Adioz Diary 🦋

[Awaken_one]

Adioz, see I feel like a keyboard warrior saying this, since I am in no way of knowing the pain you are going through.

Nobody is going to help you, not here, not your family, and not even your friends. Spilling your emotions will only make you more vulnerable to people who will take your emotions and pain for entertainment and weakness. People care, but not as much as you may think, they care enough to give you advice, but after some while, they will not care.

Don’t spill your emotions here or anywhere, for this pain is yours to bear. If you are sincere, you will understand what I am saying.

Work on yourself, don’t make your emotions be a reason for someone to judge you. Keep your emotions personal. Go out, post pics here, of the books you read, of the places you visit, of the wins you get, and of the wisdom you learn. Let your journey inspire others and me. Please.

[Isagi_Yoichi]

We’re not meant to live only in joy or in pain. This tough time will pass, brother. Right now, her memories hurt and it’s natural or rather honorable. One day… these same memories will give you strength.

@Adioz

my siblings use to say that “why you sitting

Don’t worry about what others say… they don’t understand and they don’t need to. She was your treasure and her memory will carry you forward in future. Not hold back. Stay strong, brother.

[Adioz]

I can’t even imagine living without her ever. But now living alone biting me inside. Dealing with this feeling it’s not easy at all. It’s been 1month and 5days
Now her bday came tomorrow… how much hurtful feeling I feel nobody knows
& Nobody have an idea what I am going through…
Because…
even my parents who gave me birth they became emotionless then definitely what can I expect from others.

[Isagi_Yoichi]

I’m standing with you brother. Heart and soul. Even if the world acts numb… your grief is real… very real… and the way you’re carrying this grief in a world that offers no warmth… no compassion… no acknowledgment except “fix it”… it inspires me… for sure.

When tomorrow comes… it’s okay to not feel okay… I’m with you… we’re all with you.

[The_integrous_one]

@Awaken_one

Don’t spill your emotions here or anywhere, for this pain is yours to bear. If you are sincere, you will understand what I am saying.

Bruh, the dude needs to express and what’s better than here to express when you have no one else whom you can share things with

[The_integrous_one]

I’d recommend visiting a therapist when you feel up to it, you seem depressed at the moment, please ask someone to take you to a therapist, that will help you understand you emotions better.
Furthermore I know you are feeling like doing nothing but that will only make the situation worse, do something positive that you used to do for yourself, that you used to like in your alone time.
And yeah know that you can always reach out to any of us, or to me atleast, take care

[Adioz]

@Adioz

Now her bday came tomorrow

I thought I won’t cry yesterday everything will be fine.
I had conversation with her brother… he is also in deep sorrow,
I can’t compare myself with him but He is with her from years and I was with her only months but still I feel pain inside my heart then how much her might feel? What about her parents?
I started crying again…
Honestly speaking I feel her presence here in my house. But she can’t speak or I can’t touch her.
But she is with me. I always talk to her.
Atleast that way my pain inside will get lower. Because no one is here with whom I can talk. Parents Bigg No. They won’t understand what I am going through.

[Adioz]

Everyday when I wakeup & while going to sleep,
I always feel like she is with me, as soon as I realise it’s just dreams. I started crying because she is the only person I want to see as soon as I wake up or while going to bed & she is the only person whom I loved most, shared all secrets… She is the 1st person comes in my mind whenever I think I should share this to anybody. But unfortunately she is No more which hurts like hell.
. . It’s not like heartbreak more than that.
I don’t know why it’s hard to believe & accept that she is not around or she isn’t alive anymore.

I will say only one thing

I love my wife more than my life

Every single day one question comes in my mind,

“Why actually I am alive??”

[Thor]

I feel really sad about u brother.
But the truth is things have happened and it’s impossible to change the reality now. I know the grief is really huge, but somehow we have to live with it. I don’t even know what to advice you. I would just say, take care of yourself. Try to consult therapist if thoughts are too much to handle.
God bless

[Adioz]

@Thor

Try to consult therapist if thoughts are too much to handle.

Thoughts are too much when I am in my room and other times it’s like mood swings whenever something reminds me of her I started thinking about her/ crying. I think it’s not heavy - moderation thoughts.
I will take care of myself. I actually need job right now once I will get I will be fine. My mind will be diverted

[Forerunner]

We all wish we had some words to offer you comfort at this time brother. I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain. Please stay strong.

