@speak.aditya.asia, @pieterdebeer48 @nagate @choprasherlyn02 @Priyankon
I’ve speculated some thoughts guys, please add more if I may have missed something.
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I’ll be back to jot down my thoughts, but yours have made me realize that I must get back to work. I wasn’t able to concentrate today and my mind was going again and again towards some dirty thoughts. Thanks a lot brother.
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The metamorphosis lies in understanding that each time one submits to lust, it’s like a cockroach going to frenzy on a bait full of poison.
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It’s simple " don’t edge" . You can make it to 100 days or even 1000 days just don’t open those pics and videos. I know Everyone knows it yet fails because they want to edge without rubbing their meat.
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There comes a moment every other day in which the scum upon lust starts washing away and the reality starts getting distant and meaningless. One touch, one stroke, one jerk seems to be the only solution to every misery of life. The enticement starts engulfing the mind and the body like a dense fluid. The inner voice starts to fade away and we start falling into the state of trance with no control upon the body. At that moment our conscience gathers all its courage and calls for our help, the one who pays heed to that voice and responds by turning away from lust triumphs out like a King but those who fail to listen to that inner voice and follow lust like a child behind the pied piper, fades away deep into the unending darkness.
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@adidec28 I have read all your posts above. Your thoughts are great and enough to motivate anyone who actually doesn’t want to go to the poisonous bait , but that bait is pulling him towards itself. And now he is deciding to give up making excuse that just a little more poison wouldn’t kill me. Yes, it wouldn’t kill him today, but that simple error in judgement compounded over time will surely destroy him.
What I liked the most about your thoughts are that you have just plotted the whole cycle, the whole reality as it is. And that’s the biggest power a human being can acquire. Seeing thing as it is. Seeing the actual reality behind an illusion. That’s the quality which is needed to get success in any field. The essence of spirituality is to keep aside the illusions and see the reality as it is.
I too have bookmarked your posts and taken the screenshots to help me remind the reality whenever I want to go to eat that poison.
And yes @speak.aditya.asia you also have written a really great deal.
Thanks both of you to inspire a lot of people including me.
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Really grateful for what you guys have written. I was a bit demotivated today about being unable to control my thoughts and resisting them, which eventually kept eating up my willpower to do what I had to do.
I’ll add up some stuff from myself tomorrow. 
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Ok so I’d done an experiment earlier and that had worked well in order to go fap free.
It works on iPhone.
iPhone has something called web filter in the settings, you can mention all the websites you want to block and it’s password protected, which means after you’re done with filling the websites which make you fap, make sure you’ve put proxy websites also, ask your mom or dad, to put a random password, tell them not to remember it, this will save you from subconsciously automated behavior of opening fap sites frequently.
Never ask them that password.
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Count me in… 21 days of no fap
@atheistkush welcome, share your code here with everyone, add people and stay motivated, don’t fap, never ever again, stay healthy stay calm.
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Only this app should be used as a means of social media until reboot is completed.
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Hey wassup I’m 15 too what’s your companion code?
Mine is 6000ed, and yours?
I sort of find the hard mode, semen retention and totally cutting out fapping a bit absurd for a beginner who has just discovered the nofap community and wants to make a change for himself. There are some youtube videos and people in the community who suggest a beginner to go on hard mode directly. It’s literally impossible for him. He has developed the habit of fapping and has been fapping for minimum 2-3 years and they want him to cut it out totally at one shot. Yeah he can cut out watching porn, but fapping, it is not that easy(unless you’re a monk or something)
I think there should be some steps for getting rid of masturbation addiction.
The last time I was into nofap was probably a year ago. And I was a beginner, I was suggested to cut out fapping totally, they used to tell, when your thing is hard do this and that, nothing worked. I’d still be hard and depressed because of myself. It didn’t work for me and I stopped nofap and got back to my fapping addiction, thinking it was not for me because I can’t even stop myself for a week.
By then I was a regular meditator. I used the calm app to track my daily meditation and my everyday streak.
