At what age did you realize you weren’t the only girl/woman struggling with pmo?
I found out at 17, after struggling in silence for 9 years.
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Hi,
I’m Ejuile, I created this topic so that girls/women within this community could have a space where we could talk about our struggles, see and share relatable experiences and create a safe spot for ourselves.
I look forward to meeting you all 
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So far, there haven’t been any interactions on this topic, and I don’t want to give up on this page.
Struggling with PMO as a woman was a lonely experience for me, and there wasn’t much access to communities of women who could relate to my struggle. I didn’t have that support, but I would love for others to have a safe, accessible, and free space.
Anyway, I introduced myself earlier, but I’d like to reintroduce myself. I’m Ejuile, from Nigeria. I was exposed to ■■■■ at the age of 8, and I struggled with this addiction for almost 16 years before finding freedom in Christ at the age of 24.
It’s been 947 days since my last relapse, and I would love to share my journey to freedom with you. I’d also love to hear from anyone who’s willing to share their story too. I hope whatever is shared here will remind you all, including myself, that we’re not alone in this struggle and that freedom is possible.
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Hello sister, you surely will inspire many people here and yeah 947 days streak shows your crazy self control and discipline. Congratulations for your streak 
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And @BelieverinAllah is also a girl , sis @ejuile ! All the best to both of you! And always remember all the brothers here are always here to support you !
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Hats off🙌…what a determination!
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Thank you @Sholtro_Tenjerrot, I really appreciate that😁
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Thank you @The_Beast_prospect 
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I will be a thousand days without pmo today and I decided to reflect on the time when I struggled and I realized setting boundaries, being disciplined, having an accountability partner, and doing a bunch of stuff are all helpful but these things don’t set you free, they help with the process and sometimes give momentary freedom but if you find freedom in Christ, my dear you would be truly free.
Growing up I tried a bunch of stuff to stop and amazingly praying and reading my Bible was one of them but that didn’t work for me then one day I got frustrated and told God I was doing all the right stuff, why am I still struggling and God told me the problem wasn’t what I was doing but rather why I was doing it, why I wanted to be free and in that moment, I realized I wanted to be free not because ■■■■ was a bad or the fact it hurts people and even hurts me, no I wanted to be a “good person”, a supposedly"righteous person", a “perfect person” and if i had found freedom with this mindset, I would have being filled with a lot of pride and and would have become a huge fool without any compassion.
Anyways, the day I found freedom was the moment I took my eyes off myself and decided to know my creator. I began to learn about God through the Bible and Jackie Hill Perry’s book Holier than thou really helped at that point and as I began to learn about God, you wouldn’t believe what happened, I found what I was looking for in ■■■■, I found God had what I wanted all along and ■■■■ was just a counterfeit. I was looking for a safe space and I found my safe space in Christ.
Anyways setting boundaries, being disciplined, having an accountability partner, and a bunch of other things still came in handy, but they didn’t make me free, they are just tools, they aren’t the way, Jesus is the way to freedom.
I wish I could say more but I have already said a lot but you can find freedom too Christ is the way and if you have been hurt by any Christian or even any religion it’s understandable, I have been hurt too, we’re imperfect humans but please I urge you to give Jesus a chance, if the sons sets you free, you’re truly free, I am a living proof of that.
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Congratulations @ejuile, for making it 1,000 days may God bless you with more days. You are an inspiration for me to keep going.
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Congratulations @ejuile for making it to 1k days. God is good 
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Thats nice to read… Someone wants to share and is trying to encourage others…
1000 days means a lot…!!
You are a real champ…!!!
I’m a boy still struggling with this addiction …
If u are comfortable … Can u share how did u got addicted…??
I want to have knowledge so i may know so i may help my sis/wife in future …
Or any female friend stuck in that
I got to know about this shit was after age of 14,15
8 or 9 years is much younger in my mind
Can u share some details…
How did u find that stuff exactly and what was the reason and then what u did like an adult would go for sx or masturbtion
But a 8,9 year would do what?
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Amen, thank you @Prayer_Warrior , God bless you
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Thank you @Faith_Warrior , God bless you
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- PLEASE DON’T READ IF YOU GET TRIGGERED BY CERTAIN WORDS, THANK YOU*
Hello @Alinofapper, thank you and yes I wouldn’t mind sharing some details.
Yes, an 8 year old getting into this is quite young but as time goes on, children younger than this are getting exposed to ■■■■. It’s really disheartening.