[Adioz]

Brother @Forerunner you’re always like my big brother. Atleast if your support will be there I will be fine soon.

Advices matters alot.
But Not from immature people.

your words means alot to me.

[Adioz]

Slowly memories fading away… But moment I spent with her nobody can remove from my heart.

Somebody said this correct that
“We always remember how others made us feel, but no one remembers the good things we did.”

I do cry everyday whenever I get the glimpse of her all moments and whenever I feel alone at home… Even though I am making myself super busy but still I can’t deny that her memories made me cry.

I feel lonely at home, Her presence I always missed. The connection we had… between two, I miss that alot, her touch, how comfortable I feel around her, in her arms.

Whenever somebody’s at home laughing I feel suprised like just few days ago she passed away and you’re laughing and how this change came in your life?? Don’t you miss her ?

[Adioz]

I read the Bhagwatgita
one श्लोक(shloka) today & I liked it

अध्याय २(Chapter 2)
श्लोक ५८ (Shloka)58)

"यदा संहरते चायं कूर्मोऽङ्गानीव सर्वशः।

इन्द्रियाणीन्द्रियार्थेभ्यस्तस्य प्रज्ञा प्रतिष्ठिता"।।

कछुवा सब ओरसे अपने अंगों को जैसे समेट लेता है, वैसे ही जब यह पुरुष इन्द्रियों के विषयों से इन्द्रियोंको सब प्रकारसे हटा लेता है, तब उसकी बुद्धि स्थिर है (ऐसा समझना चाहिये) ॥५८॥

In this verse, Shri Krishna uses the simile of a tortoise (kūrmaḥ) to teach control over the senses. Just as a tortoise withdraws its limbs into its shell to protect itself from danger, a yogi or spiritually wise person learns to withdraw their senses from objects of temptation or distraction.

This doesn’t mean suppressing desires with force, but rather attaining inner mastery so that senses naturally turn inward, guided by wisdom.
Such a state reflects sthita-prajñā — steady, unwavering wisdom, a central theme in this section of the Gita.

Psychological and Practical Application of Bhagavad Gita 2.58:

1. Self-control is Strength:
   Shri Krishna uses the metaphor of a tortoise to show how true wisdom comes from controlling your senses—not by force, but by natural discipline.
   Just as a tortoise withdraws its limbs for safety, a wise person knows when to close off the senses and avoid temptation, distraction, or emotional swings.

2. Awareness of Triggers:
   Life presents us with many attractive things—food, gadgets, entertainment, gossip, anger, etc. This verse teaches us to become aware of what pulls our senses outward and, like the tortoise, to “withdraw” at the right moment.

3. Wisdom in Action:
   Instead of reacting impulsively, you pause, reflect, and choose wisely.
   For example, if you get angry, you don’t immediately shout; you draw your mind inward, think calmly, and act maturely.
   This is practicing “sthita-prajna”—steady intellect.

4. Building Inner Peace:
   When you practice drawing the senses inward, you become less disturbed by outside events.
   This is not “suppression”—you recognize desires but don’t let them control you. You gradually build focus and stability.

5. Daily Life Implementation:
   Mindful eating: Eat only what’s good for your body, not just what tastes good.
   Digital discipline: Take breaks from mobile/social media—don’t respond to every notification.
   Calm conversations: Don’t let arguments or harsh words control your emotions.
   Time management: Prioritize important work over temporary distractions

[Adioz]

Few shloka I find useful in my situation. I think this will help me future also.
Let’s start---------------------------->

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.20
न जायते म्रियते वा कदाचि-न्नायं भूत्वा भविता वा न भूयः ।
अजो नित्यः शाश्वतोऽयं पुराणो-न हन्यते हन्यमाने शरीरे ॥

यह आत्मा न तो कभी जन्म लेती है, न कभी मरती है। यह न तो पहले कभी उत्पन्न हुई थी, न भविष्य में उत्पन्न होगी। यह अजन्मा, नित्य, शाश्वत और पुरातन है। शरीर के नाश होने पर भी इसका नाश नहीं होता।