Initially I did a little bit of cheating there when I was starting my new Meditation habit. I couldn’t meditate everyday because I didn’t have the discipline. So I used to miss a day or two and my streak would go back to zero. So just to make myself feel better and not like a failure, I registered my streak even on the days I missed meditation (it used to be one or two days in a week). Slowly the discipline developed and I meditated everyday without faking it. The streak grew bigger and it motivated me, I even forgot that I had missed a few days in the initial weeks. That motivation from the fake streak actually helped me develop the daily meditation routine and now I can meditate for 30-40 mins everyday. I have been regularly meditating for two years by now.
I applied this same trick to my fapping addiction. I totally cut out PMO, but initially I used to relapse within a week, but I didn’t register my relapse. First relapse was within 5 days. Then I pushed further from day 0 to day 12 but relapsed again, I didn’t register the relapse again. Then I stopped myself for probably 25 days and again relapsed, I let my counter go(these relapses were without porn). By then my counter was on day 44 or 45 maybe… that thing motivated me and made me actually think that I didn’t fap for 45 days. And then I could control myself for nearly 4-5 months. Obviously my ego developed by then and I felt a little bit of edging won’t harm, so I watched porn and bam. I relapsed again.
I got demotivated, also had a few personal problems. I left the nofap community. I wouldn’t fap much but slowly the addiction again came back. That’s why I’m back here. Now it’s sort of easy for me to not to PMO because I had actually developed the required discipline before and have a little bit of experience.
But a beginner doesn’t have that discipline. He has to first build that discipline with small steps, not by semen retention, hard mode sort of stuff. He will get demotivated and quit.
I don’t know how the faking thing works, maybe it’s psychology and has to deal with the placebo effect. But it did work for me.
These are just my personal opinions. Feel free to add your views.
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I certainly agree with what you say. But this is when one exploits all the intellectual caliber to understand human consciousness, it brings you much closer to yourself in this world full of noise. Faking , yes, that’s the first step towards doing something, as a matter of fact, thats how you learn speaking and expressing. Human brain is completely objective in its approach, you settle it for one thing and if faced another similar situation, you end up replicating the same behaviour.
Observing this I fell in love with blues rock hehe 
@speak.aditya.asia Agree?
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If I speak my heart out on this one then i would say that somehow I can connect with the approach of whatever floats the boat. I had my first relapse after only 6 days, but the utility which I achieved out of that was absolutely ZERO. Moreover the amount of regret and disappointment was enormous. And todays my 24th day, I haven’t relapsed and I can bet that I would never fap again. I can explain the reason. I don’t want to seem over intellectual right now but spare my thinking for a bit. Over the period I have learned that we are nothing but our beliefs and thoughts. If I believe in something and I have a reason to do so I will do anything to achieve that objective. For some reason my inner voice has become so strong that I am unable to trick my brain. My urge to reason takes over every trick I try to apply. But the moment my objective become clear and evident I become so focused that even if I try I cannot deviate from the track.
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For the past couple of years I have been almost completely cut out from social life and I am fortunate enough to get this time as I learned a lot about myself by thinking and reading. I let my mind graze free in the wild and analyzed what it brought back everytime I let it free. Slowly I began filtering my thoughts. I grew morally strong. Gradually I developed this ability to classify my thoughts and actions on my morals and beliefs.
We humans have this exclusive ability of reasoning, we need to have morals and beliefs of our own and the more morally strong we become, the more our mind and body get in our control.
These thoughts might seem haphazard but it may make some sense if you think upon them a little bit.
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Coming back to faking it, if you are achieving the predetermined goal in this case not fapping, then go ahead and leverage it. But make sure to learn more about yourself in that process, so that you become self sufficient as the time passes and you dont need it after a point of time. Habit is another thing but inculcating it in your morals and belief system is another thing altogether. And I recommend the latter one.
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Thanks for the feedback, really appreciate it. They say we should reach 90 days for full reboot, but at first we should try reaching 45 days, I mean the basic technique that small goals matter.