How pornography effected my first sexual experience

Hello.
I was watching some TED conferences about pornography today and i realised something, which maight be trivial to most of you, but i found it to be eye-opening. During the talk I heard something about relationships and it made me think. And i asked myself how porn effects me and my girlfriend. Usually what i would say is that I have trouble keeping my erection or something like this. Generally it makes my sex life worse.
This answer seemed a liitle lazy to me and I went a little deeper. I looked at my girlfriend. Even though my penis is unreliable, she claims to be satisfied with our sexual life. The important thing is that she has never had any sexual experience before (even masturbation) not to mention watching porn. And than there is me. Unlike her I was watching porn since 13 maybe. I can t really remember. When I look at her I see how good it is not to watch porn. Not becouae she doesn’t have PIED or things like that, but becouse she has an opportunity to discover all this sexual things with a real partner. Unlike me. I feel like porn deprived me of this opportunity and this is the worst thing about this all. I remember when I was just a little kid that I had a dream about cuddling with a girl. It was such a good feeling and since than I had always wanted to experience this feeling in real life. Unfortunately my plans were screwed and I got addicted.
But the good thing is that I’m recovering and I will be able to have a successfull sex life one day. Here is a link to TED talk i watched “https://youtu.be/vIgWMzdgweI”. I think the beginning it is quite funny and it feels like a bad joke. But the message is there and in my opinion it is one of the most inspiring out there.
That is all I wanted to say. Let me know what you think.

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Such a nice post :+1::heart:

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What ? Are you serious ?

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Can you explain why? That sounds like a theory of evolution a little bit (sex is to protect the species).
But you know, today most people don’t really need to have sex to protect humanity. Most do it just for pleasure and there is nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
I’ m not tring to be rude, but statements like that are often repeated without reflecting on them in the first place.

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That’s your choice. But nature made it for procreation not for pleasure.

Lust is never satisfied.

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@Hardmode123 Nature shaped us this way that we feel pleasure whenever we do things that are there to protect us. I don’t know what you mean by saying lust is never satisfied. We can say that hunger is never satisfied cause we have to constantly eat food. Just like hunger sex drive is always there pushing us to go and have sex. What is so bad about this? Is there any point of stopping eating for so long that you are starving, becouse it is unnecessary to eat when you are just a little hungry? Why would you do it with sex?
Seriously there is something wrong about what you say. I doesn’t really make sens and it s more of demonizing sex as something unethical when done for pleasure. If nature didn’t want us to do so, sex wouldn’t be so pleasurable.

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Bro. Eating foods benefits our body . Doing sex will not give us anything. Rather it will increase and increase.

Why ancient people maintain brahmacharya?

Brahmacharya is the ultimate pleasure.

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Sex have many benefits not only on a relationship with the loved on but on an individual. It gives pleasure which is a benefit itself.
I know nothing about brahmacharya. But for example in ancient Greece philosophers claimed that homosexual love is better than heterosexual becouse it is centered around pleasure- not ptotection. So basicly ancient people had diffrent opinions even so long ago and we cant say they are right becouse they are “ancient people”

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It doesn’t really matter whether i will do it or not. I just wanted to get to know where your mindset comes from. I really enjoyed conversation but i have a feeling that you are just stating things that have no logical explanation behind them. Most them were more like “don’t do it cause you will go to hell”. I don’t feel attacked or offended becouse sex is perceived differently by each person and it is completely normal. It is just lack of consciousness that triggers me. I mean repeating things without reflecting no matter if it make sense or not.

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You can do it bro💪 i beleive you🤗

I think that @Hardmode123 doesn’t want to skipe love from the equation …
He meant to tell something fact but without expressing to much about it but I can ask you some quetion it’s just sharing

*How do you feel about woman ?