The soul is never born, nor does it ever die. It has neither come into being in the past, nor will it come into being in the future. It is unborn, eternal, everlasting, and ancient. Even when the body is destroyed, it is not destroyed.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.11
श्रीभगवानुवाच
अशोच्यानन्वशोचस्त्वं प्रज्ञावादांश्च भाषसे ।
गतासूनगतासूंश्च नानुशोचन्ति पण्डिताः ॥ २-११ ॥

श्री भगवान ने कहा:

तुम उन लोगों के लिए शोक कर रहे हो जिनके लिए शोक करना उचित नहीं है, फिर भी तुम बुद्धिमानी की बातें बोल रहे हो। विद्वान न तो जीवित प्राणियों के लिए, न ही मृतों के लिए शोक करते हैं।

The Supreme Lord said:

You are grieving for those who are not worthy of grief, yet you speak words of wisdom. The wise neither grieve for the living nor for the dead.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.27
जातस्य हि ध्रुवो मृत्युर्ध्रुवं जन्म मृतस्य च ।
तस्मादपरिहार्येऽर्थे न त्वं शोचितुमर्हसि ॥ २७ ॥

जिसने जन्म लिया है उसकी मृत्यु निश्चित है और मृत्यु के पश्चात् पुनर्जन्म भी अवश्यंभावी है। अतः तुम्हें अपरिहार्य के लिए शोक नहीं करना चाहिए।

For one who has taken birth, death is certain; and for one who is dead, birth is certain. Therefore, you should not lament over the inevitable.

Explanation:

This verse emphasizes the natural and unavoidable cycle of birth and death. It teaches that since death is certain for the living and birth is certain for the dead (due to reincarnation), it is futile to grieve over these inevitable facts. The teaching encourages acceptance of this eternal cycle and advises against unnecessary sorrow over what cannot be changed.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.55
श्रीभगवानुवाच
प्रजहाति यदा कामान् सर्वान्पार्थ मनोगतान् ।
आत्मन्येवात्मना तुष्टः स्थितप्रज्ञस्तदोच्यते ॥ ५५ ॥

श्री भगवान् ने कहा:
हे पार्थ! जब कोई मनुष्य मन में उत्पन्न सभी स्वार्थपूर्ण इच्छाओं का त्याग कर देता है और अपनी आत्मा से ही पूर्णतः संतुष्ट रहता है, तब उसे स्थितप्रज्ञ कहा जाता है।

The Supreme Lord said:

O Partha, when a person completely renounces all desires born of the mind’s wanderings and is fully satisfied within the self by the self, such a person is said to be of steady wisdom (sthita-prajna).

Explanation:

This verse describes the state of a person who has attained spiritual wisdom and inner stability. When one abandons all selfish desires that arise from the mind and finds complete contentment in the self alone—that is, self-realization and inner peace—that person is called “sthita-prajna,” meaning a person of steady intellect or steady wisdom. Such a person is not disturbed by external circumstances because their satisfaction comes from within, rooted in the eternal self.

This teaching encourages detachment from material cravings and urges one to realize the true self as the source of lasting contentment and peace.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.56
दुःखेष्वनुद्विग्नमनाः सुखेषु विगतस्पृहः ।
वीतरागभयक्रोधः स्थितधीर्मुनिरुच्यते ॥ ५६ ॥

जिस मनुष्य का मन दुःखों में विचलित नहीं होता, सुखों में जिसकी लालसा समाप्त हो चुकी है, जो राग, भय और क्रोध से रहित है, ऐसा स्थिरबुद्धि मुनि कहा जाता है।

One who is undisturbed in sorrow, free from desire in pleasure, and who has transcended attachment, fear, and anger — such a sage is said to be of steady wisdom.

Explanation:

This verse continues Krishna’s description of a sthita-prajña (person of steady wisdom). Such a person:

Remains calm in suffering, not shaken by hardships.

Is not greedy or craving when pleasures come, treating them as passing experiences.

Is free from emotional extremes like attachment (rāga), fear (bhaya), and anger (krodha).

