Reaching 150 days has been an important milestone for me because I’ve never gone beyond that number… I’m breaking a mental barrier in this very moment and every second contributes to it. This is now my all time highest streak!
On this journey, I’ve written about quite some tools on this “diary” and I don’t have necessarily anything to add at the moment. If I were to pick the most important tool though, I’d say it’s the “EasyPeasy hackbook” (https://easypeasymethod.org/). That book helped me look at PMO just like I look at smoking (as a non-smoker): it’s a disgusting waste of time, bad for my health and it has never given me anything so there’s no reason to feel deprived.
Congratulations Brother; truly you are an inspiration for all of us. Keep going like this. Slowly and steadily you made. Keep going forward and get as far from this filthy addiction as you can.
Bro, btw what kind of a counter is that? Is that another app?
Thank you guys @neo_150@Tagore
That counter is from here Bashi and it’s set similar to my counter in the app. Just a way for me to check the number without checking my phone.
NoFap does not need any discipline
I come across this misconception among NoFappers quite often or sometimes even among people outside the NoFap community. The misconception is that abstaining from porn needs willpower and self discipline. The truth is, to do NoFap, you do not need any discipline or willpower at all.
If you are a non-smoker like me, you’ll relate when I say this: I do not need any willpower or discipline to stay a non-smoker. When I walk by a store that sells cigarettes, I do not feel any urge to buy or smoke cigarettes. For me, smoking is disgusting, self-harm and I know for certain that it gives me no benefits. When I look at smokers, I do not envy them at all. Sometimes I even feel sorry for them: “Why would they do that to themselves?”.
Look at PMOing for what it is: it’s the practice of looking at a screen, where you see people having fake sex with no intimacy, and masturbating because you have deluded yourself that for whatever reason looking at that crap is somehow enjoyable. However, porn is disgusting, it’s self-harm and you know for certain that it gives you no benefits (unless you think waiting for the erectile dysfunction to happen is a benefit). When you look at porn consumers, do not envy them at all. You might even feel sorry for them: “Why would they do that to themselves?”.
You need 0 discipline and willpower to be a non-smoker, so why would you need any of that to be a NoFapper? Now, you might be ready to argue “but I’ve never smoked, so that’s easy. I’ve watched porn though…” then I’ll have to stop you right there. Read this text again. What part of “porn is disgusting, it’s self-harm and you know for certain that it gives you no benefits” do you not understand? Understand that and you break the illusion that PMOing gives you enjoyment.
Thanks. I have read it 1 and half times I guess I have to repeat it at least 4 times. But I agree this methods seems to be valuable. Do you think keeping the counter and participating in challenges goes against the method described in the book? I am finding sometimes seeing my counter going 0, again and again, makes me negative.
No, it doesn’t. With the right mindset, looking at counter gives you a “yes, another day of freedom!” and challenges are just a way to help others and spread the message about the book. Having a relapse must serve as a reminder that there’s still a compromised mindset to be handled… so maybe read the book again, work on mantras and your daily reminders.
I’m very grateful for this NoFap journey. I honestly can’t imagine where I’d be mentally without NoFap. On this path, I’ve learnt a lot about myself and I’ve made massive progress. Again, I’m so grateful.
Day 240
I’ve completed 8 months. I’m insanely grateful for this journey. Life is great, there’s so much to enjoy. Accepting the “lows”, not clinging on the “highs”, taking the present as is, connecting with people and myself. Taking ownership of my response to any situation and accepting situations that are out of my control.
Your mind can create all the abundance you could ever imagine, so you need to protect it like it’s the only possession you have.
