used to PMO, I admit that I used to get some relief although it was temporary. Relief from responsibilities , from failures,from thoughts of regrets , fears, shame , self loath.For few minutes or hours I used to forget about world. But the moment I ejaculated, I was again thrown into the reality.Again I had to face same thoughts. I knew it was a bad deal. I was getting actually nothing and losing many things like my crucial time of youth, my health, mental stability.Due to PMO, I never had a girl in my life, I never felt the need.Because I had PMO, just by few clicks I can see things which our ancestors had to work hard, become successful and then marry to do the same. Now on day 220 plus on nofap, I never had this much desire for girls, not sexually but I just want to connect with them , talk with them like a human being.My mind resetting and I am feeling like I have changed into a new person. Random people respect me, look at me, I feel like I have something.I am still alone but I feel like I get a second chance to live my life again.I never had this level of physique which I have now. I don’t get tired easily.I don’t want to loose all these. Nofap gave me a new life.
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