It teaches the ideal of equanimity — maintaining inner stability regardless of life’s ups and downs.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.57
यः सर्वत्रानभिस्नेहस्तत्तत्प्राप्य शुभाशुभम् ।
नाभिनन्दति न द्वेष्टि तस्य प्रज्ञा प्रतिष्ठिता ॥ ५७ ॥

जो मनुष्य हर जगह आसक्ति रहित है, और जब उसे शुभ या अशुभ प्राप्त होता है तो न वह प्रसन्न होता है और न घृणा करता है — ऐसे व्यक्ति की बुद्धि स्थिर रहती है।

He who is free from attachment everywhere, and neither rejoices upon attaining what is pleasant nor hates upon encountering what is unpleasant — his wisdom is firmly established.

Explanation:

This verse describes another quality of a sthita-prajna (one of steady wisdom):

Such a person does not develop excessive attachment to people, objects, or situations.

They remain emotionally balanced in both favorable (pleasant) and unfavorable (unpleasant) circumstances.

Their inner peace depends on the Self (Atman), not on external gains or losses.

Krishna is teaching detachment here — not as cold indifference, but as inner stability, so that the ups and downs of life do not disturb one’s peace.

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Bhagavad Gita, 2.58
यदा संहरते चायं कूर्मोऽङ्गानीव सर्वशः ।
इन्द्रियाणीन्द्रियार्थेभ्यस्तस्य प्रज्ञा प्रतिष्ठिता ॥ ५८ ॥

जब मनुष्य, कछुए की तरह, अपने अंगों को चारों ओर से समेट लेता है — उसी प्रकार अपने इन्द्रियों को इन्द्रियों के विषयों से हटा लेता है — तब उसकी बुद्धि स्थिर कही जाती है।

When, like a tortoise that withdraws its limbs from all directions, a person withdraws the senses from sense objects, his wisdom is firmly established.

Explanation:-

Krishna here uses the tortoise analogy to explain self-control:

A tortoise can extend its limbs when needed but withdraws them for safety.

Similarly, a wise person withdraws their senses from external temptations and distractions whenever necessary to protect inner peace and stability.

This is a key trait of a sthita-prajna — they engage with the world consciously, not impulsively.

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[Adioz]

[The_integrous_one]

I hope you are doing fine bro and I pray to God to give you the strength to deal with your circumstances

[Adioz]

1. True happiness is found within

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 5, Verse 24

योऽन्तःसुखोऽन्तरारामस्तथान्तर्ज्योतिरेव यः ।
स योगी ब्रह्मनिर्वाणं ब्रह्मभूतोऽधिगच्छति ॥ २४ ॥

Meaning:
“The one who finds happiness within, rejoices within, and whose light shines from within — that yogi attains union with the Supreme (Brahman) and becomes one with Him.”

Interpretation:
Krishna teaches that real peace and joy do not come from the outer world — from possessions, people, or achievements. These are temporary and changing. True happiness (sukha) is inner, born of connection to the divine Self (Atman).
When you feel empty, Krishna says: turn inward. Meditate, reflect, and connect with the quiet presence inside — that is where the permanent joy lies.

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2. The world gives temporary pleasure

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 5, Verse 22

ये हि संस्पर्शजा भोगा दुःखयोनय एव ते ।
आद्यन्तवन्तः कौन्तेय न तेषु रमते बुधः ॥ २२ ॥

Meaning:
“The pleasures that arise from contact with the senses are sources of sorrow, O son of Kunti, for they have a beginning and an end. The wise do not delight in them.”

Interpretation:
External pleasures — through material gain, relationships, or achievements — give momentary happiness but soon fade, leading to dissatisfaction.
Krishna tells us: the wise person does not depend on externals for joy. Instead, they cultivate inner contentment through self-awareness and devotion.

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3. Equanimity in all situations

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 2, Verse 15

यं हि न व्यथयन्त्येते पुरुषं पुरुषर्षभ ।
समदुःखसुखं धीरं सोऽमृतत्वाय कल्पते ॥ १५ ॥

Meaning:
“O best among men (Arjuna), the person who is not disturbed by happiness and distress, and remains steady in both, becomes eligible for liberation (immortality).”

Interpretation:
Krishna reminds us that emotions like sadness and happiness are transient waves.
The wise person (dhīraḥ) observes them without being shaken. This steady awareness — not suppression, but witnessing — leads to inner freedom.
When you feel sad, remember: this too shall pass, and peace is your true nature beneath the waves.

