Finding True friends nowadays is like finding a needle underground. Take me for an example, I am friends with everybody I know but I only have 3 real friends. Dad had only 1.
Yeah those are the Real friends I mentioned. Don’t blame yourself they’re rare to find.
Anywho glad you’re back bro! It’s been a while. I hope you got the desire to improve again 
Man
Im getting so exhausted at job
I mean both mental and physically tired
Physically because lots of travelling which is unavoidable
Mental because of lots of incoming information
But im enjoying it a lot and i know it will take time till i get used to the amount of work
I actually made good friends
Usually when i speak to people i try to keep eye contact
But there is one particular gurl in friend group
When we speak and both of aciidentally make eye contact
I get scared
Like will she think im seeong her wrongly
Or hitting on her
Or will she get wrong idea that im hitting on her
I get scared and i automatically look away
But once or twice i thought to face it and i didnt turn away
But then even she kept looking in eye
And then both of us automatically shifted our eye contact
(Note: i donot have any crush or anything so plz give advice keeping this aside)
Rest my cheeks hurt a lot because of laughing ao much where i rarely do
There will be a talent show in my office for freshers and im planning to pick my guitar again so that i can for once actually dont shy away and dont care about people and express myself
Thats all for the day
These days i dont get the urge to fap or watch corn
But i still did last few days when i had huge anxiety and felt lonely after coming home
Where infact im surrounded by people during the day
I have to accept the fact its fine to be alone at night
It fine to be alone sometime
And thats all
How unlucky I am; I don’t even have one true buddy; theoretically, I have, but he is busy with his business 30 days a month, and we rarely meet. I only needed a friend to go for a walk with me.
That’s my favorite hobby. It started as a challenge at first; I challenged myself to not turn away from an eye contact untill the other does for 24 hours. Then I started doing it again and again without fearing or even caring about the consequences and in time, I actually became more confident.
Try it bro, and don’t care about the consequences. Take it as an experiment.
One of them died, 2 others I haven’t seen in years so yeah, I’m alone too 
If I was Indian and lived not far from you bro I would be more happy to go for a walk with you 
This was funny to read
Ill surely start doing this from today
As time passes every have more responsibilites and we fall apart
Its inevitable
Maybe in the future, if I get the chance to visit Tunisia, we can go for a walk.
I have issues with being consistent
Ill do things for few days
And when i miss few things i stop even trying
Wont go again with all yhe ranting which i always do
Ill start small and then grow
Tasks
These days my screen time has sky rocketed
Work from 10 to 6.30
Morning 8 to 10 phone which travelling
Evening 6.30 to 9 while travelling back home
Then phone while having dinner and till i sleep
So i want to get over and bring my phone usage to max 1 hour entire day
I can read newspaper for initial days to overcome my phone during breakfast amd dinner
Btw just ordered digital minimalism book by cal newfort(sorry if i misspelled his name)
I have been postponing getting books to read because i thought its costly
But then i have lost 30 times + of the book amount in stock market and now i do think its better to invest in myself instead of trying to get rich quick
And without thinking much i placed the order
So while travelling ill read that book
Im not strong neither mentally nor physcially
I have high anxiety issues
And i panic over smallest of small things
And somewhere being always on phone is because im afraid to stay silent where i do nothing and ill have to face the anxiety issue
But thats how it is
This is one of the best times to face my fears
Where im being socially active
Plus dont have any fucking reasons to use youtube (like previously i need it for studies)
So yes ill improve much better this time
Today had urge for
And i have been checking on youtube game videos
And did search for hen*** and almost read it
But then didnt want to
Closed the phone and slept off…
Thats all
Im happier
I need to be free from all these things
And ill earn my freedom by myself
Also i feel excess of screen time is affecting my sleep as i donot feel refreshed the next morning when i wake up and feel tired entire day
And why would i feel good when im not giving my brain time to rest
So these are my goals
Reason for keeping no corn and no m@$ separately is because many time i m@$ without needing corn
Also corn includes any erotica and hent@i too
Buhbyee
Good night
Today 12th August
Tasks
(6.30)
( i read newspaper during breakfast and during dinner rewire companion was on the phone and i was focused on eatingToday the traffic was hell
But today instead of using phone i slept off for 1 and half hour which was quite refreshing
Since i wasnt worried about stock market i actually didnt check my phone much
