Hey @Archana, I have four pieces of advice for you:
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Read through this old forum post. It’s full of helpful advice and tips on fighting this battle. Lets make it easier for new ones. Need your help
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Start developing some hobbies and find things you enjoy doing on your own! After my breakup, I was lost and forgot what I liked doing and things that brought me joy on my own. For me it is playing piano/harp/ukulele, coloring, writing, bowling, reading, cleaning, and driving around my city. You were single before your ex, go back to that time and think of things you used to enjoy and try them again!
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Build some solid relationships with other people. Whether family of friends. After my breakup I felt a severe lack of closeness/intimacy with another person, which I’m sure is similar to what you’ve been feeling. I’ve used that feeling to push myself to connect better with my friends and family I had been neglecting when I was in a relationship. If you want to confess and seek help from some of them, that might be very helpful, but if not, definitely seek connecting with some people in this community.
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Start a diary/journal on here. When I first started in this community without a journal, I relapsed every 3-5 days. When I made a journal on here, it got me to 10 days my first time and I am currently at 20 days right now! It’s helpful to see your daily goals and reflect on what might be leading you to relapse (mine is boredom and tiredness). By creating a journal, you also have a lot of people who will check it/keep you accountable and keep up with you and encourage you to keep going! It’s very very helpful!
Good luck on your journey!