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4. Surrender and trust in Krishna

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 18, Verse 66

सर्वधर्मान्परित्यज्य मामेकं शरणं व्रज ।
अहं त्वां सर्वपापेभ्यो मोक्षयिष्यामि मा शुचः ॥ ६६ ॥

Meaning:
“Abandon all varieties of duties and surrender unto Me alone. I shall liberate you from all sins; do not grieve.”

Interpretation:
When the mind feels lost, heavy, or alone, Krishna’s invitation is simple: Surrender your burden.
Let go of control and trust in divine guidance. This surrender brings release from inner turmoil and leads to peace.

[Adioz]

Honestly speaking… yeah, I accept that… I sometimes feel jealous when somebody is of my class getting better package and I am at very low no growth at all. Sometimes I feel sad… For that only

I read Bhagavad Gita and I found these…
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1. The nature of a peaceful person — free from envy

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 12, Verse 13

अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां मैत्रः करुण एव च ।
निर्ममो निरहङ्कारः समदुःखसुखः क्षमी ॥ १३ ॥

Meaning:
“He who has no hatred towards any being, who is friendly and compassionate, free from attachment and ego, balanced in pleasure and pain, and forgiving — such a devotee is very dear to Me.”

Interpretation:
Krishna says that a true devotee or peaceful person has no envy or hatred (adveṣṭā).
They feel friendship and compassion (maitraḥ, karuṇa) toward others’ success, not jealousy.
Jealousy arises from the false sense of “I” and “mine” — when we compare. But when you realize that everyone’s path is divinely guided, jealousy melts into compassion and inspiration.

When you feel jealousy, remember:

“The same Krishna who gives them happiness is also guiding me — my time will come.”

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2. Desire and comparison lead to downfall

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 2, Verse 62–63

ध्यायतो विषयान्पुंसः सङ्गस्तेषूपजायते ।
सङ्गात् संजायते कामः कामात्क्रोधोऽभिजायते ॥ ६२ ॥
क्रोधाद्भवति सम्मोहः सम्मोहात्स्मृतिविभ्रमः ।
स्मृतिभ्रंशाद् बुद्धिनाशो बुद्धिनाशात्प्रणश्यति ॥ ६३ ॥

Meaning:
“When a person constantly contemplates objects of the senses (what others have), attachment arises; from attachment comes desire; from desire, anger; from anger arises delusion, and from delusion, the destruction of memory and wisdom — leading to one’s downfall.”

Interpretation:
When you keep thinking, “They have what I don’t,” the mind becomes restless.
That comparison turns into desire (kāma), then frustration (krodha), and finally confusion (moha).
Krishna warns that this mental chain destroys inner peace and focus — the very things needed for real progress.

Lesson: The way out is to focus not on others’ path, but on your own dharma (duty).

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3. Focus on your own path

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 3, Verse 35

श्रेयान् स्वधर्मो विगुणः परधर्मात्स्वनुष्ठितात् ।
स्वधर्मे निधनं श्रेयः परधर्मो भयावहः ॥ ३५ ॥

Meaning:
“It is better to perform one’s own duty, even imperfectly, than to perform another’s duty perfectly. It is better to die performing one’s own dharma; another’s dharma brings fear and confusion.”

Interpretation:
Krishna says:

Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s.
Even if others seem ahead, your own path — however small or slow — is sacred.
Progress is not about speed, but sincerity and alignment with your dharma.

When jealousy arises, remind yourself:
“I have my own path, my own timing, and my own lessons.”

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4. A wise person is free from envy

Bhagavad Gita — Chapter 5, Verse 3

ज्ञेयः स नित्यसंन्यासी यो न द्वेष्टि न काङ्क्षति ।
निर्द्वन्द्वो हि महाबाहो सुखं बन्धात्प्रमुच्यते ॥ ३ ॥

Meaning:
“One who neither hates nor desires, who is free from dualities, is to be known as a true renunciate. Such a person, free from bondage, easily attains peace.”

Interpretation:
The root of jealousy is desire and hatred — wanting what others have, and resenting it.
Krishna calls such mental states bondage (bandha).
Freedom and happiness (sukham) come when you drop these comparisons and accept the present moment with equanimity.

[debellator]

how are you feeling these days brother? hope you are doing better