You know deep down that porn and masturbation have never been helpful. They have always made you feel guilty afterwards. You always feel weak after it. It takes away the desire to study or workout or anything productive for that matter.
And you Relapse and masturbate to porn not just because you want to enjoy and be happy for real. It’s because the addicted brain takes over your reason and judgment. It makes you blind. It forces you to only think about opposite gender. It takes away your focus. It makes you irritable. It makes you insomniac when you have to sleep because there is work or college tomorrow. It makes you MISERABLE.
Don’t you think it’s like a dumb crying child that makes your life miserable just because you won’t buy him snacks or toys. Well guess what, that child believes if he can make you miserable, you will cave in.
So here is the plan. I know you don’t want to Relapse. All these years, you have not been jerking off. No… You have been trying not to jerk off. You have been training to self control. You want to quit. You don’t even like porn and masturbation. It’s all the same. Watch porn. Jerk off. Regret… Relapse… Watch porn… Jerk… Regret…
What a dumb cycle. I know you are tired of it. So you only need to abstain from porn and masturbation and from ALL TRIGGERS. Also make your day busy, productive… You already know what to do… Exercise… Study, meditation… That you already know…
You will feel miserable. You will feel being pulled closer to your old habits like a magnet when you face a trigger. But stay strong… For if you abstain for 6 months… I am sure that addiction will be broken for sure… You will feel better. Don’t aim for 90 days or 120 days… Aim for 6 months at least…
Infact aim for improving every single day. Don’t get trapped by counting days without focusing on building mental resistance to triggers.
Remember. If you don’t improve everyday… Man you are moving closer to Relapse.
If you want to quit, be prepared to face your ownself trying to argue you into Relapse. Be prepared to feel miserable.( looks opposite to the easy peasy way but let’s be honest, withdrawals are real). You are fighting yourself. The only way to beat yourself is to become stronger than your present.
First step… Believe with all your mind, reasoning and heart that YOU DON’T NEED PORN AND MASTURBATION. YOU DON’T NEED TO RELAPSE. YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT THESE TEMPORARY SEXUAL PLEASURES.YOU CAN QUIT!!!. ITS POSSIBLE
( I’ve been mastubating for 11 years and these pleasures are always overrated. I can live without them. I won’t die… There are more fun and pleasurable things and activities than PMO).