Bashi's notes on recovery

NoFap does not need any discipline
I come across this misconception among NoFappers quite often or sometimes even among people outside the NoFap community. The misconception is that abstaining from porn needs willpower and self discipline. The truth is, to do NoFap, you do not need any discipline or willpower at all.

If you are a non-smoker like me, you’ll relate when I say this: I do not need any willpower or discipline to stay a non-smoker. When I walk by a store that sells cigarettes, I do not feel any urge to buy or smoke cigarettes. For me, smoking is disgusting, self-harm and I know for certain that it gives me no benefits. When I look at smokers, I do not envy them at all. Sometimes I even feel sorry for them: “Why would they do that to themselves?”.

Look at PMOing for what it is: it’s the practice of looking at a screen, where you see people having fake sex with no intimacy, and masturbating because you have deluded yourself that for whatever reason looking at that crap is somehow enjoyable. However, porn is disgusting, it’s self-harm and you know for certain that it gives you no benefits (unless you think waiting for the erectile dysfunction to happen is a benefit). When you look at porn consumers, do not envy them at all. You might even feel sorry for them: “Why would they do that to themselves?”.

You need 0 discipline and willpower to be a non-smoker, so why would you need any of that to be a NoFapper? Now, you might be ready to argue “but I’ve never smoked, so that’s easy. I’ve watched porn though…” then I’ll have to stop you right there. Read this text again. What part of “porn is disgusting, it’s self-harm and you know for certain that it gives you no benefits” do you not understand? Understand that and you break the illusion that PMOing gives you enjoyment.

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