Anyways, when people think about ■■■■, what comes to mind are ■■■■ sites, some magazines,…but anything that explicitly shows sexual activities can be referred to as ■■■■. So when I was 8, I came across a music video that was very inappropriate and at first I was shocked at what I saw but I ended up masturbating and I felt relieved, I didn’t realize I was carrying so much weight at that age ( I was struggling with rejection, so I felt like i found a good thing, s supposedly safe space to relieve my pain of not being loved).
At that age I didn’t even know what I was doing, I didn’t know it was referred to as masturbation until I turned 12. I depended on music videos, movies, and novels for “sexual content” it wasn’t until I was 11 or 12 that I had access to ■■■■ sites.
This went on for years and I tried to stop like I mentioned in my last post but nothing worked until I took my eyes off myself and I found Christ. I had my last relapse on a Saturday and I had to go to church the next day, I felt like a dirty rag, I felt I wasn’t meant to be among God’s people, I was going to give up but that Sunday, the pastor made sure we prayed, so I just prayed and cried a lot.
When I went home, I decided to try again. I picked up the book I mentioned earlier “holier than thou” and I foolishly picked up this book thinking it would teach me how to be holy😂 but it showed me what it meant by God is holy. Everyday I would read a chapter and learn something new about God, it was during this time I realized I didn’t actually believe in God, I didn’t believe He loved me, didn’t believe He was a safe space for me, so in that moment I decided to take a leap of faith and believe that God loves me and He wouldn’t hurt me ( at this point it had nothing to do with the addiction, it was just about me trusting my creator).
When I took that leap of faith to believe God is my safe space not ■■■■, all I had to do every time I felt the urge to go back to ■■■■ was choose God and be honest with Him and He helped me all the way. When I feel the urge to give in, I would tell God I missed ■■■■ and I feel like going back but I choose Him as my safe space and He would help me and the urge would go away and most times I would pray Bible verses like romans 6:5-14 were my go to verses during the early days.
Anyways, I wish I could say more but this is a lot already. What I would say is everybody’s struggle is different and there isn’t necessarily a formula for anyone to get free but there’s one person who can free anyone and that’s Jesus, He is the way, the truth and the life and I pray everyone reading this would be able to find freedom in whatever unique journey God has planned for you in Jesus name Amen.
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Oh…
Feeling so sorry for u at that age of feeling not being loved
I can understand that at that younger age u can be distracted by music videos too…
But was it your own mind that u masturbated…
Or u have seen something like that already?
Or parents doing adult.thing??
And do u get orgasm at that younger age?
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Thank you.
Unfortunately I can’t answer most of these questions, it’s been a long time so I can’t remember a lot of things. But I don’t think I saw anyone doing any “adult things”
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Ok no issue…
But your struggle is something nice…!!!
Keeping yourself away from these bad things for 1,000+ days is not a piece of cake
Can u remember… How much were u addict of these things…
Like if i talk about us
There are boys doing this shit daily or more than once daily…
Then , comes a group doing it 2 to 3 times in a week
And some are doing it after a week or 10 12 days…
So for a person doing after 10 days is easier than doing twice or thrice daily
Then, there is also a point about watching bad stuff
Like some are always masturbating after watching that…
And some are watching daily
But not doing masturbation after watching it daily
Like they will watch every night but will masturbate after 2 or 3 nights or some have more control…
So how much addicted were you in your last period of addiction …??
If u remember can u explain that…?
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Yess 1000 days is a lot but God helped me through.
Okayyyyy, I never watched ■■■■ daily, watching it was always accompanied with masturbation so I guess everyone’s struggles is different. During my last days I couldn’t go a week without having a relapse, it was usually a four days gap.
I would feel really guilty after a relapse and when I finally accept the fact I have been forgiven and actually forgive myself, I end up having another relapse (most times, all of these happens within four days), it was a horrible cycle.
I hope this helps
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U were an addict…
4 days means u were although not that much addicted like daily ones…
But still it was addiction …!!!
U r a real champ…!!
Living in such a cycle feels very bad…
Your condition is almost same like me…
And u r a motivation for many like me…
I am in a cycle of sometimes 3 or 4 days
And sometimes like a week or so
And in a chaser effect
I feel like going for daily ejaculation for 2 or 3 days…!!!
But i’m now trying to quit too…
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If u don’t mind…
Was your mind addicted of some special kind of stuff…
Or u r just going to open any site and see whatever is there??
Or any specific categories ??
Or any special search to watch special that kind of ■■■■ …??
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