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I found something I’d like to save for later so I’m inserting it:

@Natalia

Women definitely experience the benefits of no-fap, or should I say no-PMO, because it’s not JUST about masturbating, aka fapping.

It’s the addiction that needs addressing.

Like any addiction it’s about thought processes. You address the illusion of control.
Particularly for us rewiring, it’s about changing the way we think about sex as a commodity.
It’s about teaching the brain to not see intimacy as instant gratification.
It’s about developing a healthy outlook towards the opposite sex. I used to objectify men and I used my own body as a tool. It’s not about semen retention for the people who are addicted because this addiction is a mental struggle for men and women alike.

With the quitting of any addiction there are so many benefits. The ones you listed are pretty generic; except the alleviated legal troubles. (I recently quit smoking after 11 years and felt similar benefits)
For me the differences I see from ending the PMO cycle are:

1. I receive pleasure from the slightest touch by my boyfriend.
2. I no longer need to masturbate to release tension
3. ■■■■ is exposed as the unnatural indulgence that it is and it gives me a sick feeling that’s replaced the arousal I once felt
4. I can keep my hands to myself and not try to be too physically familiar with men.
5. I definitely have a more positive outlook and I have time to do other things that I have wanted to do, like working out. Therefore I am fitter and that in itself is a big boost to my physical and mental well-being. Exercise is the replacement for a lot of my unhealthy habits from before, so it’s not just quitting that helps.

The point is that quitting only freed me to invest in myself. That’s where I see benefits. Hope that answers your question!