(Need for sex -need for love " be honest with yourself please we have not to be judgmental I am just put points and you have to think and searching for your comfort )
:point_right: sex only means some hours of amusement and finish … taraaaaa
:point_right: Love is more deeper and you know that (men always try to find both love and sex ) but let me be more specific that # love is to be in bad and in good #

so , when hard mood told you that it’s about " procreation " he was telling that :ok_hand: Because … because

One more question # how it will ends # means :point_down:

you will love each other and spend good time with each other, so perfect and what after that
( good story right ? but what after that are you plan for what is the purpose of this love ?? )**

surely # and I am really sure you will bored you will find that that’s the end :pensive::pleading_face: if you are about (20 to 23 yo I think you will not get it but I will suggest to you to search for stories about 2 married couples about why and how that make their stories live for 40 years to love how they could do this and believe me they are so rare .

babies makes reload love and this look of crying eyes when you will see something similar or good different in your kids this is the real love in bad or worse
If you are looking for love, love is linked to sacredness

Did you find a pleasure that girls look to you like a great guy and oooh you are awesome ?
( Think that women are not the center of the universe, but that you are the center of it,

I do not say these words, these questions, and all this to change something. I just love to participate and think with others …
A sexual relationship is important if it is a sure decision that you are ready to take on responsibility and love together ) .

That 's why we try to say that sex realted by procreation , the sexual relationship is momentary, but pregnancy is a special story deep inside you that you love to tell, share and be proud of .

You have you choice of course , we are not judmenats , take care.

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Great. You are right. :+1::+1:

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In India, the greatest pleasure is Brahmacharya. According to religion. Sex is a illusion , stated in bhagvat Gita.

Gita is the most famous scripture book.

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Feels , just a peice of flesh covered with attractive skin. :joy::joy: . Only feels this thing because I have to quit PMO.

SEX is a illusion. sex is like pouring petrol in fire. Its desire will never go and cannot satisfy anyone. Said in bhagvat Gita.

So it is written in Gita , sex is to done only for procreation.

In western culture , sex is treated as love but as one indulge in it, it increase desire for more. It’s look like nectar in beginning , at end it is poison.

Written in Gita, sex for unnecessary means is done by animals. But we are the most superior beings, then why do this bullshit .

In next birth we are given a life of a animal , so that we can enjoy sex as much as we can.

Let my put here my thoughts on this topic here. I hope you don’t mind.
Pleasure is a function which shows that the human brain thinks that the results of the information we have collected is a success.
But the nature is not perfect. What a surprise to a lot of people :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:.
Human brain wants to eat. It learned to determine weather the food has necessary vitamins and nutritions.
Business people have learned to deceive the brain by adding chemical to food or making entire new food from chemicals. You can eat something that doesn’t contain what your brain thinks it does. The reason why the brain doesn’t understand that is that all those experiments started recently. We didn’t manage to determine the fake chemicals at the dna level. So eating something tasty and something important has been separated a lot.
Do you like eating food that is tasty but doesn’t give you what you need? It’s the same like playing real looking video game, making a lot of money inside and thinking you are a rich man. It’s the same with watching tv shows and thinking your life is more interesting after. It’s the same with covering the dirty floor with a carpet and thinking that you made your room cleaner. The idea is that you think you gain, but the reality is you lose. The consequences are teaching yourself that losing is good.
Having sex for a pleasure is exchanging your energy with nothing. You just call that nothing as “pleasure”.
Tell me buddy, did you gain anything from plain pleasure?

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Lol. It is written in the gita that everything is an illusion. Everything is Maya, there’s only Brahman and not even atman is true, but an illusion. So why not indulge in illusions?
When he sees krishnas real form Arjuna starts the battle (something that he thought was immoral), but now knowing it’s all illusion he just completes his stupid dharma (ot whateever it is called).

Sorry I’m having headache and this answer doesn’t make any sense in the context of the question (as much as your discussion tho). But I felt the need to write this down

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Your way of expressing is So strict HARDMODE I’m a gril remember that please try to slow down your tone of writing … thanks for expressing what you feel that’s good anyway to share this with me
We differ in the way each other views the sexual relationship.
Thank you for making some terms easy for me to understand who is
Brahmacharya & gita …
god helps you in your purpose to live the life you want it .

Thanks for sharing

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His wife is going to suffer a lot of hardship.