So my productivity was much better than previous days
Plus i didnt do stretching and meditation today morning because i woke up late as i slept late since entire family was watching movie last night night till 11.30
Mostly will try waking early tom
And will meditate now for 3 mins
Also had forgotten aboht gratitude journaling as i woke up late
Just remembered now so will do that too
Less phone usage => super productive day
Less tired and more active even though i didnt get enough sleep last night
Recently i have been doing financial planning for my future and things look amazing
Im not just focusing on financial growth
But also financial security
I dont knw the actual terms for what im planning but this is wat i could make out of it
Financial security - term insurance, life and health insurance
Finacial growth - (risk taking) stocks, futures and options
Spoke to friends on call while coming back
Now will wind up things for the day and go to sleep
Thats all
Hello
After the last post
I again couldnt achieve many things
And i didnt get time to post as i got busy in life
These days i have been going on with lots of tough mental situation
Where in i have been feel more inferior about myself
In terms of talent i see everyone have in office
In terms of genuine happiness they have
Where i fake my happiness 90% time
I dont even know whether i m happy or not
I dont even know how i used to be happy
I feel inferior because of how good looking everyone in my office is whereas i look so bad dressed (because of stomach fat and i look short and broad)
I feel inferior because of how well dressed and well grommed everyone else looks
Whereas even when i wear decent clothes i feel i look bad
I hate seeing myself in mirror
I feel inferior because of many other things
So i have been fighting these thoughts while continuing to fake myself …
I also feel im an attention seeking a$$hole
Who needs to be centre of attraction to be happy (which was the only thing till my +12)
But now im no more centre of attention
I dont seem to be happy
And i try to out speak people just to tell that im also present there and im member of the group
I dont even know who i am…
Thats all
I was sad a while back
But then spoke to a friend on call about this
I donot expect and easy breakthrough this
For last 4 years i have been stuck at home and doing nothing
Now when i m gojng out and meeting people i do feel social anxiety
Fear of being left out etc since im not good at anything while everyone is good at something or other
Its my journey
Ill have to fight through this by myself
And ill have to breakthrough it
That’s all
Feels like reading my own post. You’re not alone with this brother, I hear you. But you must change the way you see everything. It’s currently working for me, even if you “lie” to yourself, you will believe it in the end it it will most likely become true. For example “I will exercise because I’m the future strongest man in the room” If you repeat saying that to yourself long enough you will believe it and it might come true.
Your mind is the key to all this life misery, it’s like a hack given to you by god but the catch is that you must master it first to have a good life. What really helped me is to dedicate some minutes of the day alone meditating and arguing with myself with many affirmations. It’s like you are programming it temporarily and as long as you keep doing that, forever.
What do u do exactly here??
How do i start doing
And for how long??
I actually have a lot of fomo for everything
And i want to do everything
But i end up doing nothing
I feel sad for both of us…
But this wont help
Ik starting to improve ourselves is the only way
But where and how do i start and how do i control my urge of fomo
Also i have been noticing that i crave for instant results within a week or 2
Can u or any one help me figure out how do i get started to become better version of myself
@_TIGER @The_Rising_One @debellator @Nadeem @Nep_12 @prince_king
I read your posts man , The thing is I am also facing these kinds of problems these days.
But I think I can help you for Meditation. There is an app called Atom. There are many features there but don’t get confused. Just focus only on " Daily Meditation " option there. There is an instructor who will guide you what you should be doing.
These Meditation sessions are like 5 - 10 minutes which is manageable imo. Once you get acquainted to it , do let me know. I will help you with some of its features
What I mean is that yourself is arguing with you every time “Stay in your bed cause it’s a free day, you don’t need to do anything” or “Don’t go out with your friends you don’t know how to socialize” and you just have to respond to all those arguments, more of excuses with your arguments, your defense. “No. I am strong, I am brave and I am powerful. I will get up, and do good today because I’m a good person.” for example.
Sit comfortably anywhere (I like to do it in front of an open window) and look around you or close your eyes Try to connect your mind with your body, and feel what it wants. For example, if you are feeling stressed you will know that your body needs rest. At least that’s how I do it.
