Help me to quit fingering

Hello everyone, I’m 21f. I’m a porn addict. I watch porn and finger daily. I can’t control yhe urge. I had sex with my ex. After breakup i was addicted towards porn. Please help to get rid of it.

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joined 6 minutes ago
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posts “Help me to quit fingering”
… sounds like a dumb ass troll to me :man_shrugging:

If you are serious though, this is a good place to start:

If you are just a troll, get a hobby for f*cks sake.

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@Bashi I find it rather judgemental, and perhaps sexists.
Many men come in here with just ‘Help me stop fapping’ and they are taken serious.

So even if this is a troll (which you can’t be sure of) it gives no value to the community accusing this person to be a troll. Focus on helping each other is more constructive.

@Archana Just focus on the 2nd part of @Bashi 's post. Read a lot on this forum how others handle it and never give up. Wanting to change is the first step.

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Hey @Archana,
I think it’s better to talk to female companions here @sakshi11 @tfish98
may be they can help you out if you really wanna change.
Read books as much as you can… on how brain works
& how we can develop habits…!

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If you started it after breakup that maybe because you are trying to feel good and using porn as an escape. So in my opinion, it is very important for you to find activities which makes you happy and do that, constructive activities.
When we come out of a breakup we can’t stay same person.

Focus on activities like improving any skill, meet your friends, go visit places, museums etc., join a club, Decorate your room. Do anything you like. It should just be active (requires concentration) and positive.

All the best :smirk_cat:

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Hey @Archana, I have four pieces of advice for you:

  1. Read through this old forum post. It’s full of helpful advice and tips on fighting this battle. Lets make it easier for new ones. Need your help

  2. Start developing some hobbies and find things you enjoy doing on your own! After my breakup, I was lost and forgot what I liked doing and things that brought me joy on my own. For me it is playing piano/harp/ukulele, coloring, writing, bowling, reading, cleaning, and driving around my city. You were single before your ex, go back to that time and think of things you used to enjoy and try them again!

  3. Build some solid relationships with other people. Whether family of friends. After my breakup I felt a severe lack of closeness/intimacy with another person, which I’m sure is similar to what you’ve been feeling. I’ve used that feeling to push myself to connect better with my friends and family I had been neglecting when I was in a relationship. If you want to confess and seek help from some of them, that might be very helpful, but if not, definitely seek connecting with some people in this community.

  4. Start a diary/journal on here. When I first started in this community without a journal, I relapsed every 3-5 days. When I made a journal on here, it got me to 10 days my first time and I am currently at 20 days right now! It’s helpful to see your daily goals and reflect on what might be leading you to relapse (mine is boredom and tiredness). By creating a journal, you also have a lot of people who will check it/keep you accountable and keep up with you and encourage you to keep going! It’s very very helpful!

Good luck on your journey!

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Small peice of advice to all female companions:-

@Archana @tfish98 @sakshi11 & others
As much as possible you people keep the conversation in public… if there is girl to girl talk then… Let them prove their identity, don’t talk immediately to anyone here… especially with a guy(including me);

Regards
Adidas

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I agree brother ! When I downloaded this app, I thought it was just for counting number of days.
I was not even knowing about the forum.
I was thinking that Message board is the only place where people share their views.
And I accidentally clicked on forum and then after some time created account.
I even didn’t know how to reply to a person.
Though let’s not jump to conclusions.
At least let trolls do something suspicious.

Never the less, If You are not a troll archana do not fear,
This forum is very friendly and helpful.
In order to beat this addiction, you have come to the right place.
Start by reading easy peasy hackbook.
Wish you best of luck.

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To be very honest, I was click baited. You don’t get to see this to see such titles here very often. So I was curious.

But advice wise, all I can say is take things slow. Try to incorporate progression into nofap. If you can’t even make it a day, keep one day as your target. Push for as much as possible, but if you can’t, don’t be disheartened. But the next try, keep the target as 2 days. Keep progressing that way. Also find things to do you love. Working out is mine. And doing art. Also try to be around other people more often and for as long as possible. You only jack off when you are alone. so yeah that’s pretty much it.

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Archana I understand that I’m facing same situation, I just recently have some issue with my girl. It’s hard for us but I find cure for that, do daily activities, be cheerful , be greatful, and most importantly talk to some frds on regularly basis, find someone special you can share everything.

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