For how long? Untill you feel better and more relaxed, I guess. But at least 10 minutes.
That’s exactly why you need a strong mindset. You plan you plan but you don’t do. You are afraid of failing and you don’t believe in yourself enough that you can, no, that you will do it. There is a big difference between someone who knows he can and someone who believes he will.
It all starts with your mind. With alone time to reflect and develop very firstly.
Sometimes you will only see noticeable results after months. But like I said, if you succeed at making your mind believe that you will make it, you won’t even focus on the days nor the weeks.
Thank you both of you for ur help
Currently
Ill focus on meditation
And ill have a strong arguement with myself when i dont feel like doing things
Thank you once again
You go to the gym? If not, why not?
What is your weight and height, if you are comfortable sharing that?
Currently i cant
Wake up at 5.30 to get ready for office and breakfast
Leave by 7.30
Then evening by the time i reach home its 8.30 minimum for now
Which might increase to 9.30 to 10
Im travelling 40 km to save my entire stipend
If i start staying in pg ill have to pay more than im earning
Previously i didnt go because didnt have money amd dad wouldnt gvr any for that
Currently i dont know how do i manage all these things
For now i do walk 5 floors everyday up and down 2 to 3 times each
Instead of taking lift
But thats all
My weight 2 months back was 85
I have reduced weight
Probably around 3 kg reduction by restricting myself from biscuits mainly
But thats how far i could lose weight by not eating biscuits
Height i would say approx 5 feet
Im a bit more than this
But never measured it after school
And i havent grown at all after school
Due to me looking fat i look more short
Current age 22 running (2001 born)
Will turn 23 in oct
Don’t be insecure about anything. Change happens when you accept the way you are. Most of your stress is due to you thinking you are not enough but you are enough.
Look in mirror everyday at least for 20 minutes, this exercise will train your mind to accept the way you are & this is what will remove stress about your appearance in front of others. It’s a very good habit. I had similar problems, Once I started looking in mirror and accepting who I am, because the changes don’t happen in a blink of an eye, the process became easier.
The moment you realise to prioritise only the things that matter, you’ll get out of the loop of what others think of you, and your appearance.
Appearance will change with time, don’t worry about that. Your concern for now should be how to excel in the skills, don’t compare, outbeat them simply by where your peers lack and land a Job & sidewise invest the money and increase your salary.
And do interact with your boss or supervisor, don’t overreact or please him/her but confidently socialise. Ask him how you can help more and stuff & talk to him about your future plans in free time, ask him about his’ and all. It will make you more comfortable in office once you are friends with the upper management.
Well I’d suggest at least doing morning runs if possible. You have two hours before you have to leave. If you can get up half an hour earlier and do runs as well as some simple home workouts you will lose weight which will help you gain more confidence in your own skin. Which goes a long way and provides positive intertia to improve other aspects of your life.
Thank you everyone for ur suggestions
Based on suggestion
I will currently focus on meditation this week
Because i have to go office an hour esrly for orientation
I did want to do it yesterday
But i had very less time when i woke up as i woke up at 5.45 which was already too late
Then i decided let me do it in office when i wont have much work
But i didnt get free time for even 5 mins other than lunch break
So i couldnt do it yesterday
After joining the office
Yesterday was the first day i felt i have done something
Even though i did most of it by asking seniors since it was new
But it felt like i have accomplished something
Even though my eyes were barely open entire day
And if there would have been no work i would sleep off in less than 5 mins
But i still started smiling while leaving for home
The work that i got in first half of day was manual work
Because it rrquired atmost concentration
And man that led to headache 
(slightly)
These days why do i feel like the nights are short
Today morning when i woke up at 5
Im like wth
Its already morning
Not again and then slept for half hour
Im still sleepy and tired while travelling to office
This week will get a bit busy for me
Along with additional assignments for 3 days
Plus i just hope that i dont bave travel standing for 2 hours everyday
Also i did notice that when i work hard and achieve something i domt even get urge that day
It feels like all my brain cares for is dopamine
While being stuck at home i wouldnt get any of those through healthy means
So i got more and more addicted to this shit
Anyways
Got to sleep now since i finally managed to get a seat today
Buhbye